Adultery in the Heart and Adultery after Divorce

“A man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself” Proverbs 6:32

Why does a man who commits adultery destroy Himself? Because God made he and his wife one, if he destroys her, he destroys himself, they are one and the same.

Ephesians 5:28-30 "…28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 Indeed, no one ever hated his own body, but he nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church. 30 For we are members of His body.…"

Did you know when you speak your vows to someone God makes you and your new spouse ONE?! This applies to unbelievers too, God did not make separate rules for believers and non-believers, we are all held to the same standard.

Matthew 19:6

"6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no person is to separate.”

Marriage is a work of God, no two people make themselves one, only God can do that. Its a spiritual union that God made. Perhaps a "spiritual glue" that no man can undo.

This is why some people years ago used to say; "when two remarried people get into bed together there are four people in the bed. "

God calls remarriage adultery, it remains adultery until the adulterous couple separates.

Luke 16:17-18 "17 But it is easier for heaven and earth to pass away than for a single stroke of a pen to drop out of the Law. 18 Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and he who marries a divorced woman commits adultery."

God also says this: Mark 10:7-9 "…7‘ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”…"

If someone divorces God commands this;

1 Corinthians 7:10-11 "To the married, I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11

But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife."

God tells those who have divorced to remain alone because they are still spiritually connected to the one they made their vows. That spiritual glue cannot be melted away merely because of a decree by the law of the land. This vow is sealed until one of the spouses dies.

1 Corinthians 7:39 "39 A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, as long as he belongs to the Lord."

It's not hard to understand these things, it's just hard to believe because the culture we live in wants to accept any and all sin, excusing a sin because of difficulty or selfishness.

All you have to do in our age to see that this is true is speak these truths to your friends and family and suddenly you will find yourself alone without support and without love.

Many years ago a friend who remarried after a divorce told me she couldn't understand what had happened because she had so many prayers answered and God took care of her when her husband left and divorced her. But after she remarried the miracles and blessings dried up and she couldn't hear from God anymore.

I don't doubt that this Christian lady was saved but it does tell us that when we defy God and His Word He shuts us out and we miss blessings! She never put the two things together, getting remarried and no longer hearing from God.

As long as we remain in rebellion against God's principles He will go silent because we won't listen. This might be a good lesson for our adult children or friends who will not hear from God.

Proverbs 28:9

"9 If one turns away his ear from hearing the law,

even his prayer is an abomination."

Psalm 66:18-20

"18 If I regard wickedness in my heart,

The Lord will not hear;

19 But God has heard;

He has given attention to the sound of my prayer.

20 Blessed be God,

Who has not turned away my prayer

Nor His favor from me."

Many people regard a second marriage after divorce as a marriage, God says no, it is not a marriage it is adultery. But our culture will not receive this truth, the very reason there is spiritual deadness in our churches, as well as destroyed families and especially children, who are growing up angry and disoriented, without clear direction that would bring stability to their lives.

As a country our people have been calling "bad" good and "good" bad for so long now it is difficult to wrap their minds around the truth.

Isaiah 5:20 "

Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who substitute darkness for light and light for darkness; Who substitute bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!"

Does anyone really think God is going to turn a blind eye to all that is going on?