The Average Silent Treatment

The average silent treatment from a narcissist is about 4 and a half days. Sometimes they will go weeks and months if they have other narcissistic supply from other people who will keep them feeling safe in spite of what they are doing to their target.

The silent treatment is designed to cause intense frustration to the point of deep hurt and irrational thinking.

If the target of a narcissist begs the narcissist to speak to them or resolve something the victim can expect the silent treatment to continue longer. The more a target attempts to talk or resolve things the worse the narcissist becomes.

The best thing to do is to ignore the tantrum of the narcissist and get on with your life until they are ready to be sorry. They can become sorry because you are not responding but not because they are sorry they acted badly. Everything is manipulation to bring about their own desires.

I have seen the silent treatment go on for 10 years and longer. When someone ghosts another person for months and years we can count the relationship as over and move on to those who do care about a rational and caring relationship.

I have a saying the Lord gave me. "If someone makes it clear they don't want me, then I go away and give them what they want. "

God does this too with people who have rejected Him. He does not go chasing after them hoping one more encounter will be the one time they finally love Him. God is a gentleman, He will never force anyone to love Him, nor will He be there for them when they try to use Him at times of difficulty.

Proverbs 1:27-29 "…27 when your dread comes like a storm, and your destruction like a whirlwind, when distress and anguish overwhelm you. 28 Then they will call on me, but I will not answer; they will earnestly seek me, but will not find me. 29 For they hated knowledge and chose not to fear the LORD.…"

We can expect more of this attitude in these last days, it is good to know what we are watching so we will not be emotionally drawn into their tactics.

1 Corinthians 15:33

"Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

When someone comes at us with hate and manipulation it is easy to find ourselves responding to them the same way they treated us, it's human nature. The devil is the author of all of this. If he can get us to act the way we are treated by others he can destroy our faith and witness as a believer.

Proverbs

"Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare."

Psalm 26:4-5

"I do not sit with men of falsehood, nor do I consort with hypocrites. I hate the assembly of evildoers, and I will not sit with the wicked."

Psalm 1:1-4

"Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away."