In another post about falling in love and affairs that are not God honoring, there was mention of the feelings involved, here was my take on this matter.
We can stop feelings for the wrong person by praying and reading the word. Most "in love" experiences are based on physical attraction or attention given, those feelings leave when we realize they are inappropriate.
There was a time many years ago, before my husband became born again, when I felt I had "fallen out of love" with him because of the way he was acting. I was born again then and he was not so there was a continual anger toward me because of my new found faith.
When I went to the Lord about it, He focused me on my duty to treat my husband with love no matter how I felt. As I began to treat him in loving ways, the feelings returned. But the act of love came first before the feelings.
When we are determined to live for Christ no matter what, we can develop feelings of love as we act in loving ways. So many people make the mistake of depending on their feelings to sustain them, but there is no way feelings can remain positive, the hard stuff comes and the feelings go, but the act of love can continue anyway.
When we act in loving ways toward others, we will not have to regret how we treated someone else, even if they do not honor and love us. We don't have to keep consistently unkind people in our lives, unless they are spouses, but when we encounter them, we can do our part and leave them to the Lord.
Many marriage problems are diminished if one party is not fighting while continuing their resolve to act Christlike no matter the response of the other party.
Luke 6:27-28 "27 But to those of you who will listen, I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. "
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