Gaslighting 101

This is exactly right!!! I have seen all of this regularly with family members. One of the first things they do when we question them is too rage so we become intimidated to cause us to think we did something wrong for asking. Its a dead give away that they have no intention of talking things out to come to a common understanding. They simply want to steam roll over you, it makes them look powerful without being smart enough to have answers. The narcissists I know would never allow you to record something. I have actually suggested that I take notes because I do not remember what is said. These people talk so long and so fast that you cannot respond and by the time they take a breath you have forgotten the first things they said. Also, I try to interrupt to clarify something they said and then they rage and refuse to answer anything I have said in the interruption. The talking too long, and refusing to answer your question is a way of shutting down the conversation. When someone does this we know they are dishonest and hiding their real intent.