Time Out Punishment is Child Abuse

Time out is child abuse; it basically says we don't want you when you are bad. A spanking says, We want you to behave properly because we love you, and because we love you, we want you to be with us.

 
Using isolation to manipulate feelings and compliance is mean; it is better to bring compliance through spanking and allow the child to continue with the family than to send the message "we don't want you around us."

 
I have also noticed that time-out promotes the "silent treatment" mentality in those who have been trained by it. It causes people to isolate others rather than discuss and punish to modify behavior problems.

 
Hebrews 12:5-7 "…5And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not take lightly the discipline of the Lord, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you. 6For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises every son He receives.” 7Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?…"

Discipline restores relationships, banishment excludes and isolates leaving emotional scars rather than restoring relationships.

 
Proverbs 23:13-14
"13 Do not withhold discipline from a child;
Though you strike him with the rod, he will not die.
14 You shall strike him with the rod
And rescue his soul from hell."

The idea of "time out" is not Biblical and comes from psychology.

 
Proverbs 3:11-12
"My son, do not reject the discipline of the LORD, and do not loathe His rebuke; for the LORD disciplines the one He loves, as does a father the son in whom he delights."

Those who resent discipline, fighting to justify their sin and reject correction, will remain spiritual and emotional babies. Pride drives those who refuse to admit their flaws; a person cannot change and grow if they will not admit their deficiencies.
1 John 1:9-10 "…9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say we have not sinned, we make Him out to be a liar, and His word is not in us."

This passage was written to believers; those who think they never sin after salvation are walking in pride.

 
Proverbs 20:9 "Who can say, 'I have kept my heart pure; I am cleansed from my sin”?

Ecclesiastes 7:20 "Surely there is no righteous man on earth who does good and never sins.

 
If we are believers, we ought to be growing in holiness all the time. When someone believes they do not sin after salvation, they will become lazy about their character, missing things that need correction, because the focus is on how perfectly they are doing things in their own flesh.

It needs to be the Holy Spirit changing us as we ask Him to reveal to us our flaws that we might confess to be cleansed. Nothing can be fixed if there is denial that anything is wrong.

 
1 John 1:9
"9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

Those who will not confess their sins and flaws will not be cleansed. The longer someone avoids confessing, the harder the heart is hardened to self-improvement. This hardening also diminishes relationships, not only with God but with people, too.

 
Psalm 66:18
"18 If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me:"