Narcissists see "victims" as weak which is why they pretend to be the strong one when they are not strong. If they were strong they wouldn't feel the need to demean others to elevate themselves.
We are not victims even though we may be targets. To remain strong when under attack takes the Holy Spirit work in our lives. The prophets of old were as picked on as is possible to be but they continued doing what God assigned them because He was their focus.
When our focus is Christ we do not have to be controlled and manipulated by others. Anyone who will not be our friend unless they can control us is no friend at all. These people need to see our boundaries and remove themselves if they refuse to honor them. If they refuse to remove themselves then we can remove them.
Do not bother attempting to prove to a narcissist that what they believe about us is not true, they never listen and if they happen to listen they do so to have information to twist and mock.
If they will not go away, remove the narcissist trouble maker by blocking them on phones, e-mails and visits. Never be available to them to continue their nonsense. If you live in the same town and cannot get away, then consider moving to another town or another state.
Matthew 10:34-37
"“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. And a person's enemies will be those of his own household. Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me."
When we cannot leave family to follow Christ, then those family members are idols to us. Far too many people remain with family members who want nothing to do with Christ, diminishing their walk with Him.
Luke 14:33
"So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple."
If anyone has placed extended family above their spouse, they have a family idol and are disobedient to the word.
Ephesians 5:31
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
If family members have heard the gospel and rejected it or have claimed to be Christian but remain superficial trouble makers, then we are commanded to move on to follow Christ without them.
Matthew 7:21-23
"21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’"
Bottom Line: Follow Christ even if you have to do it all alone. God will bring people to us as He sees the timing is right, we must trust Him.
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