The Essence of the Narcissist

They fear truth, avoid advice and dread change. Until they become born again there is no hope for them to ever be close to anyone authentically. Everything is a competition and everyone who has kindness and empathy will be discarded because of this mentality of superiority. They will discard anyone they think is superior to them. 

Those who love God and have been born again know they are not superior to anyone else, and they know that it is only Christ in them Who is good. 

The fruit of the Spirit of the born-again believer is this:

Galatians 5:22-23: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."

Matthew 7:17-20
"17 So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit."

No one who follows Christ will consistently act superior or rude to elevate self because they have the love of Christ in them.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 
"4. Love is patient, love is kind, it is not jealous; love does not brag, it is not arrogant. 5 It does not act disgracefully, it does not seek its own benefit; it is not provoked, does not keep an account of a wrong suffered, 6 it does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 it keeps every confidence, it believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

This is how we know if someone has been born again:

John 13:35
"35 By this all people will know that you are My disciples: if you have love for one another.”

One of the defining character qualities of the born-again believer is their love and concern for brothers and sisters in Christ, sharing His principles and truth with their church family and their compassion for those who are lost causing them to share the gospel with those who are perishing. 

There are many indicators mentioned in the scriptures that tell us who belong to the family of God and who does not. Pay attention to these principles and you will be able to discern who is your brother or sister and who is a pretender, of whom there are many in these last days. Those who are pretenders must be avoided, they will work to undermine what God is doing in you and those who associate with you.

2 Timothy 3:1-5 3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 

2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 

3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, 

4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 

5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

Many believers are leaving the organized church system because they are experiencing the wrath of pretenders who dominate the gatherings now. These pretenders speak scripture passages out of context to fit their desired church culture and intimidate through overt and covert means those who speak the truth to silence them. We cannot remain in gatherings that undermine God's Word as they preach false doctrine and superficial matters. 

May the Lord guide everyone who loves Him to be where He wants them free of the dictates of the apostate organized church system. Pray for wisdom and He will give it freely to anyone who wants to understand.