Let Them Go and Move On with Your Life

In another thread, I was watching a man speak of those who assumed that if a child cut off their parents, then the parents must have been bad parents.

Define "good parents" The best parents are the ones who tried to teach their children good things, but the culture made the children think their parents were bad for having standards and rules.

The parents who do not get cut off are often those who have no standards.

Adam and Eve, who only had one perfect parent, and that was God, defied Him. He is perfect, and yet His children defied Him. David, a man after God's own heart, has a child named Absalom who hated him.

The prodigal son demanded his inheritance so he could go live wickedly. He hated his father and yet nowhere in the scriptures does God say he was a bad parent.

To assume that children are right that their parents were bad enough to be entirely rejected by their children is a form of gossip. Unless you saw what went on daily in a household with the children, you cannot judge the parenting as bad.

Rebellious children will take innocent acts and even good teaching and call it bad. They are never satisfied with just hating their parents; they must punish them by keeping their grandchildren from them and even gossiping about them to turn others against them.

Often these rebellious children marry rebellious people who enjoy the estrangement of their spouse from their parents. They not only facilitate the angry mentality but also endorse it.

We are living in the 2 Timothy 3 times of every evil mentality possible in families.

2 Timothy 3:1-5 "Difficult Times Will Come
3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, 4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

Do not allow the rejection of your children to cause you to ruminate on the hate; get on with your life without them, knowing that their company was nothing but continual anger and retaliation for things you never did to them, but they wanted to believe you did.

Titus 3:9-10 "9 But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, arguments, and quarrels about the law, because these things are pointless and worthless. 10 Reject a divisive man after a first and second admonition, 11 knowing that such a man is corrupt and sinful; he is self-condemned."

To be overcome with grief over the loss of your children is to be co-dependent. You must move on and allow your children to do the same. If they come back repentant, then we can rejoice, but if they want to come back to cause more trouble, you must not allow it.