When someone attempts to come back into your life, after years of disrespect and dishonor, without any sense of remorse for what they have done, then there is no reason to expect their behavior or attitude to change merely because time has passed.
There is such a thing as the "sweet/mean" cycle, in which the bully will schmooze you with flattery when they want something out of you. As soon as they have sucked you into their scheme they will allow the old unrepentant attitude and disrespect to emerge once again.
It is important to remember that God commanded repentance ( a change of mind) toward the offense because it is the way we can know the bully was sorry for their crimes and will not repeat the same things again.
There is no reason to trust someone who has deeply offended when they act as though the offense never happened.
There are those who know they have acted badly toward you but think if enough time has passed you will begin to trust them again.
God tells us to remove ourselves from those who are not sorry they have offended and who do not show any movement toward changing how they view us or how they treat us.
Psalm 31:18
"Let the lying lips be mute,
Which speak arrogantly against the righteous
With pride and contempt."
Philippians 2:3
"Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself."
2 Timothy 3:5 "from such turn away", you can read the entire passage on your own, as you discover that light has no fellowship with darkness. When the darkness wants to remain dark without confession of offenses then there is nothing to do but remove ourselves.
Many the Lord teach us to love bullies from afar through prayer.
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