Human Beings as Objects to be Controlled

The Second Timothy three types do not see people as human beings but rather as objects to be used.

2 Timothy 3:1-9
"1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,
7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
8 Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith.
9 But they shall proceed no further: for their folly shall be manifest unto all men, as their's also was."

They have no connection to their things, their kitchen stove or their car, they simply use them. They may even like them as long as they operate the way they want them to operate. When they are no longer useful, they throw them away and get another one that serves them better.

The spiritual narcissist has no connection to God except what they think He can offer them. They look to God for all their needs, for personal validation and for a place in heaven, but without a desire to actually please Him.

Those who think of God in this way cannot be born again. They have come to God through a back door, not through Jesus Christ but through their own desire to feel safe and superior.

For the spiritual narcissist God's usefulness is not at all about Him, its about their appearances of spirituality and elevation in the eyes of others.

These people know things about God, will speak them while at the same time making no effort to obey what they know. God is a prop for the narcissist, just as are all the relationships in the narcissists life.

Feelings take priority over facts in the life of the narcissist. We see many Pentecostals who operate nearly entirely on the basis of how things make them feel. Obedience to the word is not important as long as everyone in the room is happy and senses a personal elevation to everyone else who is not in the room.

There is a much higher rate of divorce among the Pentecostals since obedience to the word is not a priority but feelings are, then they are free to do what they please. While justifying it because God gave them a feeling, that it was right. God always gets the blame for these failures to obey God's Word. They often assign to God what God never said or never did, it removes the guilt that comes from disobeying Him.

God and people are merely props to the narcissists stage production. These people can destroy others, malign the truth of God and make a ruinous heap of any relationship without even noticing.

Spiritual narcissists are full of jealousy as well as the need to be superior to everyone. Narcissists have a deep envy for those who have talents or gifts the narcissist does not have but often believe they have.

Their view of self is so elevated that no one can touch it. At the same time they are jealous of others, its a conundrum. They believe they are superior and yet are jealous. If they really think they are superior then there would be no need to be jealous, since no one can compete with their own talents and gifts, or so they think. There is a conflict of epic proportions going on in the mind of those who seek to reach godhood of their own merit.

The narcissist loves people with talents and gifts as long as the narcissist gets some or all of the credit for those qualities that the other person possesses.

John 15:9-11 "…9 As the Father has loved Me, so have I loved you. Remain in My love. 10 If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love. 11 I have told you these things so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.…'"

There is pent up anger in many of these people, we know there is because when we inform them of their disobedience, their first response is to rage, intimidation into silence is one of the tools on the tool belt of the narcissist.

Proverbs 29:10-12 "…10 Men of bloodshed hate the blameless, But the upright are concerned for his life. 11 A fool always loses his temper, But a wise man holds it back. 12 If a ruler pays attention to falsehood, All his ministers become wicked.…"

And so here we are, in the midst of insanity in a culture that elevates feelings above rational thinking and places people in leadership roles who have no more sense than a six year old when it comes to righteousness or godliness. Most "pastors" in the pulpit today are more concerned about entertaining the people than they are about raising up a standard from the Bible, while elevating Christ.

Narcissists have the mentality of a spoiled six year old, they rage when they don't get their way or when someone tells them they are wrong about anything. If they don't get their candy they are mean to the one who withheld their treat. In the case of the narcissistic pastors, their treat is popularity through compromise.

Relationship Problems Created by Tradition

Something to think about:

It is interesting the relationship problems that occur when someone decides to give up the man made holidays that began in paganism.

There are people who will become upset with family members for not celebrating with them the very things that had no basis in the Bible, and worse yet, that were orchestrated by the devil in paganism, deceiving Christians into believing they were about God. Or should I say, the have tacked onto the pagan holidays Christianeze to make them acceptable to the church.

Then of course there is the matter of the greeting card industry that managed to create an emotional bond between the greeting card and family relationships.

How many times have we experienced a family member who didn't receive a card, feeling unloved, as if the the card itself was the expression of someone's love.

I am so done with all these manipulations and holidays. Sadly those who decide to be done with the man made rules and traditions of society, will be treated with contempt or excluded from relationships for not participating what everyone else thinks they should be doing.

The devil has managed to cause family hurt feelings and division through the expectations of people to celebrate that which isn't even godly.

Just so you know, I am done with all the man made rules that have nothing to do with Christ. I judge no one else for it, I just have made this choice for myself, that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

Jeremiah 10
" 2 Thus says the LORD, "Do not learn the way of the heathens, And do not be terrified by the signs of the heavens Although the nations are terrified by them; 3 For the customs of the peoples are delusion;"

We are free in Christ to practice what we believe, if we lose a friend over it, then perhaps that person was never our friend or they would operate with understanding and accept our boundaries and choices for ourselves.

Authentic Love

Authentic love does not have to do with performance, it just is! That does not mean we will be accepting sin, but the love creates in us a desire to help the one we love to see the flaws to be able to confess them and be cleansed of them.

1 John 1:9

"9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

There is nothing more agonizing than when we love someone, see them going down a road that will harm them, and they will not listen to reason or pray to be given wisdom from God.

Feelings Trumping Facts: A Disordered Socitey

The "self esteem" teachings of the schools and churches have taught people to be hypersensitive to everything. Everything is about "feelings", in fact feelings trump facts in our culture, it's very strange.

The Immaturing of America

I saw a title to an article, that I did not read, that said; "30 is the new 20", regarding the maturity level of the next generation. This amused me because of what I have been observing in those who are in their 30's today.

This resonated with me because it is exactly what I have been noticing. The next generation is far less mature than "30 somethings" were 70 years ago.

Reactions to things are based more on feelings than facts or rational evaluation of things. They do not let anything roll off, allowing others to have their own personalities, but expect others to act and speak they way THEY want them to in order to feel acceptable. Their personal identity is deeply connected to what others think of them.

When someone's mentality is based on being elevated or validated by others, they lack maturity. There was a day when most people did what was right because it was right, it didn't matter if anyone else accepted or approved of them for it. This is maturity, our decisions are made rationally and based on good evidence rather than on feelings.

When we are comfortable in our own skin, we have no sense of needing to be acceptable to others. We choose to treat others with respect based on our desire to be a loving and kind person, not on whether or not we think they deserve it according to our own idea of good.

Believers who walk with Christ intimately have no need of being accepted by the world, because they are accepted by Christ, He lives in them and their value comes from His love, not our own performance.

Galatians 2:20
"I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.:"

1 John 4:19
"We love because he first loved us."

When we love Christ His love flows from us to others without our own effort, it comes naturally because of Who He is in us.

John 13:35 "35 By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you love one another.”

The Manager of the Home

Proverbs 31 makes the woman the manager of the home, the CEO if you will. It is out of order for the man to do the job that GOD gave to the woman.

The man should never involve himself in the job God has given the woman. Yes, she considers the needs and desires of those who live there, but she makes the ultimate decision about how the household will be run.

The man is the leader, a good leader does not micro-manage those under him. He allows each one to do their job with their talents and expertise.

The leader also, if he is wise, listens to his counselors, in the case of marriage that is the wife.

There is a wrong teaching that has emerged in the past few years that the man dictates everything for the woman, this is unBilbical and devastating to the family.

No one man can have all the answers and do all the jobs, he must trust his wife to make wise choices to do the job that GOD gave to her. Hear this please, the husband did not give the job of homemaking to the woman, it was God that gave it to her. For the man to insert himself into her managing of the household is to usurp God. He may express his desires and if she is a good wife she will take them into account, but he has no right to dictate or intimidate the woman to do things his way, that is anarchy against God.

Women are bored at home these days because they do not do the job the way God intended, they ignore it while doing other pleasurable things. Pleasure can get boring after awhile, it is hard work and accomplishment that brings fulfillment.

The job of the woman is "home based", she does not spend 8 hours a day, fives days a week away from her children and household. Her household is her base of operation and she spends much time there planning, working and arranging matters.

To learn the job of the woman as given by God, read Proverbs 31, its all in there. If she does her job well, then even her husband will be respected in the community.

Proverbs 31: 10-31 Description of a Worthy Woman
10 An excellent wife, who can find?
For her worth is far above jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She looks for wool and flax
And works with her hands in delight.
14 She is like merchant ships;
She brings her food from afar.
15 She rises also while it is still night
And gives food to her household
And portions to her maidens.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength
And makes her arms strong.
18 She senses that her gain is good;
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hands grasp the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
And she stretches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household,
For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies belts to the tradesmen.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
And she smiles at the future.
26 She opens her mouth in wisdom,
And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She looks well to the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and bless her;
Her husband also, and he praises her, saying:
29 “Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her the product of her hands,
And let her works praise her in the gates."

No Artifacts are Needed

God condemns artifacts to help us worship. If we need an object, then we are trusting in that object rather than Christ.

Objects are idols, anything we trust to help us in any way, other than Christ, is an idol. Those who use them should repent and learn to trust Christ alone.

John 4:24
"24 God is [a]spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.”