God's Way is the Only Way, All Others are the Devils Counterfeits

For many years now a disciplinary technique has been employed on two generations of people, that is "time out."

There is nothing more devastating to a child than to be isolated sending the message that if you don't act the way we want you to we are not going to love you. You will be culled out of the herd and disrespected because you are not like us.

God's way is to use the rod in discipline which shows the children they are being corrected and allowed to remain with the family. Physical pain corrects behavior but does not "throw away" a child to cause frustration and hurt. Spanking hurts for a short time but isolation continues to hurt long after the discipline has passed.

Those who have isolated their children to make them feel lonely and without love have caused anger in them.

The children I have known who were isolated in this way through "time out" do not change their heart only their outer appearance to accommodate the parent and those who have been disciplined God's way are more likely to change their heart because they know they are loved and can remain with the family.

I have noticed that those who have been isolated through "time out" often use this tactic of "setting aside" someone when they disagree as adults. The message they send is "if you don't agree with me I am not going to love you."

There is no reasoning with someone who thinks the only way they can love someone is when the person thinks just like they think.

Proverbs 18:1

"Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment."

1 Corinthians 12:14

"For the body does not consist of one member but of many."

Many modern techniques and ideas come from psychology based on evolution and not Biblical.

The modern idea of the hierarchy of the church, a wrong idea about forgiveness, the traditions of men that God never commanded are common in our world today. The pressure to conform to the traditions of men is immense and constant. It takes a Spirit filled person who is able to think for themselves to be able to stand against all the wrong thinking.

Isaiah 55:8 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord”

When we add things to the Bible in our teachings that God never said we are placing man's wisdom above God.

Proverbs 13:24

"He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him".

Proverbs 19:18

"Discipline your children while they are young enough to learn. If you don't, you are helping them destroy themselves".

Proverbs 29:17

"Discipline your child and he/she will give you rest; he/she will give you delight to your heart".

Isolation is not discipline it is manipulation to frustrate.

Proverbs 29:15-17

15 A rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother. 16 When the wicked thrive, rebellion increases; but the righteous will see their downfall."

Proverbs 22:6

"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."

When we train a child with isolation to manipulate it is the way they will act when they are adults.

We live in a day when correction is seen as the new hate speech. It is easier to isolate someone to cause frustration of loneliness than it is to use the rod and allow the child to continue with the family.

This problem of isolating people who are not just like us is a tactic of the devil he has used it beginning with child-rearing creating children who become adults using it with those who dare to correct them.

The devil is a clever fellow, seeking to cause rebellion against God's ways in favor of "good sounding" humanistic ways based on evolution that destroy families and relationships in general.

Yes, we are to remove ourselves from those who do not love God, but this does not mean we punish people on a regular basis for not thinking just like we think. Our removal of people is based on their destructiveness toward us not on how they think.

Hebrews 12:11

"No discipline seems enjoyable at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it yields a harvest of righteousness and peace to those who have been trained by it."

Ephesians 6:4

"Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath; instead, bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."

Isolating children provokes them to wrath. God's way with proper discipline by the rod adjusts their behavior without separating them from the family.

Proverbs 23:13-14

"Do not withhold discipline from a child; although you strike him with a rod, he will not die. / Strike him with a rod, and you will deliver his soul from Sheol."

Those who use modern evolutionary ways to bring up their children will see those children using those methods on them when they are adults.

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a "Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth."

In my estimation isolation to correct children is mean and disrespectful causing resentment rather than correcting.

The first question to ask in this matter of child training is "What did God say to do." Everything else the culture tells us will be short of God's perfect way.