Scapegoating within the Church Gatherings

If you have been a scapegoat in a family you will understand my meaning in this thread.

"The sins of the father being visited down to the third and fourth Generation" by example.

God does not visit the sins onto future generations and there is no curse, however, there is an example of those in the family that has indoctrinated all the other members to the point that future generations cannot wrap their mind around the truth when it stands right in front of them. It's called brainwashing due to exposure to lies over and over again coupled with the fear of rejection from those who wish them to believe certain things about someone.

"More is caught than taught."

If the whole family doesn't like the scapegoat there must be a reason even if the children and grandchildren don't know what it is, they have been trained to interpret everything the scapegoat does or says in terms of how others treat the scapegoat and the gossip they have heard about the scapegoat.

The third and fourth generation doesn't know why everyone hates that person in the family but being an entrenched part of the family system they go with whatever the majority or the family leader is doing in order to be accepted by the mob.

Usually there is a leader who drives everything and is surrounded by flying monkeys, those who do the leader's bidding.

And, it is family mobbing in the sense that no one will see the truth because they would be rejected if they did and especially if they dared to challenge the family gossip.

All family members operate in unison except the outliers, those who have detached from the family system, who do not like what they see and also become rejected for their honesty about what is going on in the family.

Sadly many church systems have perverted the meaning of love by coddling and pampering the perpetrators while demanding the victims to forgive when no confession of wrongdoing happened.

The church as a whole cannot be helpful to the victims of wicked people. You see, it is easier to sweep things under the rug under the guise of caring for the perp than to expose things to be health with openly and honestly.

Laziness is at the core of this mentality. If the perp were held to a standard and required to repent then the victim would see justice and healing. This is rare in most gatherings because the Biblical standards of repentance and forgiveness have been perverted, erring on the side of the wicked ones while throwing the victims under the bus.

Satan is very happy about this, sin grows while righteousness is decreased in the very buildings that people call the houses of God. The evil ones get away with their sin as they grow worse as they get away with just about anything. The victims are seen as whiners without advocates further abused by those who say they are Christians.

Proverbs 29:9-10 "9 If a wise man goes to court with a fool, there will be raving and laughing with no resolution. 10 Men of bloodshed hate a blameless man, but the upright care for his life.…"

Church gatherings to day claim they are hospitals for the sick but in reality most are not only not healing anyone they are fostering illness by not handling sin Biblically as they defend and coddle those who love their sin.

My plea to all the victims of narcissistic abuse in church gatherings is to get out of them, do not blame God, and be satisfied to be alone with Him if you have to.

We are living in the last days, we can be alone with Christ through prayer and Bible reading we can become stronger than if we remain in those dead and lifeless, even monstrous gatherings that pretend to be Christian.

What you see in the church gatherings today is this;

2 Timothy 3:1-5

Difficult (ragingly insane) Times Will Come

3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.

2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,

3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,

4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,

5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

This ought to encourage you as negative as it sounds because it validates those who have seen this but didn't know what to call it or doubted their own experience.