Born Again or Pretender Ask God Which

For those who believe Christians become sinless after they have been transformed.

Our spirit is transformed, but we are trapped in this body of flesh that we fight against daily. Those who are not born again do not fight the flesh; they lean into it, enjoy it, and even defend their bad behavior.

I worry about the relationships

Hebrews 12:5-7 "…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not take lightly the discipline of the Lord, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises every son He receives.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?"

1 John 3:9 "No one who has been born of God practices sin, because His seed remains in him; and he cannot sin continually, because he has been born of God."

1 John 1:9 "9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

We grow in holiness in direct proportion to how much we confess. The Holy Spirit convicts us when we have sinned, even just a bad attitude so that we will ask to be cleansed of it.

There is no Spiritual growth without confessing our flaws and weaknesses to God for cleansing. This is why we see so many believers who walk fleshly without growing emotinoally or Spiritually.

1 Corinthians 3:15 "
If anyone’s work is burned up, he will suffer loss; but he himself will be saved, yet only so as through fire."

This is also the reason it is so hard these days to judge who may be saved and who is not.

Matthew 13:24-30 "The Parable of the Wheat and the Tares
24 Another parable He put forth to them, saying: “The kingdom of heaven is like a man who sowed good seed in his field;
25 but while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat and went his way.
26 But when the grain had sprouted and produced a crop, then the tares also appeared.
27 So the servants of the owner came and said to him, ‘Sir, did you not sow good seed in your field? How then does it have tares?’
28 He said to them, ‘An enemy has done this.’ The servants said to him, ‘Do you want us then to go and gather them up?’
29 But he said, ‘No, lest while you gather up the tares you also uproot the wheat with them.
30 Let both grow together until the harvest, and at the time of harvest I will say to the reapers, “First gather together the tares and bind them in bundles to burn them, but gather the wheat into my barn.”

We cannot always know who is saved and who is not but we can have questions because the behavior and words do not seem to match a heart that has been transformed by Christ. This is why it is valid and necessary to challenge people to ask God if they are saved, because the fruit is bad.

Luke 6:43-44 "No good tree bears bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit. / For each tree is known by its own fruit. Indeed, figs are not gathered from thornbushes, nor grapes from brambles."

There is every level of believer, some brand new, some many years old in the Lord, our heart is to challenge people to seek Christ, make sure they are saved, and pray for their salvation if the fruit is bad.