When we bail irresponsible unrepentant people out of difficulty we enable them to continue in that vein, and we also don't allow life to teach them. The same thing is true for forgiving someone who is not sorry. Any time we remove consequences we erase the good lessons that could have been learned.
James 1:2-13
"2 Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials,
3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance.
4 And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
5 But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
6 But he must ask in faith without any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For that man ought not to expect that he will receive anything from the Lord,
8 being a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.
9 But the brother of humble circumstances is to glory in his high position;
10 and the rich man is to glory in his humiliation, because like flowering grass he will pass away.
11 For the sun rises with a scorching wind and withers the grass; and its flower falls off and the beauty of its appearance is destroyed; so too the rich man in the midst of his pursuits will fade away.
12 Blessed is a man who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.
13 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, and He Himself does not tempt anyone."
If we love others we help them to help themselves. We do not pass out money when someone has neglected to pay their bills to be able to buy toys. If we love someone we allow them to fail when the problem was because of their own foolishness.
As someone once said, "give a man a fish and he eats for a day, teach him to fish and he eats for a lifetime."
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