Beware of Those Who Probe

Beware of those who probe you for information, they may be using it to gossip.

A gossip will attempt to "pull" information out of you if you decline to answer. Instead of taking a hint that you are not comfortable sharing information with them, they will ask the question over and over again until you have to tell them straight out, that the information is not anything you wish to share. Then they will use that comment to judge that you must have something to hide.

Only one encounter like this warns me enough to avoid that person.

I cannot count the number of times I have encountered this with gossips. They will ask lots of personal questions, about your family, about your finances and about your plans for the future, disguising it as interest in you, only to have something to say about you to others. They love to take the information, no matter how innocent it is, embellish it to be able to judge your life and spin it in a way that makes us look bad in the eyes of their hearers.

Beware of the gossips that ask a lot of questions but will tell you nothing about themselves except generalities that make their life look good. Those who do not share openly and honestly, while probing you for information, do not have your welfare in mind.

Ephesians 4:29 "29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."

Proverbs 20:19
"He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, Therefore do not associate with a gossip."

Ephesians 4:29
"Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear."

Proverbs 16:28
"A perverse man spreads strife, And a slanderer separates intimate friends."

Titus 3:2
"to malign no one, to be peaceable, gentle, showing every consideration for all men."

Exodus 23:1
"You shall not bear a false report; do not join your hand with a wicked man to be a malicious witness."

Remember the narcissists will accuse us of doing what the narcissist is doing to throw others off the track. If you have been maligned in this way, the solution is quite simple, remove yourselves from the narcissist, never give him any information about your life and that goes for their flying monkeys too. Anyone who listens to the narcissist is not your friend, they are the enemy.

Psalm 101:5
"Whoever secretly slanders his neighbor, him I will destroy; No one who has a haughty look and an arrogant heart will I endure."