Narcissists are Bullies

Narcissists are bullies! They love to dominate those they think are weak. To the narcissist it is weakness to cry, feel empathy or freely engage in conversation to resolve a matter.

The narcissist doesn't like politeness, because to be polite we must allow others to be the center of attention. When we are mannerly and have empathy, we are expressing that someone else comes before us, this is intolerable to the narcissist.

Narcissists show contempt for those they cannot dominate and manipulate, they will often run away, use the silent treatment, mock and demean others to appear superior. Their favorite target of hatred is anyone who will do not elevate them or bow to their desires.

Amusingly enough, the narcissist is angry when we don't live our own lives the way the narcissist thinks we should. In a relationship with a narcissist we will not be accepted unless we look like them, act like them and fawn all over them.

For the narcissist we exist to be mirrors of them, making them look good. If we dare to be ourselves, do as we see fit and make our own decisions, we become targets of the narcissist.

As believers in Christ we are accountable to one another, but not as a form of devious control, using intimidation to accomplish this. We lovingly warn, we seek God for truth and share with one another as brothers and sisters who care deeply for each other.

When we love Christ our goal is always to bless others by deferring to them when appropriate, allowing others to have their own opinions even if we don't agree.

Two deeply committed Christians will disagree and still treat one another with honor and respect. Narcissists cannot do that, they must win in conversation, they see every encounter as a competition, rather than two people seeking the truth.

John 12:34-35 "34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. 35 By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”