3 Things God ALWAYS Does to a Narcissist

We are Teachers and Students Both

We are always students but we should all be teachers too. It doesn't mean we are over anyone, it just means we are wise enough to share the truth with anyone who will listen.

Hebrews 5:12-14

"12 For though by this time you ought to be teachers, you have need again for someone to teach you the elementary principles of the actual words of God, and you have come to need milk and not solid food. 13 For everyone who partakes only of milk is unacquainted with the word of righteousness, for he is an infant. 14 But solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to distinguish between good and evil."

No one has authority over anyone else except the Holy Spirit. There are no authorities in the church, there are only leaders who lead by example and teaching but they are not the ultimate authority over anyone.

1 Peter 5:3

"Not domineering over those in your charge, but being examples to the flock."

God did not say we are to imitate others, but that we are to imitate Christ. If we imitate others as they imitate Christ then it is Christ we follow not men.

1 Corinthians 11:1

"Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ."

2 Timothy 2:15

"Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth."

Nowhere does God say "Do your best to present yourselves to the pastor."

We listen to teachers and leaders to discern whether or not they are speaking the truth. They are present to edify us in the Word of God, not dominate us. If they follow Christ then wonderful they have been a good example, however, if they are in error then they must be corrected and even removed if the error is frequently against the Word of God.

Believers must stop elevating their pastors above others merely because they have been educated in Bible schools. Sadly those who have formal degrees are seen as superior to those who have been trained by the Holy Spirit.

Education does not make someone spiritual or wiser, it merely means that they have been trained by man how to think and the things to say. When we are trained by the Holy Spirit we are given much more than rules and manipulations to cause others to respond the way we want them to respond.

The danger of becoming full of pride is great when education is the goal more than learning through the Holy Spirit.

John 16:13-14"

"13 However, when the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. For He will not speak on His own, but He will speak what He hears, and He will declare to you what is to come. 14 He will glorify Me by taking from what is Mine and disclosing it to you."

The Holy Spirit does not operate differently in our day than He did in the days of the apostles.

All of the Bible was not written to us but it was all written for us.

Isaiah 11:2

"The Spirit of the LORD will rest on Him--the Spirit of wisdom and understanding, the Spirit of counsel and strength, the Spirit of knowledge and fear of the LORD."

No man can teach or counsel better than the Holy Spirit.

Everyone who has been born again should be teaching and sharing the Word with those God places in their path. No one is exempt from this charge.

John 14:26

"But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have told you."

John 14:17

"Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you."

Remember the Holy Spirit only lives within those who are born again. The world does not have Him nor could they understand Him.

1 John 4:6

"We are of God: he that knoweth God heareth us; he that is not of God heareth not us. Hereby know we the spirit of truth, and the spirit of error."

Allowing All Circumstances to Grow us!

2 Timothy 2:20-21
"20 Now in a large house there are not only gold and silver implements, but also implements of wood and of earthenware, and some are for honor while others are for dishonor. 21 Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from these things, he will be an implement for honor, sanctified, useful to the Master, prepared for every good work."

When we became born again we were no longer of the world.

Ephesians 2:19. Ephesians 2:19
"19 So then you are no longer strangers and foreigners, but you are fellow citizens with the saints, and are of God’s household,"

There are those who will say we are the problem in a relationship breakdown. If we are walking with Christ and have prayed to be shown and found to be innocent then we can dismiss it as a ploy of the devil to accuse the brethren. However, if we are found to be guilty of wrongdoing we can confess it to be cleansed and move ahead in Spiritual growth.

 
There are some who never self-reflect but live in the blame game to deflect any responsibility in a broken relationship. There is nothing we can do about that, we must love them from afar and pray for them. Some relationships on this earth will never be reconciled, but we can be the peacemaker through addressing the problem and then walking away when we see there cannot be a discussion without rage emerging from the one who loves their sin.

 
We will not be able to reconcile many relationships because the problem of self-love has permeated every aspect of our culture. One can live in fear of offending over the smallest matters when a culture demands that we only speak words they like to hear.

Isaiah 30:9-11 "…9 These are rebellious people, deceitful children, children unwilling to obey the LORD’s instruction. 10 They say to the seers, “Stop seeing visions!” and to the prophets, “Do not prophesy to us the truth! Speak to us pleasant words; prophesy illusions. 11 Get out of the way; turn off the road. Rid us of the Holy One of Israel!”…"

Romans 16:18
"For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites. By smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive."

2 Timothy 4:3
"For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires."

2 Timothy 4:4
"So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths."

Since we cannot change an entire culture or even one other person we are not responsible to do so, we must focus on our own walk, making sure we are not disobeying God in our relationships. Some people who love Christ will be able to reconcile and are deeply empathetic toward one another but others are stubborn and prideful. We must let the prideful ones walk away as we embrace those who want a deeper walk with Christ.

Proverbs 22:23-25 "…23 for the LORD will take up their case and will plunder those who rob them. 24 Do not make friends with an angry man, and do not associate with a hot-tempered man, 25or you may learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.…"

We are all capable of becoming like those who attack us, we must not allow ourselves to be influenced by their bad manners. The best way to combat the possibility of becoming like others is to choose our friends careful. Those in our inner circle must be those who love Christ and do not do mean and petty things.

 
Everyone can fall, but we are less likely to fall if we have lovely friends who care enough about us to keep us accountable and if we receive their correction. Every correction is an asset to us if we desire cleansing and growth.

 
1 John 1:9-10 "9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us."

There will be times when the devil brings someone along to accuse us of things they are doing but we are not, we must evaluate ourselves making sure that we are being obedient to Christ and ignore those who love their anger.

Isaiah 5:20
"Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who turn darkness to light and light to darkness, who replace bitter with sweet and sweet with bitter."

Psalm 32:5
"Then I acknowledged my sin to You and did not hide my iniquity. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD," and You forgave the guilt of my sin. Selah"

Every born-again believer can grow and move forward in holiness if they speak the truth, refrain from becoming like the world and admit a wrong quickly, only then can we be cleansed to progress.

 
We are to be peaceful even if no one else around us practices love. If others treat us contemptuously we can return it with love, showing them the respect they refused to show us.

Hallelujah!!!!

Hebrews 12:14
"Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord."

Listen with Wisdom

"Be careful what you hear about others, you may be hearing it from the problem."

Coming to Christ to Feel Safe will not Save Anyone

Anyone who came to Christ to feel safe and good about themselves was never born again.

It is only by realizing how sinful we are that drives us to want to be changed into a new creation by Christ.

God will not allow us to use Him, He will only save those who love Him and want to obey His commands.

John 14:15-16 "15 If you love Me, you will keep My commandments. 16 And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Advocate to be with you forever—…"

Those who love Christ want to know His will for them, they want to please Christ in them because of this love.

Those who spurn the commands and principles of Christ while claiming to be Christian are lying, they do not love Him nor do they care what He thinks, they just want what they perceive to be the safety they think they will gain by claiming His name.

It is also clear when someone is born again they love the brethren, they love all born-again believers, this is their family, and they are dedicated to being helpful in our walk with Him.

John 13:34-35 "…34 A new commandment I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you also must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are My disciples if you love one another.”

We know when someone is born again because the Spirit of God in us connects with the Spirit of God in all those who love Him.

Pretenders can say all the right words, attend a church gathering every week, and keep themselves from committing crimes that others can see, but they have no love and do not possess any of the fruit of the Spirit.

Ephesians 5:22-23 "22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. Against such things, there is no law.…"

Those who are born again don't have to be told not to steal because they do not want to. If they fall into sin from weakness, they are convicted by the Holy Spirit and confess to be cleansed of that sin. Those who are believers and do not confess will regress in their walk due to disobedience against the promptings of the Holy Spirit. They will never be comfortable and God will discipline them to bring them back to obedience.

Hebrews 12:5-7 "…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not take lightly the discipline of the Lord, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises every son He receives.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?…"

Those who are of the world and reject Christ are not disciplined, God leaves their own actions to chastise them. Often they don't even realize they are miserable because they think their attitudes of rebellion are normal for everyone.

Hebrews 12:7-9 "…7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? 8 If you do not experience discipline like everyone else, then you are illegitimate children and not true sons. 9 Furthermore, we have all had earthly fathers who disciplined us, and we respected them. Should we not much more submit to the Father of our spirits and live?…"

When a believer ignores the Holy Spirit they will miss the blessings of obedience and the fellowship of the Lord, the Holy Spirit will go silent.

1 Thessalonians 5:18-20 "…18 Give thanks in every circumstance, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 19 Do not extinguish the Spirit. 20 Do not treat prophecies with contempt,"

Believers can put the fire of the Holy Spirit out, leaving their lives without help and without comfort. The Holy Spirit will not leave them because He is the seal of their salvation, but we can live willfully refusing to hear the Holy Spirit while missing all the blessings He has for believers, the joy will leave, the help with problems will leave, we will go through hardship without comfort and our witness to the unsaved will be ruined until we repent, confess our sin of wilfulness and begin again to obey Him.

There are those who will come into heaven having no rewards but they will be saved, don't ask me to explain this I don't understand why someone would not want to consult the Holy Spirit and remain in constant communication with Him, but God said it and I believe Him.

1 Corinthians 3:10-15 "10 According to the grace of God which was given to me, like a wise master builder I laid a foundation, and another is building on it. But each person must be careful how he builds on it.

11 For no one can lay a foundation other than the one which is laid, which is Jesus Christ.

12 Now if anyone builds on the foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, or straw,

13 each one’s work will become evident; for the day will show it because it is to be revealed with fire, and the fire itself will test the quality of each one’s work.

14 If anyone’s work which he has built on it remains, he will receive a reward.

15 If anyone’s work is burned up, he will suffer loss; but he himself will be saved, yet only so as through fire."

Sometimes it is difficult in our day to tell the difference between a believer and a non-believer because we are living in an apostate age and many believers are acting like pretenders who never found Christ.

However, we can know them by their fruit, as God mentioned in Matthew 15:20. Our duty is to challenge those who walk disobediently to ask God if they are saved, perhaps they were never born again.

2 Corinthians 13:5-6 " 5 Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Can’t you see for yourselves that Jesus Christ is in you— unless you actually fail the test? 6 And I hope you will realize that we have not failed the test.…"

There are many I have known who lack the fruit of God's Spirit and the Spirit of God within me does not connect at all with these people. In these cases, the Lord has made it clear to avoid them when they claim to be Christian but act like the world.

We are influenced by those we spend much time with, the very reason God told us to "come out from among them and be separate." 2 Corinthians 6:17

1 John 2:15-17

"Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever."

James 4:4

"You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God."

Colossians 2:8

"See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ."

Believers Love Christ's Appearing

I cannot wrap my mind around why unbelievers do not want Christ. When He changes us the joy floods in and we are equipped through the Holy Spirit to handle the trials of life with strength and dignity.

There is no greater joy than knowing we are only here on earth for a short time and then heaven awaits us where Christ in all His love will protect us for eternity.

1 John 4:9-10

"9 By this the love of God was revealed in us, that God has sent His only Son into the world so that we may live through Him. 10 In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins."

Those who have been born again do not face judgment for their sins and they love the freedom from sin that dwells in them every day.

Sin is a bondage people cannot see when they are in the midst of it. They think it is freedom to sin and do not see how ruinous it is for themselves and others.

When we have been taken out of the life of sin we can look back and see what a wreck it was and we were. When we are sinful and our families are sinful we don't notice how rotten it all is.

When I became born again my eyes were opened to the continual anger and competitiveness that was common and no one in the family saw it they thought it was normal.

Before I was born again I was continually sad and knew something was off but couldn't understand it all. I turned to sin to comfort myself, the more I indulged myself the more sad I became.

When Christ opened my eyes after becoming born again I realized how spiritually ugly I was and how spiritually dirty the whole family environment was, even though they all thought they were better than others.

They all refrained from the "really big sins" but were rude, cruel and mean most of the time. Or perhaps it was just me they covertly tormented and hid it from the rest of the world.

When we are a target we can see much more clearly than those who are pampered and treated special. Anyone who is flattered and praised continually will not be able to see the rottenness, they only see how happy they feel at the schmoozing.

These people do not notice how sad the target is and even will think something is wrong with us for not joining in with the rudeness and crudeness.

I never remember a time when someone even smiled at me in love, if they did it was to ridicule and demean. The pleasure they had from hurting those they disrespected was devilish.

I remember hearing family members mock fat people. I hated it because I had empathy for those who were heavy. Something inside told me there was more to their obesity than just overeating. There was a lot of judging others for things that were not sins but just outward appearances.

My mother once mocked me because I liked to wear long skirts after I became more mature. She once told me that I should show my calves because they were the prettiest part of my legs. I often wondered why she wanted to show off her legs to others.

You might read this article and think I was raised in a family that was not Christian, but they all claimed they were and even attended church gatherings every week. They even judged others who did not attend without knowing them.

At home, there was no love, kindness or conversation over good things, and the name of Jesus Christ was never mentioned. There were only rules for conduct to impress the neighbors or extended family. Many of these rules had nothing to do with righteousness, they were only there because the culture demanded them, it had nothing to do with pleasing God.

When I would ask legitimate questions I was met with rude comments to shut down any discussion. I came to believe that anything I said or did was automatically judged as foolish and unworthy of discussion. Only to find out that these family members were trained by the culture to only speak things people like to hear, truth didn't matter as long as they all felt good about themselves.

This is the reason I spent so much time questioning things. After I became born again I asked Jesus Christ in me for wisdom to know how to deal with it all and His answer came back that I should remove myself from those who are looking for praise and care nothing about the inner heart but are fixated on appearances to impress others.

When I meet another believer who loves the Lord I see none of these traits of snarky worldliness in them. They are always kind and empathetic toward others. Sadly most people in church gatherings today have never been changed into a new creation by Christ because they joined the Christian church but never became born again and lack all the fruit of the Spirit.

Once the Lord opens our eyes through our transformation by Him they can never be closed again.

Our response to those who have chosen cultural Christianity believe they are superior to others and deserve continual praise. When we see this we know the pride of the devil still remains, there has been no change and as they grow older they become more angry than they were in their youth.

I pray for them but avoid contact,, once we have become a target they will never hear us, see us, or value our wisdom from Christ. They desire to see us as the broken people we used to be in order to feel superior to us. God must use someone else.

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I loved my family but they never once showed love to me, it became impossible to forget the past because the attitudes remain the same today, I can only expect that the future will not be different in our relationships.

Yes, God can change anyone, I am proof of that! However, He will not change anyone who does not want Him to change them. He will not override their free will to choose or reject Him.

If I trust in Christ I have to trust that He knows what to do with them without my help. And, thankfully Christ moves us on to those who love Him as much as we do, what a blessing to be able to speak openly about Christ and delve into the word of God with them as we grow closer to Him and to one another.

In these last days the apostate church will only harm those who are seeking to be led by Christ. Those who are pretenders will attempt to convince us there is something wrong with us when we want to follow the Bible in everything, when we search His Word to find His will, they will mock us, demean us and worse gossip against us without evidence of what they spread.

They did it to Christ and they do it to us too.

1 Peter 4:12-19 "1 Peter 4:12-19

Share the Sufferings of Christ

12 Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal among you, which comes upon you for your testing, as though something strange were happening to you;

13 but to the degree that you share the sufferings of Christ, keep on rejoicing, so that at the revelation of His glory you may also rejoice and be overjoyed.

14 If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory, and of God, rests upon you.

15 Make sure that none of you suffers as a murderer, or thief, or evildoer, or a troublesome meddler;

16 but if anyone suffers as a Christian, he is not to be ashamed, but is to glorify God in this name.

17 For it is time for judgment to begin with the household of God; and if it begins with us first, what will be the outcome for those who do not obey the gospel of God?

18 And if it is with difficulty that the righteous is saved, what will become of the godless man and the sinner?

19 Therefore, those also who suffer according to the will of God are to entrust their souls to a faithful Creator in doing what is right."

Keep looking up, it won't be long now and we will all be together at the Marriage Supper of the Lamb with Christ, surrounded by all the saints who loved His appearing.

2 Timothy 4:8 "in the future there is reserved for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day; and not only to me, but also to all who have loved His appearing."

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