Narcissists Earned the Deep Shame They Possess

The narcissist has deep shame because they know what they have done to others but rather than repenting they lay the blame on those they have harmed.

No one can blame their childhood or life experiences on anyone else but themselves. We can choose our path, either anger or love.

I have seen people who were deeply abused as children reject the way their families operated and become godly people who do not harm others.

I have seen people who weren't abused in childhood who grow up to abuse others because of their sense of superiority and that need to be dominant over others.

Our childhood influences us but it does not shape us. We choose which path we want to take, either anger or the love for others that they did not give us.

Ezekiel 18:19-23

"The soul that sins, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son: the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him."

When we get before the Lord to be judged we will not be able to say to Him, "but Lord I was abused as a child." Nor will we be able to justify ourselves for our good deeds. We will not be able to say; "I had to be mean because others provoked me."

Everything we choose to do or be will be on us. Those who use excuses for mean behavior will be found guilty. Those who have repented from their ungodly behavior and trust in Christ will be accepted and are forgiven.

We do well to remember we never have a good excuse for bad behavior.