Hatred Feeds on Conflict

Hatred feeds on conflict, if we return hatred with kindness the narcissist will hate that but their response will have no effect on us.

 
The goal of the arrogant narcissist is to create conflict so that you will respond badly allowing them the feeling that you deserved what they did because now you are just like them.

 
This is why God said not to "return evil for evil", and "bless those who curse you", this does not mean we remain friends with those who are rude and mean regularly, it just means when we must be in company with those who are hell-bent on causing trouble we "do not answer a fool according to their folly" and we rejoice when they leave our presence.

 
We can pray for them if we desire but are not obligated to remain friends with them.

 
We become stronger emotionally and Spiritually when we choose a higher path than those who make it the goal to ruin our soul.

 
When we do nothing in response to a troublemaker, know that God will have our back and He knows best what is His purpose in His timing. It is not weakness that does nothing, but strength.

 
Those who act maliciously set themselves on a self-destructive path that will be their punishment. We need not punish those who are unruly, God will take care of it better than we ever could.

The less we worry about who likes us or what is done to us the stronger we become, knowing that God knows every single thing even the heart of the evil rabble-rouser.

There are entire family structures that are adept at gossip and mischief-making, who thrive on drama to cause agitation in those they are jealous of or who do not fit into their family mold.

 
Those who can walk the narrow path without the need for validation of other family members will be treated with contempt merely for not being "one of them." All born-again believers experience this to some degree, they understand the scriptures that say:

Luke 21:15-17 "…15 For I will give you speech and wisdom that none of your adversaries will be able to resist or contradict. 16 You will be betrayed even by parents and brothers and relatives and friends, and some of you will be put to death. 17 And you will be hated by everyone because of My name.…"

This passage was written to the apostles but it was for us because mankind has not changed since the beginning of the world.

 
What a blessing to have the scriptures that make the end times events and human nature so vivid that we can walk uprightly through knowing the tactics of the devil and that he uses people to come against believers.

 
1 John 4:4
"4 You are from God, little children, and have overcome them; because greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world."

Edification is Far Different from Praise

What does love look like? Because mankind has a natural propensity to lean toward sin we must spend more time correcting and redirecting than we do "praising."

Praising people is not very productive because it does not challenge others to reach a higher standard. Encouragement in the Bible is prodding our brothers and sisters to continue obeying God not making people "feel" good about themselves. Feelings have little value, it is correction, instruction and discipline that brings about change in a heart that wants to follow God.

Edification is the goal of believer to believer, that we are built up in the faith, not appealing to emotions or feelings. 

Praise is not encouragement, in fact it likely and often disarms a person rather than build them up in the faith.

 
Discipline, correction, and instruction will not work on a rebellious heart, that heart must see serious life challenges in order to come to the end of themselves.

 
Revelation 3:19 Those I love, I rebuke and discipline. Therefore be earnest and repent.

Hebrews 12:6
For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises every son He receives.”

Proverbs 3:11-12
My son, do not reject the discipline of the LORD, and do not loathe His rebuke; / for the LORD disciplines the one He loves, as does a father the son in whom he delights.

Job 5:17
Blessed indeed is the man whom God corrects; so do not despise the discipline of the Almighty.

Psalm 94:12
Blessed is the man You discipline, O LORD, and teach from Your law,

1 Corinthians 11:32
"But when we are judged by the Lord, we are being disciplined so that we will not be condemned with the world."

James 1:12
"Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love Him."

1 Peter 4:17
"For it is time for judgment to begin with the family of God; and if it begins with us, what will the outcome be for those who disobey the gospel of God?"

2 Corinthians 7:9-10
"yet now I rejoice, not because you were made sorrowful, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you felt the sorrow that God had intended, and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation without regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

Blaming Others Ruins the Soul

When we blame others we are admitting they are in control of us. When we own our own stuff we grow and change, it's under our control!

No one is in control of our behavior unless we allow it. No one makes us do anything. We are either driven by our own fear of being caught or fear of the intimidation of others.

 
Those who are easily offended are easily controlled by others. Those who are strong are not easily offended and are in charge of their own emotions and actions.

 
The weakest people are those who are continually looking for things to feel insulted or wounded. They cannot feel whole unless they are accusing others of wrong as they look down their noses at anyone who cannot be controlled by their outbursts of anger or covert rudeness.

 
Those who spend a lot of time ruminating on who has wronged them, who does not measure up and who to be jealous of are diminishing their growth remaining emotional and spiritual infants until they confess it to be cleansed.

 
There is deliverance from the anger associated with gossip and misjudging others, it is through confessing it and asking God to change their character replacing the old man with the new man who is full of love, kindness, empathy and every other good thing that comes from Christ. Christ must do this in us, no one can change themselves, if they try they will fall back into the old ways when they are too feeble to continue the facade.

 
When Christ changes us we are permanently changed and He begins a work of lifelong cleansing and changing of us until He takes us home.

Just Saying Something Does Not Make it So!

I only recognize atheists as those in rebellion against God, liars who claim to not believe in Him but are choosing it knowing He exists.. Sort of like telling the woman who bore you, "You're not my mother because I don't recognize the fact."
I see the people who say they are Christians but deny much of the Bible to fit their own desires and their culture. These people are lying, when we love Him we are dedicated to His Word.

John 14:15-17 "“If you love me, you will keep my commandments. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive because it neither sees him nor knows him."

When someone does not like you because you have stirred the wrath of the demons who influence them, they will pretend something is wrong with you so they don't have to listen to you. Denying things and people to justify wicked actions and attitudes is common among the apostate church.

 
Satan did this with Eve in the garden. He went after the most influential person in the marriage relationship to impact the husband.

 
Eve was the one created to be the helper to the man, to influence him when necessary and support him in his calling. Satan knew the power of the woman to sway the man, so he addressed her to disrespect God. Notice Satan didn't go to the husband, but to the wife, not because she was more easily duped, but because she was powerful in the relationship. We know that Adam, was easily manipulated because he took what the woman gave to him. Both husband and wife were easily duped by the devil, after all, Eve bought into the lie and shared it with Adam and he partook.

 
No one in the marriage was duped more than the other, they were both fooled.
This is why it is so vitally important that godly women seek God continually so that her influence in the husbands' life will reflect the will of God.

 
God created Eve to be His Spiritual and emotional advisor, when she does her job her husband will be more powerful in all that God has called him to do.
The man is not independent of the woman or the woman independent of the man, they are two sides of the same coin. When one falters the other is there to pick them up or bring them back to obedience to God.

 
The godly marriage relationship is one of leader and supporter. That support comes in many forms, it may be encouragement to keep doing what the man is doing or it may be a warning not to do what the man is planning.

 
Whatever the case, the man must obey God even if his wife does not. And, the woman must obey God when the husband will not.

 
Notice that when confronted by God those who sinned blamed others for their own sin. Adam blamed God because He gave the man the woman and Eve blamed the serpent. Both blamed others instead of taking responsibility for their own actions.
We see this all the time in human relationships, rather than humbling themselves and saying; "I did it and it was wrong", they say; "So and so made me do it." or "You caused it", or "you did something else wrong that caused me to sin."

 
All excuses and reactions in haste to protect pride are sins. There can be no cleansing from the guilt and desire to sin without confession and the resolution to not repeat the sin.

 
1 John 1:9
"9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

God will only cleanse us of sin if we admit it and desire to no longer engage in it.
Those who refuse to admit sin and continually justify it will grow weaker and more bitter as they slip deeper into depression for the weight of sin on them.

 
Sin is never resolved by ignoring it, pretending it never happened or blaming others, it always grows like a cancer eating away at all decency, kindness and empathy until there is nothing left of goodness.

 
The only way to expunge the sin from our lives is to admit it, ask God to cleanse us, and resist the devil when he attempts to influence our minds with temptations to return to sin again.

 
As we grow in holiness from the process God gave us to remove sinful desires from our hearts, we will become more Christlike and less worldly. Sin will appear darker to us than it was before because we will see more clearly to avoid it and people who would impact us to be like them.

 
This is why God told us to "avoid such people" in 2 Timothy 3, those who are full of anger, hate, and revenge so that we will not emulate them from overexposure to their attitudes and actions.

 
2 Timothy 3:1-5
Difficult Times Will Come
3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.
2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

There are many in these last days who say they are Christians, even knowing some Bible verses but who work against holiness and all the fruit of God's Spirit.
Galatians 5:22-23 - "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."

Let us confess often allowing Christ to continually grow us so that our light can shine for Him.

Christ Saves the Born Again Believer and He Keeps Them Saved

When Christ changes us into a new creation it is He that does it not ourselves. He changes our nature entirely, the old nature is gone. We can never go back to the old nature again.

Hebrews 12:5-7 "…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not take lightly the discipline of the Lord, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises every son He receives.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?"

God promised that we are eternally saved, that means forever when we become born again.

There are no scriptures that say the Holy Spirit Who resides in the born again believer ever leaves us.

"Make sure that your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, “I will never desert you, nor will I ever abandon you,”

He told us that we are His for eternity.

Ephesians 1:13-14
"13 In Him, you also, after listening to the message of truth, the gospel of your salvation—having also believed, you were sealed in Him with the Holy Spirit of the promise,
14 who is a first installment of our inheritance, in regard to the redemption of God’s own possession, to the praise of His glory."

The scriptures that say someone walks away from God are clearly those who have never been changed by Christ, they decided on their own without trusting in Him to join the "Christian" group wanting to come in their own way. These are those who are described in Matthew 7:21-23 where God says; "I NEVER knew you."

Matthew 7:21-23 "21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’"

Most people in our day who would say they are Christians are pretenders who have never been born again. Those who walk away do it because they do not have the strength of the Holy Spirit to follow Him, they are walking in their own fleshly way without Christ.

Christ paid it all on the cross for us, we have no part in our own salvation except to agree with God that we are sinful and desire to be changed by Him.

Hypocrites Abound in Our Culture Today

It is important that we do not become hypocrites. A hypocrite is one who judges others for doing what the hypocrite is doing themselves but those they judge are not doing it.

 
Our modern world calls this projection; when someone accuses us of what they are doing and we are not.

 
A woman found out that I corrected a sinning brother in Christ and told me that I should not correct others as she was correcting me for correcting others.
Not only was it not Biblical to pressure others to never correct our siblings in Christ, it was hypocritical because she was doing what she told me not to do.
There are many such ideas floating around in the churches that are not Biblical but are commonly repeated as though they were straight from God.

The hard part is when we correct someone Biblically who claims to be a Christian and they refuse to hear God's Word because they like the unscriptural concept everyone else is repeating.

 
The modern church is full of stubborn hearts who refuse to be taught or listen to Biblical instruction except when they like what is being said.

 
2 Timothy 4:2-4
"…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4. So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths."

The modern church has been tainted severely with the problem of "people pleasing" having changed the word of God, adding to it and subtracting from it to justify keeping people happy, in the pews and the money rolling in to pay the pastor's salary.

It is a conflict of interest in my opinion, that the pastor is paid a salary while protecting that salary by carefully crafting their words and personality to please the people in the pews. Many pastors have become actors entertaining the flock while also robbing them, not only of the truth but of their money too.

 
Many Scriptures have been misunderstood because of the problem of snatching one sentence out of its passage to make it say whatever the reader desires to believe. This is so common now that very few people understand the Bible correctly concerning any principle of God.

1 Timothy 4:1-2
"Now the Spirit expressly states that in later times some will abandon the faith to follow deceitful spirits and the teachings of demons, / influenced by the hypocrisy of liars, whose consciences are seared with a hot iron."

When we discover someone is not interested in what God has to say in His word then is the time to walk away and leave them to God.

Acts 20:29-30
"I know that after my departure, savage wolves will come in among you and will not spare the flock. / Even from your own number, men will rise up and distort the truth to draw away disciples after them."

God instructs us to test all things for this very reason.

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Many who say they are Christians have never been changed by Christ into a new creation, they have no fruit of the Spirit of God. They only claim they are Christians, determined to get to heaven their own way without Christ. They want all His perks, blessings, and heaven but they don't want Him.

 
We know this by their arrogant and angry reaction to being challenged to follow the Word of God.

 
Matthew 7:15-20
You Will Know Them by Their Fruits
15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves.
16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles?
17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit.
18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit.
19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.
20 Therefore by their fruits you will know them."

The Fruit of the Spirit of Christ:
"Galatians 5:22-23 - But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."

There are those who care more about appearing special and superior to people than they are about seeking Christ to cleanse their hearts. They do not care about holiness, only that they do enough in their own power to be seen by men as good people.

Legalism is following man's rules God never made, based on man's thinking and not God's principles and commands. Pretenders operate from rules more than love.
Holiness can only come through confessing sin to be cleansed as God tells us in 1 John 1:9. Those who are prideful place all their trust in their own deeds determined by them, rather than on Christ Who transforms hearts.

 
Those who are stubborn and legalistic always act superior to others, hoping that they can perform better to elevate themselves. This is someone who has not been humbled desiring to be changed by Christ. They remain fixated on their appearance without conviction of the sin of pride. They grow worse over time as the heart hardens there is an inability to repent. But the good news is if they do become weary of the emptiness they have inside they can repent and be cleansed and transformed by Christ.

 
Their heart remains hard and staunch as they seek to expose flaws in others without evidence of wrongdoing. They call things sin that are not sin making up their own rules, even twisting the Bible to fit their rules. The aim of such people is to remain loftier than everyone else.

 
The fruit of the Spirit are the character qualities of Christ that reflect an inner heart of love, the actions are more than just deeds, they flow from the heart of Christ, the first of this fruit is LOVE.

Those who attempt to have the actions without the fruit operate from the standpoint of arrogance without love. The rules are more important to them than the love of Christ.

 
Matthew 22:36-40
36 “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?”
37 And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.
38 This is the great and first commandment.
39 And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. 40 On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.”

When love is first in our hearts then everything else, words, and actions flow out of that love. When there is no love then the words and actions depend entirely on the emotions in the moment, without accuracy and purpose other than elevating self.
May each believer evaluate their own heart to see if it lines up with the loving principles of Christ in all things. Picking and choosing scripture to follow while ignoring other scriptures is not an option for the one who loves Jesus Christ.

 
Matthew 22:37 "And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind."

It is not possible to love God with all your heart while ignoring the scriptures we don't like and taking out of context the ones we do like. This is lying against God steeped in dishonesty.

 
My prayer is that many "pretenders" will repent and become saved. The churches are full of cultural Christians who have never been transformed but believe they are going to heaven.

 
I do not want pretenders to hear this from the Lord; "I never knew You."

Matthew 7:21-23 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.
22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’
23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’"

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Narcissists Live a Vivid Fantasy Life

Narcissists will interpret us the way they wish to see us not the way we are in reality, they are jealous and competitive!

This is why they feel so free to judge people about minor things or even judge people about big things that never happened by guessing what is going on without proof.

They have no shame when it comes to guesses about others. This is the reason they are so guarded in their own lives because they are fearful that someone will hear their own stories and do the same thing to them.

When a narcissist guesses what they think may have happened to someone or judge someone's attitude without a detailed description of words and deeds we know they are doing it again.....gossiping without cause.

The best thing to do is to avoid those who gossip, refrain from believing or commenting on anything they say, and assume you don't have the entire story.

Disagreements and jealousy is are big factors in the reasons narcissists malign others. They cannot tolerate that someone else thinks differently or that someone else is happy and content, they must do something to ruin their joy even if it is through gossip to turn others against them.

2 Timothy 3 clearly describes the heart of the narcissist and commands us in verse five to avoid them.

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Humiliation is a Good Thing

Did you know that the word "humiliation" comes from the Latin word that means "dirt (Humus) meaning earth or ground." When someone tries to humiliate us, are they treating us like dirt? Here's the thing, it is compared to God that we are dirt. Every human being even those who think they are special are only dirt like all the rest of us.

 
It really does make sense because God said we are to humble ourselves, meaning we are to remember we are just dirt and when we die our bodies return to dirt.

 
Anyone who has a high opinion of their own value needs to learn we are only valuable to God because He created us, not because of anything wonderful within ourselves. His creation is wonderful because of Him, not because of us.

 
It does not bother me in the least to know that I am so far beneath God that I am dirt, made from the clay of the earth. It reminds me that only God is special and it is only His work in born-again believers that is good. All our talents and personalities come from Him.

 
When we realize someone is treating us like dirt we ought to be able to laugh, since dirt is calling other dirt, dirt! ROFL

When we are humble we have no need to feel special or superior in any way. We know that we came from dirt and that only God is good, leaving our focus completely on His goodness and not our own.

 
Just because we are dirt and unworthy of God's love even though He loved us more than we can imagine, does not give us freedom to treat others disrespectfully. We don't treat people respectfully because they are special, we treat them respectfully because Christ gave us His heart when we became born-again and we love others as He loved us.

No one deserves love, we do love others because Christ loved us and to show His character to our fellow man.

 
1 John 4:10: "In this is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins."

 
1 John 4:11 "Beloved, if God so loved us, we also must love one another."

 
James 4:10
"10 Humble yourselves in the presence of the Lord, and He will exalt you."

God never said that we should exalt ourselves or that anyone else should exalt us, He told us to humble ourselves and He will exalt us in His timing His way.
Our job is to think humbly about ourselves, that we are dirt and will return to dirt, but that Christ is everything all the time and because we love Him we will love others as much as we are born loving ourselves.

 
Matthew 22:36-40
36 “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?”
37 And He said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the great and foremost commandment. 39 The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 Upon these two commandments [b]hang the whole Law and the Prophets.”

It is only if we love God above all that we will be able to love others the way He loved us.

 
Self-esteem teaching focuses on self-love so we can be special, this is the opposite of what God teaches in His Word. Do not follow the ways of the world, reject self-love and embrace humility that allows us to love God first and everyone else.

 
The biggest lie satan told was that we cannot love others if we do not love ourselves first. God told us we are born loving ourselves too much, that if we loved others as much as we love ourselves we would place them above ourselves.

 
In order to remain true to the Word of God we must question all the things people say while going to the Scriptures to see if they are true. Many mantras and sayings people use are not Biblical and work against Christ.

 
2 Thessalonians 2:10-12 "…10 and with every wicked deception directed against those who are perishing, because they refused the love of the truth that would have saved them. 11 For this reason God will send them a powerful delusion so that they believe the lie, 12i n order that judgment may come upon all who have disbelieved the truth and delighted in wickedness.…"

Many Christians will fight against the teaching that self-esteem is from the devil because they like feeling special and making others focus on their own abilities and talents that were given to them by God. Instead of praising God, they praise themselves.

 
John 12:40
“He has blinded their eyes and hardened their hearts, so that they cannot see with their eyes, and understand with their hearts, and turn, and I would heal them.”
One who loves Christ will all their heart will be completely comfortable knowing that there is no good in them, but Christ alone is good.
Hallelujah!!!!

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I have seen arrogant and disrespectful attitudes in many children, coupled with rudeness they don't even think is wrong. In fact when confronted about it they defend themselves and become vengeful.

 
I have to wonder if these people were ever saved even though they have attended church all their lives.

 
How can someone have a humble loving Spirit submissive to God when they do not display His fruit toward their own parents?

Ephesians 6:2-3
"2 Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), 3 so that it may turn out well for you, and that you may live long on the earth."

Honor is not bringing a parent a cup of coffee or a birthday gift to gratify themselves that they have done their obligation without any admiration toward the parent.

 
Honor means valuing someone as special, not with gifts but in attitude and deference. An attitude of honor is full of a desire to help, encourage, and revere their wisdom.

 
It doesn't matter whether a parent is what we think they should be, it only matters that we demonstrate God's love toward them.

 
What is God's love toward parents and everyone else too? Love is selfless and full of empathy for others.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8:
Love is patient and kind .
Love does not envy .
Love does not boast, is not arrogant .
Love is not rude .
Love does not seek its own interests, is not irritable or resentful .
Love does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth .
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things .
Love never fails .

Honesty Must be Accompanied by Humility

Narcissists cannot be honest about who they are, what makes us think they will rightly interpret us? Just asking!

They Hate you and Want Others to Hate You too!

Narcissists will interpret us the way they wish to see us not the way we are in reality, they are jealous and competitive! Sadly even those who say they are Christians are acting this way.

Question all gossip from the narcissist before acting on it. 

The narcissist wants you to treat their target with the same disrespect they have for them. They hate that anyone else would like the one they hate. 

I remember a situation once when I was having a good time with a little girl, we were laughing and enjoying one another. The narcissist father came along mocking and demeaning us for our laughter as though we were doing something wrong. 

This narcissist hated that the little girl was enjoying me so he found some way to cause the little girl to think something was wrong with our interaction. 

When the narcissist hates you they will attempt to turn others against you with lies and half-truths. They will seek to undermine any chance of a loving relationship, sometimes by isolating us from those they have convinced to hate us too.

We know this is true because of the story of the devil in the garden with Eve when the devil managed to get Eve to distrust God, making her doubt God's wisdom and love for her. He caused a break in the relationship between God and His creation, Adam and Eve. 

This is the same tactic he uses today in interpersonal relationships. Those who hate someone will make whatever that person does and says look like it is not worthy of interest or respect. 

 Satan hated that God had a special relationship with Adam and Eve just as some people hate that we might have a special relationship with anyone they wish to dominate. 

The narcissist's greatest desire is to dominate those around them and negate and disparage anyone who will not allow them to dominate them. The hatred and tactics are demonic and rampant in our day.

We see how many, if not most adult children in our culture have disrespected and diminished their parents, even good parents are feeling the brunt of this devilish mentality.

Satan is turning adult children against their parents without cause, even passing this disrespect to their grandchildren. 

This can only happen in a culture that values personal aggrandizement above God. Those who hate others cannot tolerate that others might not hate them too. 

This was true of the Pharisees, they hated Christ and wanted everyone else to hate Him too. Times have not changed, people have not changed and we are headed toward the tribulation in which there will be few who love Christ, more pretenders than authentic believers fill the religious buildings!

We are living in the days just like those of Noah's day and remember, Noah had many relatives in the water below when God closed the door of the ark.

1 Peter 4:12-19
"12 Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. 

13 But rejoice insofar as you share Christ's sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed. 

14 If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory[a] and of God rests upon you. 

15 But let none of you suffer as a murderer or a thief or an evildoer or as a meddler. 16 Yet if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but let him glorify God in that name. 

17 For it is time for judgment to begin at the household of God; and if it begins with us, what will be the outcome for those who do not obey the gospel of God? 

18 And “If the righteous is scarcely saved,
what will become of the ungodly and the sinner?”
19 Therefore let those who suffer according to God's will entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good."

Humility is Required to Mature

We live in a time when "everyone is right in their own eyes and no one will listen." In other words the times just like those of Noah!

I have seen people fight and argue against rational thinking because, even though innocent and reasoned, it made their feelings cry, that they were shown to be in error and they could not handle it.

 
Sort of like a five-year-old who has been shown they were wrong about something, their response is to cry, not because you did anything to make them cry, but just because they wanted to be seen as intelligent and someone attempted to correct and educate them.

 
"The problem with the world is that intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence."

 
Charles Bukowski
If your feelings are crying at every minor challenge or correction it is time to grow up! Defensiveness is childishness and arrogance, in other words, sin!

1 Corinthians 13:11
"11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things."

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The Greatest Reunion Ever!

There are times when I miss my godly friends whom I have met on the internet and have been blessed to also meet in person. I miss those I have been able to speak with on the phone too.

 
Then God reminds me that soon we will all be at the marriage supper of the Lamb and then in the Millennium for one thousand years, AND, then eternity on the new earth forever.

 
This blesses me, that I will not be separated from them much longer and the reunion is going to be amazing, most of all we will be with Christ.

 
I think about my other internet friends I have never met face-to-face but are one in the Spirit with!!!! We will meet for the first time, but I have the sense that we will know one another on sight.

Imagine following around for eternity Christ, the apostles, the prophets and others who lived before us, learning all about their experiences and sharing ours with them.
I yearn for this time when we will all agree, we will all love one another and we will all be with our Savior in person.

 
Hallelujah!

Do Not Derail a Brothers/ Sisters Walk with Christ by Passing on Conspiracy Theories

I have been grieved by all the Christians who are falling into conspiracy deceptions on the internet. Before the internet believers spoke about the Bible, their families and the community in which they lived, things they saw and experienced for themselves.

 
Now we have continual attention being paid to things we have no way of vetting or proving except because someone else said it. It is a choice to believe these things because no one I know has actually seen these things for themselves, they are merely repeating what others are telling them and they are trusting the word of people they have never known personally.

When the internet first found its way into homes we all knew it was frot with foolishness and lies. Many Christians avoided it entirely because it was a hotbed of disinformation. Sadly now believers are wasting hours every day looking for things to feel frightened about on the world wide web all of which they have no proof or eyewitness themselves.

I am thankful for the legitimate preachers and others who are honest and accurate in their reporting. God has used the internet to bring the gospel and good teaching but everything must be prayed over before passing it on to someone else. Also, remember what is important, not what sounds intelligent but what would make good sense according to the scriptures.

 
I remember when I was a small child there would be what everyone called "rags" at the checkout stand at the grocery store. They were small newspapers full of ridiculously wild claims of events that any rational person knew were completely fabricated.

 
There were articles in these papers that had pictures of aliens from outer space, half-humans and animals, and many other such things any rational person would know are out-and-out lies.

 
Those who bought those papers were considered a little "off" because mainstream America didn't believe the lies, knowing they were too outlandish to believe, we made fun of the papers and kept our distance from those who read them.
In these last days, those tabloid newspapers have morphed into an entire world wide web system able to reach millions of people. I remember someone once said to me; "it must be true I saw it on the internet." I laughed because of what I know about tabloids and their irrational and monstrous claims.

 
And, people are more predisposed now to lies than they are to truth. They enjoy the lies, the drama, and the fighting that goes on over things that are not even true. We are living in the end times when lies are more prevalent than truth. This is the age of the Great Deception when people will believe a lie before they will believe the truth.

 
I have been grieved that so many people I love and who seem to love Christ have fallen into these deceptions. It is a "choice" to believe them because of the lack of any evidence. They believe what others say without question because a part of them likes the drama.

 
My solution to this problem is to refuse to listen to any of it, reject it if I have not seen it for myself and can do nothing about it if it were true.

 
Satan has been very clever, he works on the minds of people to make them feel like they have special knowledge merely by reading an article or seeing a video.
Someone in recent years told me he was becoming depressed from the terrible news stories he was seeing on the internet. My advice to him was to stop looking at it. If God didn't send us information for the purpose of carrying out His will for our lives then it is not relevant to us and is a huge distraction.

 
And, worse these things are causing fighting among Christians. Satan just loves us to be distracted and fight with one another over lies and the pride of believing we know something that is completely irrelevant to our walk with Christ.

 
I do not listen to videos or articles that warn us about food, government conspiracies or any other thing that God never spoke to me about. These are distractions and often vehicles to causing fear where there need not be fear. Satan loves for us to walk around frightened of things that do not even exist or if they did they have no impact on our daily lives.

2 Corinthians 11:14: "Satan disguises himself as an angel of light to mislead believers, highlighting the need for discernment."

2 Corinthians 11:3: "Paul warns the Corinthians against being deceived like Eve, emphasizing the need to guard against Satan's cunning."

Philippians 4:8 "
"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, think about these things."

Romans 12:2
"Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God."

Colossians 3:2
"Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things."

2 Corinthians 10:5
"We demolish arguments and every presumption set up against the knowledge of God; and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."

1 Thessalonians 5:21-22
"but test all things. Hold fast to what is good. / Abstain from every form of evil."
If you cannot prove it through your own witness, leave it alone, passing it on to someone else might derail their walk with Christ.

He Never Knew Them

There are many people who believe we are saved by grace through faith in Christ but that we can lose our salvation.

It makes no sense, because if we do not have the ability to save ourselves then why would we think we can keep ourselves.

 
Our faith as born-again believers is in Christ saving and keeping us.

 
Ephesians 2:8-10 "8 For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, 9 not a result of works, so that no one may boast. 10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them."

When Christ changed us into a new creation, He did that, we did not do it to ourselves. When He saved us He keeps His promise that He will continue to cleanse us to the end of our lives.

 
1 John 1:9
"9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

He gave us the vehicle of confess so that He will cleanse us. He will not cleanse someone who will not admit their sin. Those who are born-again will suffer loss even though they are saved, if they do not confess and turn from that which they should despise.

Hebrews 12:5-7 "…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not take lightly the discipline of the Lord, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises every son He receives.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?…"

God never rejects His children who have been changed by Him. The change was one of the heart and is permanent. We cannot change ourselves back to the old self nor would we want to.

 
Those who remain in a sinful lifestyle while defending it were never changed by Christ. They wanted the perks Christ has to offer but they didn't want Him to change them. They were never saved from hell or their sin, they remain unprotected from the devil and his wiles.

 
Job 5:17
"Blessed indeed is the man whom God corrects; so do not despise the discipline of the Almighty."

Sadly many people who enter the organized churches have never been born again and will hear the most fearful words of all as stated in Matthew 7:21-23, if they do not repent before they die.

Matthew 7:21-23
I Never Knew You
21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’"

Notice God never says anywhere they lost salvation, He says He never knew them. NEVER knew them!

Depend on Christ Alone

Anyone who is depending on their own good deeds to save them or even to keep them saved they have not trusted in Christ for salvation.

 
Our salvation is not dependent on anything about us, Christ paid the penalty of sin on the cruel cross and it was all He required, all we need to do is confess our sinfulness and He does all the work of changing us, cleansing us and guiding us from then on after which He takes us home.

 
It is irrational to think that one is saved by faith alone in Christ but thinks they need to keep their own salvation as if Christ's payment was not enough, we have to do some paying of our own.

If we cannot save ourselves by dying on the cross because we are sinful, then it is irrational to think that we take any part in keeping ourselves saved through our own good works.

God said, in Hebrews 13:5 "Make sure that your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, “I will never desert you, nor will I ever abandon you,”"

This was His promise to those who trust in Him, I believe Him. Nowhere in scripture does God say we can leave Him. There are those who add this to the scripture but it is not there. We have been completely changed by Him, we cannot change ourselves back into the old self. 

Noah Lost Family in the Flood Just as we will lose Family when the Rapture occurs

Next time you feel frustrated at the attitudes of family remember that Noah had a lot of relatives in the flood below the ark.

Many of those relatives were religious and thought they were good people, we know this because they had religious rituals they practiced with false gods as their focus. 

The false religion of self has dominated most people in our day. They believe since they are "special" people in their own minds, they are assured of heaven. They have not placed their trust in Jesus Christ but have claimed Him merely by using His name but retain their trust in their own goodness. They have not been changed by Christ because they want His perks but do not want Him. We know this by their rejection of His commands and principles in His Word.

Matthew 15:8-9 "8 ‘This people honors Me with their lips,

But their heart is far away from Me.
9 And in vain do they worship Me,
Teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.’”

Those who think they are saved but have not trusted in Christ but in their own version of religion will be shocked when they pass this life if they do not repent and place their trust in Christ. 

Matthew 7:21-23
I Never Knew You
21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’"

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Narcissists are Terrible Wingmen

Narcissists are terrible "wingmen", (a pilot who flies alongside the leader of a flying formation providing mutual support and backup in the accomplishment of a mission..) In other words wingmen are there for others to be a support so that the mission is able to run smoothly and successfully.

Narcissists will never be there for you when you need someone and will not allow you to be a part of their life experience. Giving help and receiving help is considered a weakness to the narcissist who thrives on the sense that they are above the need for help. They look down on anyone who needs help and cannot respect those who would like to help them.

 
One thing I have noticed with narcissists is that they will never accept help, they act as though it makes them look weak, as well as a desire to get all the glory for the accomplishment. If someone helps them they have to share the blessing, they cannot do this.

 
They are not team players who allow themselves to be subordinate to anyone else they cannot defer to others and receiving help makes a narcissist feel obligated to others something that is intolerable for them.

 
If a narcissist is to respond to a request for help it makes them feel subordinate to the person asking, so they will only help someone if it is their own idea and if it elevates them somehow. They often use the excuse that they are not responsible for others, this mantra affords them a guilt-free response to refusing to be helpful to anyone.

 
They won't believe anything you are experiencing but expect us to believe them when they share anything about themselves. Choosing to disbelieve our experiences is a way of having power over those they have little concern about. If they were to believe it they would have to engage in empathy, which is absent from their hearts. They see empathy as weakness and demean others who show it.
I have seen this a lot in situations when someone shares an experience in family dynamics, they will believe the one who denies what happened but disbelieve the one who exposes the truth.

 
Galatians 6:2 "bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ,"
Born-again believers love to be kind, loving, and helpful to one another. We enjoy blessing others through validation in their situations in life doing what we can, if only able to pray, it means a lot.

 
This is not about believing gossip but about believing the person who actually encountered their own experiences. If someone denies what we have been through with language like; "perhaps they didn't mean it." Or, "You must have heard that wrong", and worse, "They never said that." This is when we know we cannot trust our hearts with those who deny our experiences. When I encounter this a few times with someone I stop sharing anything with them. Why would we share with someone who is bent on making us look foolish?

 
Never go to a counselor who is not educated and familiar with narcissism, they will not understand the dynamics of the character flaws within the narcissist because they have never seen it or been the target in their own life.

 
Those who have been the target of these wicked people know very well what it looks like and would be able to fully understand the dynamics and tactics as well as the solutions to it.

 
May the Lord protect and guide all those who have been targets of these wicked people who are dominated by their own selfishness and the thoughts the devil places in their minds to further inflict emotional pain.

 
The devil uses people even more than thoughts to punish and abuse those who love Jesus Christ. He loves to tear families, communities, and churches apart through arrogance and pride, the same sin that got him thrown out of heaven.

 
James 4:7-8
"7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded."

The devil will tempt you through your feelings to respond in ways that delight the devil and the narcissist. Do not follow their lead, follow Christ instead.

Ephesians 6:11-13
"Put on the full armor of God, so that you can make your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this world’s darkness, and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore take up the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you will be able to stand your ground, and having done everything, to stand."

Matthew 4:10
“Away from Me, Satan!” Jesus told him. “For it is written: ‘Worship the Lord your God and serve Him only.’”

Hallelujah!!!!

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The devil's tactics are everywhere now. They dominate entire families and entire cultures. We know this because this is the end times and the devil is twisting minds continually.

 
When we know that Noah was the only family left dedicated to God, we know that it will be this way in the end times. Entire families and entire cultures will operate to destroy anyone who walks with Christ.

They are Leaving the Organized Church

It is a common story now for many born-again believers to be exiting the modern church, they are leaving the false organized church system to be alone with Christ.

Because they are alone, they grow faster and with greater wisdom than if they had remained with those superficial ritual-oriented gatherings.

I know Protestants think they are different from cults or Catholicism, but they are just the same. They have disobediently instituted leaders not according to the Bible but according to their own desire to monitor and dominate those in attendance.

The born-again believer who desires to follow Christ will want to follow all of God's principles, not to be legalistic but because doing so changes their heart from a self-exalted one to a humble heart of obedience to the One Who Knows the best that is Jesus Christ Who lives in them.

Legalists are always falsely judgmental about silly things, demanding that others follow them. When they are challenged to obey the Scriptures they become agitated and vengeful.

God's description of the Pharisees of Christ's time:

Matthew 23:4: "they "bind up heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on the shoulders of others; but they themselves are unwilling to lift a finger to move them".

Matthew 23:4-5 "…4They tie up heavy, burdensome loads and lay them on men’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them. 5 All their deeds are done for men to see. They broaden their phylacteries and lengthen their tassels. 6They love the places of honor at banquets, the chief seats in the synagogues,…"

Luke 20:46-47 "“Beware of the scribes. They like to walk around in long robes, and they love the greetings in the marketplaces, the chief seats in the synagogues, and the places of honor at banquets. They defraud widows of their houses, and for a show make lengthy prayers. These men will receive greater condemnation.”

John 5:44

"How can you believe if you accept glory from one another, yet do not seek the glory that comes from the only God?"

This description of the Pharisees could be a description of the modern one-man-paid-pastor who loves his prominent position because he thinks he is superior by virtue of his man-centered education. These men have elevated education by man above the leading of the Holy Spirit. We know this because of the many things they say and do that are not Biblical including the hierarchy system of the "pastorship."

1 Peter 5:5-6

"Young men, in the same way, submit yourselves to your elders. And all of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, so that in due time He may exalt you."

Those who lead according to the Bible do it by example and teaching but have no authority over the believer. To place man's authority over the believer is to place that man's authority over Christ Who lives in every believer. There is no teacher greater than the Holy Spirit.

In these last days of apostasy we will hear much wrong doctrine with arrogance and pride motivating those who love power over others. We must become strong enough to refuse to be intimidated by the manipulation, mocking, demeaning, and rejection that comes from requiring believers to obey the Word of God.

God values obedience and a humble heart more than outward religious rituals or sacrifices.

God hates dead ritual that only serves to elevate the one doing it. He is not impressed with man's rituals and holidays that God never commanded.

Mark 7:6-9 "And he said to them, “Well did Isaiah prophesy of you hypocrites, as it is written, “‘This people honors me with their lips, but their heart is far from me; in vain do they worship me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.’ You leave the commandment of God and hold to the tradition of men.” And he said to them, “You have a fine way of rejecting the commandment of God in order to establish your tradition!"

Many things being taught now are only the desired beliefs of those who wish to dominate others. They are not led by the Holy Spirit but by their need to feel special and elevated over others.

Colossians 2:8 "See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ."

Notice in Colossians that God tells us not to allow others to control us with their man-made ideas and the pressures of the culture that live in the modern church system.

To elevate any man as authority over you is to negate the Holy Spirit as the Authority over us. The Holy Spirit and His Bible is all we need. We enjoy the teachings of others when they obey Scripture, but we do not follow any preacher who brings a false doctrine that undermines the Bible.

Mark 7:13 "13 Thus you nullify the word of God by the tradition you have handed down. And you do so in many such matters.”

Keep in mind that if you follow the Bible and resolve to get your answers from the Holy Spirit there will be many people who will reject you for it. They have a cultural Christianity they want you to follow. The very fact that you follow Christ and not them will make them angry.

Galatians 4:17 "They are zealous for you, but not in a good way. They want to shut you out, so that you will be zealous for them."

Those who exclude you to punish you for not following them will hope that the rejection will weaken you and cause you to give up your dedication to Christ to be with them.

This is a classic narcissistic trick, to make others feel smaller so they will elevate the narcissist and their band of followers. When you have been changed by Christ you will not miss those groups that are full of arrogance and pride, it will be a blessing to be absent from them.

As we see in the Bible "The Judaizers' actions are not driven by genuine concern for the Galatians' spiritual well-being, but rather by a desire to gain influence and control."

We see this all the time in the modern churches. Those who are ignored and gossiped against are the ones who want to obey the Scriptures and seek Jesus Christ.

Thank the Lord that He said we will be filled with joy and peace no matter what others try to do to us. Our life is full of the Heart of Jesus Christ and our destiny is secure in Him.

The Wicked System of Pentecostalism

The wicked Pentecostal movement teaches people to command the Holy Spirit. They do this because they have boldly stated that they are "little gods", making them think they are equal to the Holy Spirit.

 
This wicked system accuses people of lacking faith when they encounter trials in their life as though if we are Christians we have the faith to avoid trials. Another satanic lie to undermine the faith of many.

Christ teaches the opposite, if we have trials they are what bring us to a greater faith. The trials grow us, refine us and reveal our hearts, they are necessary to grow in holiness.

This wicked system brings false guilt upon those who are seeking Christ and have greater faith through their trials. These are the lies of the devil attempting to discourage people as they hope for a life without tribulation but can't seem to build up enough faith to eliminate them, as though they are the ones holding themselves back and that they have the power over the Holy Spirit if they have enough faith to get everything they want.

 
There are many things in this false system that are exactly opposite of what God said. This is why we know it is orchestrated by the devil to distract and discourage people.

 
2 Timothy 4:3 "For the time will come when they will not tolerate sound doctrine; but wanting to have their ears tickled, they will accumulate for themselves teachers in accordance with their own desires,"

God commands us to avoid those who cause division through false doctrine while controlling and dominating others., who undermine the faith of others.

 
2 Timothy 4:2-4 "…2Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.…"

These are the last days, we will see more of this false teaching than we see of the truth. Those who use false teaching will attempt to intimidate, mock, and dominate those they think are weak. Do not be weak, be Holy Spirit-led and you will not be influenced by the false way, but empowered to combat it with the true way.,

Knowing the Tactics of the Devil to Resist His Ways

When narcissists can no longer control your emotions they will tell lies, twist facts, and make you seem unstable to control how others see you. Destruction of our reputation will be the next step to harm their victim in some way.

Remember this is what the devil did in the garden with Eve. He managed to convince Eve not to listen to God because God was not telling her the whole truth. In other words, God was lying to her freeing her to be able to ignore God.

I have seen this exact same tactic in human interpersonal relationships. Those who are jealous and hate us for silly reasons because they cannot stand to see us confident and joyful will attempt many things to turn others against us.

 
Proverbs 29:9:
"If a wise person goes to court with a fool, the fool rages and scoffs, and there is no peace."

 
Psalm 58:3 "Even from birth the wicked go astray; from the womb they are wayward, spreading lies".

 
The narcissist is basically a fool frot with internal guilt and malice, to the point they must make others look like the problem to take the focus off of their own sin.
When we are personally treated with contempt for the slightest perceived offense without an explanation as to the specific transgression, we can be sure a narcissist is attempting to manipulate others to be against us.

 
It is one of the methods to plant lies in the minds of others that make them pull back from us. Those who listen to the narcissist must also be ignored. After all, if they will believe gossip they did not see for themselves, they are aligned with evil and cannot be trusted to believe the truth.

 
The narcissist doesn't ever have open honest discussion about the specifics of what we did that deserved this contempt, because if they were to be honest the offense they have would sound silly and petty to a rational person.

 
It has been my experience that a narcissist will say things like, "they are mean" or "They are selfish" without any evidence to prove these accusations. Their assertions are always in generalities and when asked to give specifics they shut down the conversation through rage, hoping to intimidate the one asking questions to clarify, to end it so they don't have to answer.

 
Narcissists always speak in generalities and adamantly resist questions to clear up things. They see questioning them as manipulation, because if they were questioning someone it would be for the purpose of tripping up their target, not for discovering the truth.

 
Narcissists view questioning as leaving them in the subordinate position because they must defer to the one asking by complying. All the narcissists I have met refuse to answer questions.

 
Raging and resisting open dialogue is the go-to tactic of those who love the drama and worse, they love to win. They don't care about truth, only about winning. They consider it a win when their target becomes upset and frustrated or when they have managed to turn someone else against their target.

 
The strategies of the narcissist are numerous and always malevolent, full of anger and hatred. In other words it is the devil who is influencing them without their knowledge. He plants ideas in their heads as he did with Eve in the garden and then they believe it because their heart likes what they are hearing in their heads.

 
This problem of devilish hatred and lack of cooperation to resolve a problem is present in all people who view themselves as superior to others. Dialoguing to consider someone else is anathema to the one who must feel superior to others.
From all I have seen I know that mankind is born with this but there are some families who are predisposed to this mentality of superiority more than others. There is a genetic component to this matter that thrives in certain families.

 
The only way to overcome this is to refuse to engage with those who love themselves above God and others. We can pray for them but this does not mean we should spend time with them. They are nothing but trouble and drama in everything we do with them.

 
They never miss an opportunity to display rudeness, lies, and deception to elevate themselves and blame it on their targets.

 
I have witnessed narcissists turn children against their parents on the testimony of the children alone, without speaking to the parents. I have seen them embellish things about others based on guesses they think might be going on without any personal witness to the truth about the situation. And, worse those who hear believe the narcissist without question.

I have even seen them "guess" that a man left his domineering wife for another woman, blaming the woman for everything. From what I saw the woman was not controlling and domineering, she was merely attempting to guide her family down a righteous path. It was the husband who was evil not the wife. This was irrational since the judging woman did not live in that home to see all that went on there. Guessing about what might be happening is sin, based on a desire to justify the man's horrendous sin while blaming the wife for it.

 
Those who are continually judging the hearts of others will make up lies to support their desired belief to make themselves seem righteous and superior. They will judge silly things without any evidence. They will judge the person they don't like, who they can't control as the villain in their saga while propping up the real villain.
One woman judged me as having not provided good food for my husband who had kidney stones. This person wanted to blame me for my husband's kidney stones. By the way, kidney stones are genetic in my husband's family, and I didn't cook for any of his family members. This is irrational and unnecessary for the woman to make a judgment on it, the only reason to attempt to judge it was to make the target feel bad in some way, diminishing her joy at recovery, even burdening her further during a difficult time of recovery.

 
This same woman told me I didn't need gallbladder surgery after the surgery, because I could have cured it naturally. It was obvious that this person was not a doctor, had never been in the lab to even see the gall bladder, and had not spoken to my doctor. But in her mind, she knew all about my situation and demeaned me for making my own personal decisions about my own healthcare. This is irrational to make a decision about something without any information to back it up. It is a deliberate attempt to negate me as a person. This "know-it-all" mentality is always associated with narcissism. What other reason could there be to tell a person after their surgery how foolish they were for doing something that was a good thing?

 
Those who are hell-bent on mocking, demeaning, and gossiping against others cannot be trusted on any level. Even their kind acts are suspect, they are done to manipulate, impress, and deceive others.

 
If I were to put all my personal experiences with narcissists in a book it would be lengthy. We live in a region where narcissism is rampant, rudeness is common, and rarely do others care about anyone but themselves.

 
The narcissist would call this paranoid, I am convinced we are living in the last days described in 2 Timothy 3 when every mentality of the heart is based on ruining others to elevate self.

 
When I pondered and prayed about this one day I realized how entrenched these last days are in the attitudes of the days of Noah, in which everyone did what was right in their own eyes and no one would listen to truth or instruction. In other words, each person on the earth would only believe what they wanted to and would trample on anyone who came along and told them a rational and reasonable, and Biblical way to think.

 
Then I asked myself what the days of Noah looked like, that cleared everything up for me. One family was saved from the flood out of millions of people who perished for their wickedness in that flood.

 
Even many of Noah's family were in the water below the boat just as now when the family members of born-again believers will not be in the rapture when it comes.
Everyone makes an off comment from time to time without meaning to be mean. With the narcissist, the rude and mean comments are continual, regular and so much so that they are expected when we share anything with them we can expect the same attitude every time. They are seriously predictable but think they are clever.

 
God was clear to stay away from those who are divisive and contemptuous.
Proverbs 18:2-3 "…2 A fool does not delight in understanding, but only in airing his opinions. 3 With a wicked man comes contempt as well, and shame is accompanied by disgrace."

Psalm 1:1
"Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, or set foot on the path of sinners, or sit in the seat of mockers."

Psalm 36:1-2
"For the choirmaster. A Psalm of David, the servant of the LORD. An oracle is in my heart regarding the transgression of the wicked man: There is no fear of God before his eyes. For his eyes are too full of conceit to detect or hate his own sin."

Isaiah 57:20-21
"But the wicked are like the storm-tossed sea, for it cannot be still, and its waves churn up mire and muck. “There is no peace,” says my God, “for the wicked.”
Those who love Christ share in the burdens of others, they never diminish what their friends are going through or judge without cause. There is no love in the narcissist, we know because of the following passages.

 
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
"4 Love is patient, love is kind, it is not jealous; love does not brag, it is not arrogant.
5 It does not act disgracefully, it does not seek its own benefit; it is not provoked, does not keep an account of a wrong suffered,
6 it does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 it keeps every confidence, it believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

May believers recognize the wicked mentalities of the lost world and resolve to be different. May the guidance of the Holy Spirit bring them to a character based on love and selflessness. May we diminish so that Christ would increase.