James 1:7-8
"…7 That man should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. 8 He is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways."
Those who are love bombing you one minute and raging at you the next, is very likely using manipulation to intimidate you into feeling inferior to them.
Sadly this works for those who are sympathetic people, those who cannot stand the thought of hurting others. It is often effective for the narcissist to accuse a sensitive kind hearted person of being mean to control their emotions.
If the narcissist can control the emotions of their target, they can have a perpetual source of supply. Their supply is the one who allows them to dominate them as well as the sense of supremacy. More than anything else the narcissist has an unhealthy need to be elevated above their target.
This need to be superior drives the narcissist to evaluating their target as unworthy of encouragement or validation. If the narcissist can have a friend who is easily manipulated to feel inferior, this is supply for the child like narcissist. In short they are the bullies in the family.
Families often have more than one bully, because someone in the family has been allowing the bully to continue their monstrous behavior without challenge or discipline. The more a bully gets away with their actions the worse they become.
2 Timothy 3:12-14 "…12 Indeed, all who desire to live godly lives in Christ Jesus will be persecuted, 13 while evil men and imposters go from bad to worse, deceiving and being deceived. 14 But as for you, continue in the things you have learned and firmly believed, since you know from whom you learned them."
Our world has become saturated with those who fit the description in 2 Timothy 3. The culture has a whole has coddled the perpetrators of evil while chastising the victims for complaining about the treatment against them.
Isaiah 5:20-21 "20 Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who turn darkness to light and light to darkness, who replace bitter with sweet and sweet with bitter. 21 Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes and clever in their own sight.…"
One of the hallmarks of this culture is the propensity for people to be "know-it-alls", people who really believe they should be treated like little gods, having all knowledge while raging when someone dares to tell the truth. Any challenge at all are met with intense anger toward the truth teller. There is never an apology for the outburst, the idea of having to admit one may be wrong or apologize is anathema to the self righteous narcissist.
Keep looking up, one day soon we will be going home and this will no longer be a part of our existence. Knowing this should make it easier to move through this time with more understanding and greater resolve to keep on going for the Lord.
Ignore those who would work against us, tell the truth anyway and be willing to take the lumps that come because of it.
Hallelujah!!!
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