Time Out is Child Abuse

Did you know that sending children to "time out" is child abuse? Yep, that's what I said!

When we isolate another human being as unworthy to be with us we are telling them that we do not want them around us. They do not measure up to our expectations so they must be excluded.

It is also laziness, if is easier to put them in a room and walk away than it is to carry out the hard work of spanking and training.

One of the cruelest actions toward another human being is to "delete" them rather than working with them to correct the problem.

Proverbs 13:24 "24 He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently."

Isolation and exclusion is for those who are adults who are sinning and refusing to repent. This form of punishment is not for children who need the presence of family continually.

God said we are to spank the children who disobey, then they may resume with the family immediately after the correction.

Children know the difference between a spanking to correct behavior and isolation to reject. Rejection is not the aim of the Lord Jesus Christ in the discipline of children. Correction and redirection is the aim.

Those who use the silent treatment to intimidate others into submission are using their power to deliberately manipulate those they wish to control. There is no love in this form of penalty that is rejection for the young child.

The practice of cliques within the church system works the same way as time out for a young child. Rejection is for the purpose of demeaning, showing the isolated person they are not loved, wanted or worthy of attention.

God told us to go to the one who has offended us to seek sorrow over the offense. Once the offender has confessed and feels remorse, then the offended forgives and the relationship becomes even stronger as the two people involved are reconciled.

When an offense is ignored, hoping it will just go away so everyone can feel better, nothing is resolved, there is always a little screen of doubt between us and the one who didn't seem to care that they were offensive.

Politeness just to get things over with without a sense of resolution leaves the relationship barely superficial, lacking in depth and commitment. This relationship cannot survive anything new that may come up, because the past looms large over the present until it is resolved.

When the sewer overflows in the house during a flood the mounds of human waste can be removed but until the walls are replaced the stink remains.

Child rearing is for the purpose of training and teaching the principles of God to the child, through example as well as words. The example, the actions, of good communication far out way anything commanded toward the child.

When we send a message that "we want you to come to the party so you can see us ignoring you", we have communicated a contempt for the child.

Yes, I said it and believe it, isolation is cruel and much less productive in training a child than spanking. God told us how to handle disobedience of young children, any other way is disobedience toward God and allegiance toward secular psychology.

Hebrews 12:11
"For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it."

Proverbs 23:13-15
"Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol. My son, if your heart is wise, my heart too will be glad."

Ephesians 6:4
"Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."

There are many very angry undisciplined children who just want parents who will be parents. They want protectors and guides to bring them safety through continual proper interaction.

Sadly there are those who try to use the Biblical discipline but are thwarted at every turn by extended family and even spouses. When this occurs, the children will follow the disobedient parent rather than the godly one.

Proverbs 29:15
"The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother."

Get that? "a child left to himself brings shame to his mother." That's interesting isn't it! It is the mother who suffers the most when the rebellious children learn to disrespect her authority.
Perhaps you might have some reason why this might be so?

Willful Ignorance in our Culture

The closer I get to the Lord the more ugly this world becomes. I am at a loss to understand why some Christians don't seem to notice.

Perhaps the superficial believers are so enveloped in their fun filled life of pleasure that they ignore what should be obvious.

I guess when people don't want to see something they close their spiritual eyes to remain willfully ignorant.

Sadly though, willful ignorance does not absolve mankind of their negligence to call truth what it is, it merely makes them think so.

Job 21:14
"They say to God, 'Depart from us! We do not even desire the knowledge of Your ways."

Matthew 13:15
"FOR THE HEART OF THIS PEOPLE HAS BECOME DULL, WITH THEIR EARS THEY SCARCELY HEAR, AND THEY HAVE CLOSED THEIR EYES, OTHERWISE THEY WOULD SEE WITH THEIR EYES, HEAR WITH THEIR EARS, AND UNDERSTAND WITH THEIR HEART AND RETURN, AND I WOULD HEAL THEM.'"

We are there folks, right in the middle of the mess, thankfully the Lord is coming soon!!!!!

The Bratty Liberal

Liberals are narcissists, they scream tolerance and are the least tolerant of all people. They claim others are mean when they are being mean. They want their say but do not allow others to have their say without an act of revenge perpetrated against them. This is the state of the end times, irrational demands on the part of adults who act like bratty six year olds.

2 Timothy 3:1-5 describes it for us and verse five tells us what to do about it.

Obedience to Feelings Has Destroyed our Culture

The love the world teaches is "feelings", the love of God is far deeper, that being a concern for the well being of the other person as well as commitment to doing what is right in God's eyes.

Most people in our culture operate from the standpoint of feelings. If someone made them feel bad for telling the truth, then that person is a bad person.

When feelings are the measure of right or wrong, then rational thinking is thrown out, ignored and even mocked.

The Church is the People of God Not a Building

I find no commandment from Christ in the Bible to build a building. It is a distraction! God told us to go into the world to make disciples and bring them back to the gatherings as believers. The church has brought in the unsaved and watered down the teaching to make them comfortable so they will stay. If we love the unsaved we will give the gospel and if we love the believers we will not pollute the worship with those who do not yet love God.

We use buildings that we have and that's alright, but that does not mean we must have one.


Many Christians are fearful of speaking boldly about the Lord to non-believers. They are more afraid of man's rejection than they are concerned about their souls for eternity.

Recently I disagreed with someone on the matter of "lifestyle evangelism", in which one just lives a good life, no need to speak of Christ and if the unbeliever likes us they will ask about God.

This is not only not Biblical it is cowardly. We are to speak the truth! If we have love we will be more concerned about a person's eternal destination than whether or not they like us. It is Christ we want them to see, not us.

There are also those who believe the lie that if we have offended someone with the truth we have done something wrong. There are those who say "we must say it in a way that they will receive it." This too is not Biblical.

If we are the ones responsible for the rejection that comes against us, then no one who heard the gospel would reject it if it were done just right, AND, God would have given us a fool proof formula, but He did not.

But wait a minute....they hung Jesus Christ on a cross because they rejected Him. Did Christ do something wrong in His delivery? Of course not, He was rejected because of the evil hearts of men. Just as we will be rejected for the same reason, when we obey Christ.

If you have lived a Christian life long enough you will notice that we are rejected just for living our life differently from non-believers. They are intimidated by the Holy Spirit that lives in us as well as the jealousy that we have great joy.

Sadly, I am here to tell you that many of those who reject us will be those who call themselves Christian. They love their superficial fun filled lives, but cannot endure correction or disagreement. They must be elevated and validated to feel good about those around them.

There is a saying that I love, I don't know who said it but it makes very good sense.

"One of the elements of holiness is the absence of self awareness."

We must not be focused on self, we must be focused on Christ. That alone will make many people irritated, some to the point of rage.

When Christ is our focus we feel no need to rage in disagreements, nor do we ever feel a need to dominate or intimidate others. We speak the truth boldly and walk away when others do not receive it.

When Christ is our defender we have no need to fight with anyone.

Evil Flourishes because the Culture Remained Silent

"If you can't say anything good don't say anything at all", is the very mentality that got us to the mess we are in now. Our culture stopped calling evil what it is, we stopped correcting and rebuking, causing the sin to flourish.

They No Longer Even Hide

No need to hide when the culture accepts, defends and promotes sin.