Avoid Such People

Narcissists have fears that they will be condemned by others because they condemn others regularly and think everyone is like them.

Seek the Holy Spirit for truth and you will not being sucked into the manipulation and intimidation of the narcissist.

God described these people in 2 Timothy 3:1-5. This was His warning about what to expect in these end times when all that has been prophesied is coming to fruition.

We are living in ugly and dangerous times getting worse every day. We are going to encounter more of these people than ever before. When we can keep our calm and carry on, ignoring the evil people who want to destroy our walk with God, then we have learned to walk according to the Holy Spirit.

The narcissist wants us to become angry because they are angry. They want us to be the blame for their anger. This is the reason they poke at us to cause frustration, hoping we will blow up so they can say; "see how you are." This has happened to me a number of times in my life.

2 Timothy 3:1-5
“Difficult Times Will Come”
"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these."

Galatians 5:16-18
16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh. 17 For the flesh [a]sets its desire against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; for these are in opposition to one another, so that you may not do the things that you [b]please. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the Law.

The narcissist requires that we think like them to be respected by them. If we show that we think our own thoughts and make our own decisions the narcissist will have contempt for us, even showing disrespect for us as though we were evil for not being like them.

"Going Gray Rock" is a good idea in dealing with a narcissist. Simply do not become flustered or show any emotion around them. Ignoring them is the best policy when they have one of their tantrums. If we can remember they are nothing more than little bratty children in a grown up body, we don't have to take anything they say or do seriously.

God warns us about them because He wants us to recognize them to be able to avoid them. When we have to be around them at all then the best course of action is to completely ignore them as if they are not in the room. Any answer at all is food for them to further abuse and even make us look silly to onlookers. It is best to allow the onlookers to see only the actions of the narcissist. Of course if the narcissist is popular and surrounded by flying monkeys, the flying monkeys will think the narcissist had a good reason.

Its quite a strange phenomena, when the narcissist acts badly in front of people and the target simply deals with it, the onlookers only seem to notice the reactions of the target. Its almost as though the groupies in the room only see the narcissist as having a reason for acting badly because they were so bombastic.

Very few people have the ability to think critically about something that happens so quickly without warning and off the wall. They only see the reactions of the target to the narcissist, making the narcissist look like the offended one.

If at all possible obey the Word of God that says in 2 Timothy 3 verse 5, "avoid such people as these."