Let Them Go To Let God

Why are we so afraid to let our children go so that God can teach them His way?

Notice the father of one of the prodigal sons never chased after the son who left the household? He never looked for him, had no phone to call him, never wrote a letter to him or any other form of contact with him, he let him go.

What the Father did do was hope for his return and became excited when the son repented. The son had to wallow with the pigs to be broken over his sin before he could realize his need for the father.


For all those people who keep hanging onto, bailing out and pampering their rebellious adult children to keep them close, remember that you may be thwarting something wonderful God has for your children but you are standing in His way. If they haven't listened to you by now, perhaps the Lord can use others while bringing peace back into your home.

When our focus is on ourselves, the possibility of missing and grieving over a child who has left, we miss the bigger picture, bringing trials into our own lives that God never intended for us to have, simply because of the fear of loneliness and worse the judgment of others who don't understand.

When we focus on God, seek His will His way, we can be free from the judgments of unspiritual worldly people, bring peace to our lives and even help in the repentance of a wayward child by letting them go. Discipline can be very effective in helping a people learn to ask God to change their heart.

God has not called us to raise adult children, He has however mandated that adult children care for their aging parents when there is a need. Our culture is backward in this, the adult children now demand that their parents continue to take care of them, the opposite of God's plan.

When we do things God's way, we free ourselves from evil and stress caused by rebellion and go on to more fully serve God.

I have to say, I prefer to be alone with God and my thoughts much more than in a house full of rebellious people who fight against all that it truth. Give me God any day and I will have all I need.

Adult Children Need To Listen!

LOL, notice I don't worry about speaking my mind openly on facebook, none of our children are reading what I write, they don't even want to be friends with me on facebook because I am too bold for them, I am an embarrassment, or so it seems.

If my mother had written a lot of things, I would want to read everything she wrote. I found out that she had written a small booklet, I wanted to read it, she shared it with an aunt and a brother, but would not share it with me when I asked to read it. I wanted to know my mother's thoughts, I was interested, but in our generation our children are not interested in our thoughts, unless we completely validate their life, it's all about them. They like to know facts about a person's life as long as it does not include Biblical correction.

We don't have to take it personally, they aren't interested in God's thoughts either. They use the cherry picking method of Bible reading to justify what they want, rather than seeking God to know His heart, if they even ask God for truth or read their Bibles more than just in the church gathering.

When I was in Sunday School, we were taught that the Bible was God's love letter to us from our Father. If we were sent a letter from our Father that we had not seen in a long time, we would not place the unopened letter on the mantle and ignore it, we would quickly open it, pouring over every word to hear from our father. We might even read the letter over and over again to sense a closeness to him. This should be our response to our heavenly Father, He has sent us a letter containing all the wisdom of His own heart, and all we have to do is read it and ask Him for the understanding and He will answer. '

Our children's generation doesn't care about a letter from parents, it is treated lightly, even critically, but even more somber is the thought that our children demonstrate this same mentality toward God, lacking interest in His heart, His thoughts and His direction, embracing what they like in the letter from Him and throwing away what doesn't fit our culture or what doesn't make them feel prominent and special.

If our children ever became interested in what I write, I would probably pass out from the shock. If they are sneaking peeks, I have no evidence of that, some have blocked me. I have been told by two of them that they "don't respect" me, a tactic used to manipulate emotions, because I have confronted them about their sin. I suppose this is a narcissistic tactic to intimidate me into silence or feeling guilt for telling them the truth. Narcissists love the strategy of punishing their victims to control them. I guess they cannot control me so they isolate me from themselves. The only Person I ever want to be controlled by is Christ, everyone else will not be in control of me, nor do their maneuvers dictate my voice or actions. My desire is to please God, often this displeases man and causes rejection.

This mentality of the parent being equal with the child has caused them to treat us like any other person who irritates them, ignoring, deleting and even blocking us if they don't like what is being said. No matter what our parents did, we would never have spoken to them the way our children have spoken to us. We loved our parents with all their problems. Rather than being hateful and mean to them for their behavior or attitudes, we grieved that they would do things that dishonored God, we admitted to ourselves the truth about them and desired that they love us. There was no thought of "punishing" them or "teaching" them, it was total acceptance of their position as parents. Our job was to be loving and honoring children, we were not appointed to be their teachers or judges.

1 Timothy 5:1 "Do not sharply rebuke an older man, but rather appeal to him as a father, to the younger men as brothers,"

When we reflect on how we are being viewed and treated by adult children, remember that God created the entire universe, including the people in it. He gave His children all their needs, provided an amazing paradise for them to live out their eternity, never becoming tired when they worked hard, never becoming ill or sensing anything that is ugly or mean., and, what did they do? The original couple had God's love and total protection forever. They ignored His direction, lacking gratefulness, they wanted more than they had, they wanted to be like God, validated in their own right through their own glory. They were not satisfied with all the blessings of God, they had to have their own way, to be elevated in their own minds.

The teaching of self esteem has caused our children to think that the world revolves around them, desiring to be elevated in the eyes of others, they grapple for praise while disdaining correction and training. Their focus is on appearing wonderful and accomplished in whatever they do, rather than becoming holy and righteous.

They disdain the wisdom of their parents, while thinking they already have all the answers, they have no need of anyone else's counsel. Many have made a mess of their lives, when all they had to do was listen to those who have already lived long enough to know things they have not yet experience, but they are determined to go it alone to be able to take all the credit for wins while blaming others for their losses.

Rather than looking objectively at their lives, being honest about what they have done and admitting their failure to learn and go on to do better, they hold onto their pride with the tenacity of a barnacle on the bottom of a boat, progressing no further than superficial foolishness, they struggle, flounder and flop like dead fishes on the beach and think they are in control of their own lives, not realizing that they are going no where in a hurry.

2 Timothy 3:9 "But they will not make further progress; for their folly will be obvious to all, just as Jannes's and Jambres's folly was also."

I could never speak rudely or harshly to someone who is much older than I, no matter what their delivery, I was raised in a different generation that was taught not to speak disrespectfully to older people.

Isn't this what we see now when our children reject the mandates of God to honor their parents? Our children are no different from the original couple, they still want to be in charge of their own life, no matter what devastation it brings. They do not honor God nor do they care if they grow in holiness, it's all about appearances for the praise of men.

I have seen loving and respectful adult children who are humble, but in our day they are few. What a blessing when we encounter them, we can feel the love emanating from them as they interact respectfully and attentively. They know they have a lot to learn and appreciate an honest discussion that may cause growth in their lives.

Thank the Lord for the examples that we have had of the wise and mature adult children, if not for them, we might be tempted to believe the way things are right now are natural and normal.

2 Timothy 3:1-5 tells us what the end times will be like, knowing this helps us to endure things on this earth, they are not a surprise to us and we don't have to take them personally, the devil is working hard to twist the minds of those who have not submitted to Christ. They don't see clearly, they are blinded by their own desires.

"1 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, [a]haters of good, 4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of [b]godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these." 2 Timothy 3:1-5

May the Lord bless with His wisdom all those who want to grow in holiness, while convicting those who have not yet discovered how wonderful it is to walk with God in His ways. May those in bondage be freed from themselves through salvation in Christ Jesus.

Marriage Until Death!

When two people commit to one another in a covenant marriage, God makes them one and no man can undo that, it is a permanent union until death.

Mark 10:9 "9 What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

Our English versions of the Bible are not clear enough to help us, we have to go back to the original languages for the understanding.

In the book of Matthew many people say one can get a divorce for adultery, but that book was written to Jews who had the custom of a divorce certificate from the engagement, also called a betrothal, if the one of the parties had been unfaithful before the marriage. There was never any indication that one could divorce for adultery when there was a marriage. In the Jewish custom, the man and woman were called husband and wife even before they had been formally married or lived together.

Joseph said that he was going to "divorce Mary" because he thought she had been unfaithful, but instead decided to put her away quietly to spare her the cultural consequences for fornication. Joseph and Mary were not yet married, but they called one another husband and wife because the promise to marry was nearly as binding as the marriage in Jewish custom, except for unfaithfulness before the marriage.

Matthew 19:9 "And I say to you, whoever [a]divorces his wife, except for [b]immorality, and marries another woman [c]commits adultery.”

In the other three gospels, there is no such "exception clause" because those books were written to Gentiles who didn't have the custom of divorce for fornication in the betrothal or engagement period, so there was no need to address it.

This is why Christ said, if you divorce you are sinning, but if you do you must remain single. Why? Because according to Matthew, the only two options for a divorced person is to remain alone or be reconciled to the original covenant spouse.

Matthew 5:32 "But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication ( before marriage), causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery."

1 Corinthians 7:11 "(but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife."

Anyone who marries a divorced person is committing adultery and anyone who is divorced and remarries is committing adultery.

Our culture cannot wrap their minds around this because we have been free for so long to divorce, that our culture thinks it is a right and perfectly acceptable.

Marriage is a picture of the salvation experience. When God takes us as His bride it is permanent, we are sealed with His Holy Spirit. God never throws us away no matter what we do, even though He will discipline us for sin to cleanse us, we remain His bride until He takes us home.

When we see the picture of salvation and the marriage relationship in this way, we can never think of divorcing. God is faithful to us when we are not always faithful to Him. No one has been completely faithful in terms of adultery, since we have all had impure and selfish thoughts and our Lord told us that if we even so much as have a lustful thought, we have committed the sin of adultery. In the eyes of God our thought is the same as the act. The consequences are often bigger for the act than the thought, but the sin is the same.

2 Timothy 2:13 "If we believe not, yet he abideth faithful: he cannot deny himself."

The first marriage is sealed by God in a covenant relationship until one partner dies, any marriages after divorce are adultery. It is really very simple, but our culture is confused, through willful ignorance in most cases, because it has been taught for many years now that there are excuses to divorce. Not that long ago all church goers knew divorce and remarriage were sins, there was never any question about it. The churches have been teaching false doctrine on this and even practicing divorce and remarriage, to such an extent that leaders in the church are marrying divorced and remarried people while indulging in the sin themselves.

Also, in the original language, "commits adultery" means an ongoing state of adultery as long as the two remarried people remain together. The adultery only stops when the relationship stops. Most people refuse to accept this fact.

John 6:60 "Many therefore of his disciples, when they had heard this, said, This is a hard saying; who can hear it?"

When Christ said these things to the disciples, they too were astonished at it, since the same problem existed in their day.

Our churches are full of people who are remarried, committing adultery while no one stands against it. That's the reason so many people are divorcing and remarrying, they have been accepted as full fledged members of churches while even the pastors are doing it themselves and even marrying those who are divorced to other divorced people.

What an incredible mess the society and the church is in and almost no one will listen. How can church leaders teach commitment to a spouse for life when they are supporting the sin of adultery in their own congregations.

2 Timothy 4:3 "For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears;"

What was commonly accepted as sin under the rule of the Bible, only a generation ago, is now embraced as normal reasonable activity. Those who practice this sin are accepted and those who speak out against it are punished in various ways, not the least of which is rejection by friends, family and church.

God said that in the last days, evil would be, not only tolerated but approved and recommended by nearly everyone.

When we tolerate and embrace the sins of divorce and remarriage we are negating the notion that when Christ saves us it is permanent salvation not based on our deeds, but on His sacrifice on the cross.

When we marry, we promise to stay together through sickness and in health, in other words through it all, through mental or physical illness as well as the good times.

Wouldn't it be better for us to teach what Christ taught to the youth, so that they will not be devastated by the splitting of their families, that their children will have two parents in the same household, who love each other?

Wouldn't it be better for our children to see us staying together no matter what the trial, praying together while trusting God to help us? Children learn by example, when they see parents acting like spoiled children in marriage, demanding their own way and throwing away spouses, they will learn what to do when it becomes their turn to marry.

OR, we can train our children by our example, to tough it out in the trials of life, hang in there watching God work it all out while everyone involved remain loyal, becoming stronger and more mature with each new victory.

The problem with our culture is that we want a "fast food" fix for everything, we are not willing to go through hard times to come out the other side victoriously. We don't see the victories because we don't fight the battles we just bail out. The battles are fought on our knees and in our hearts, not in the courts.

In our culture we like to take only the good and throw away the negative, as though we deserve to have only good, when we cannot even live up to "only good."

How arrogant can we be, to think that we don't have any warts that others have to endure or accept! When we toss out spouses because they do bad things, we are acting as though we are above all bad ourselves and have nothing to confess or from which to be cleansed.

Perhaps it is time to stop wallowing in self pity, like spoiled children over the failings of our spouses and begin to attempt to understand things from their point of view. Perhaps if we saw ourselves through their eyes and evaluate our own actions according to God's standard, we would not be so quick to throw away people simply because they don't meet our personal needs or desires.

Many broken relationships could be avoided if we would just learn to think of others and what is best for them more than we think about ourselves.

James 4:1-2 "1 What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members? 2 You lust and do not have; so you commit murder. You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel. You do not have because you do not ask.…"

When we keep our eyes focused on God, reading His Word while praying for understanding, then we will be able to do what God has commanded in His Word. God did not make suggestions as though He isn't sure the right thing to do and man must help Him decide, He gave commands because He knows what is best, what works and what spares mankind all the troubles they bring on themselves by their willfulness.

The Troubles We Cause Ourselves

I am astonished at how many people are having terrible troubles in their lives, all caused by their own rebellion while refusing to listen to those who have not had those troubles. Doesn't it make sense that if someone lives a decent and productive life, we would want to know the secret of that for ourselves. By decent and productive I mean, emotionally secure and spiritually growing.

The Country is Enslaved!

This country is enslaved and doesn't even know it. There will come a date due payment, and by then it will be too late for the nation but not too late for individuals who place their trust in Christ.

We are enslaved to our sin and debauchery, many refuse to listen to rebukes and warnings, thinking there will be no consequences.

Romans 6;23 "For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord."

Galatians 6:7-8 "Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life."

Our nation is over as we knew it, those of us who love Christ, will remain calm, spiritually blessed and trusting in Christ. However, those who do not have Christ and refuse Him will choose to defy Him and remain in their enslaved status, while their life continues to degenerate, like a frog in a frying pan, they will not realize their condition until it is too late.

Zechariah 7:13 ""And just as He called and they would not listen, so they called and I would not listen," says the LORD of hosts;"

God has been calling to us to repent and become born again, but the people would not listen, so God will not hear when it is too late.

Acts 2:38 "Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost."

Their Making the Little Ones Fall

"Public School" terminology was used because the school system was monitored by the "public", the public paid for the system and hired and fired the school boards. The parents had the ultimate say in the goings-on in the school system in communities, back in the day. Teachers were evaluated by parents and had the power to remove an inept or immoral teacher if need be.

I no longer call the school system "public", I have decided to refer to the school system "government indoctrination centers." The parents no longer have a say in what is being taught nor who shall be hired to teach.


The teachers unions base their decisions on money rather than on excellence in education. There is no turning back now, the things that are being taught in these indoctrination centers are so vile, that, in the past, God destroyed entire cities and countries for their immorality in these areas.

It isn't bad enough that these centers are teaching the acceptance of these things, they are also intimidating anyone who refuses to accept their teaching, making children feel guilty if they question the teachers on these matters. Any child who has the strength to refuse to accept these things is treated with manipulative tactics, bringing pressure to bare on them to give into their teachings.

I consider all this teaching that accepts and approves of immorality, in government schools, a form of child abuse, no different from the evil of "child porn."

Matthew 18:6 "but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea."

The children in the government schools are not believers for the most part, but they begin in those schools innocent and a blank slate to be written on, by anyone they see as an "expert", to children, the teachers are the experts.

This is all despicable and diabolical, undermining the natural instincts of human beings who have no defense against the abuse.

"I Never Knew You"

I have thought of this a lot as I watch the apostates claim to be "Christians" while enraging when they are confronted with a challenge to seek God or to repent over sin. I have witnessed the hate and anger regularly when we correct with Scripture, someone who is a professor but not a possessor of the Holy Spirit.

They think they are spiritual because they just say so, what they forget it that words mean very little, it is easy to say anything you want, but the act of saying doesn't make our words true. Our actions and attitudes will prove the words, in fact few words are needed, when the life matches with the Holiness of God, there will be no need to declare what you are. Living out our Christianity is far more powerful than mere words.

Seems to me those who declare the loudest are often not what they claim, they must declare intensely to convince others because in their hearts they know that they are not what they claim, the words often replace the actual being and doing.

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