The Foolishness of the Narcissists Who Has no Filter

Manipulators are childish, selfish, and lazy.

It is not our responsibility to change them, if they see that they are not able to control us they move on.

There is nothing ungodly about moving on from people who do not love God and continually use manipulation to control others.

It is important that we not allow ourselves to become co-dependent to anyone. The only ONE Who we should be depending on is Jesus Christ. Everyone else we love and treat with respect but do not make friends with those who treat us disrespectfully and think it is alright to do it.

Proverbs 22:24-25 " 24 Do not make friends with an angry man, and do not associate with a hot-tempered man, 25 or you may learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.…"

Narcissists are continually angry people with not filter. They do not want to control themselves or be controlled by God. They enjoy their angst, their foolish pride and the trouble they cause others, it feeds their hungry sinful heart.

We must always treat narcissists with the respect that they didn't show us but this does not mean we have to be friends with them. It also does not mean that we change who we are around them out of fear of their rejection. If they choose to be rude and dismissive that's on them, we do not have to be like them. We do we have to allow them to influence us into becoming like them.

Romans 12:17-20

"Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all."

We can be at peace with everyone in our Spirit even if they are not at peace with us. Because our peace comes from the Holy Spirit not from circumstances or people.

Narcissists like nothing better than to cause us to become angry and respond sinfully so they can feel justified in their ill-treatment of us.

Luke 6:27-28 "27 But to those of you who will listen, I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. "

We do not have seek out rude people to be friendly to but we can love them God's way if we happen to come across them. This does not mean that we don't ever call them out for their behavior and we must be led by the Holy Spirit so that we do not violate the scripture that warns us not to throw our pearls before swine to be trampled on.

Matthew 7:6 "

“Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces."

There is a saying by a secular that has some Biblical merit; George Bernard Shaw said this; "never wrestle with a pig, you'll get dirty and besides the pig likes it."

Sometimes superficial Christians are more concerned about how they appear to others than they are about living out their life in truth with Christ. The mushy way Christians act these days is evidence of their self focus. God never called us to be "milk-toast", limp and lifeless as we allow others to walk all over us. He called us to be strong, loving and forthright no matter how others treat us.

Narcissists will chastise people out of jealousy for doing a good act. The purpose is to cause hurt feelings so that the target will stop doing good acts thinking there is something wrong with them.

All of these rotten and mean-spirited antics of the narcissists are driven by the influence of the devil. They think they have a good reason but it is the devil twisting their minds just the way he did Eve's in the garden. He managed to convince Eve that God did something bad by making a rule that protected them. He caused Eve to distrust God and defy Him.

In our day he is turning family members against one another over foolish and silly judgments about things that don't matter. He convinces weak-minded people to be angry at someone for doing something different from what they do even though what we do is not sin, its just personal taste or personality quirks.

Gossipers love to take some small insignificant matter and make a mountain out of it as though something stupid and terrible happened.

When this happens to us we can shrug our shoulders, giggle a little at the foolishness of it, and resist confronting the ones who play these childish games.

Proverbs 26:4-5

"4 Do not answer a fool according to his foolishness,

Or you will also be like him.

5 Answer a fool as his foolishness deserves,

So that he will not be wise in his own eyes."