Judging Righteously is Different From Judging to Elevate Self

Sometimes Christians think they are being righteous by evaluating everything about the lives of others. They see one thing someone said or did, they don't like it and judge it as a sin.

These people don't see the whole matter, they only have a small piece of the puzzle in someone's life and yet they enjoy judging to make themselves superior.

Did you know this kind of judging is a sin? We are not responsible to judge every small matter in a person's life, but narcissists love to do this to elevate themselves.

If they can judge someone as more of a sinner than themselves they can feel a sense of being stable. Narcissists can never feel secure within themselves unless they are making sure others are less than them.

When we encounter those who want to judge our lives with little to no evidence of their desired belief about us we are watching the devil work his wiles to destroy relationships.

Notice I said, "their desired belief about us", this is important because those who hold others in contempt who do not fall in line with them, have an idea of us they want to believe but is not true.

Unless the narcissist repents of their false judging there is no possibility of a relationship with them. Everything will be a competition, they are not teachable, nor do they wish to clarify matters to clean up messes that they make through their attitudes.

The Bible calls these personalities "fools."

Proverbs 18:2

"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."

We want to be people who look at the truth and make no judgments without plenty of evidence and witnesses.

Most of the time there is no need to judge others, we can accept quirks and flaws as we love people. Those who remember their own flaws and quirks do not judge anyone else over these things. Perhaps the narcisisst judges others to avoid looking at themselves. They will not admit to anything that needs work in themselves.

1 Corinthians 11:30-32 30 “That is why many among you are weak and sick, and a number of you have fallen asleep. 31 Now if we judged ourselves properly, we would not come under judgment. 32 But when we are judged by the Lord, we are being disciplined so that we will not be condemned with the world.…”