How We Interpret What Happens To Us!

Everyone interprets what they hear according to their own biases and according to their own mindset.

An angry person will see an insult where there is no insult. They suspect others of being insulting because angry people are continually using rudeness to control the feelings of others.

A kind and loving person may miss an insult because they interpret what is said according to what they would be feeling if they said such a thing. Or they might interpret an insult as being from someone who had a problem that day because in their mind no one would do that for no reason at all.

The kind person may even blame themselves for somehow making someone else upset without knowing what they did to cause it. Kind people hate harming anyone, they will quickly evaluate themselves to make sure they were not offensive and even inquire to find out what they may have done or said that was offensive.

A wise person never offends to control others and they can see when someone is manipulating to increase a feeling of guilt in them or others.

Proverbs 1:4-6 "…4 To impart prudence to the simple and knowledge and discretion to the young, 5 let the wise listen and gain instruction, and the discerning acquire wise counsel 6 by understanding the proverbs and parables, the sayings and riddles of the wise.…"

Proverbs 9:9

"Instruct a wise man, and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man, and he will increase his learning."

Proverbs 14:6

"A mocker seeks wisdom and finds none, but knowledge comes easily to the discerning."

The purpose in knowing the tactics of unruly people is to be able to respond correctly while never allowing ourselves to become like them by replying in kind or in anger. Those who are confident about their ways have no need to defend themselves or become caught in the web of the narcissistic tactics of those who do not love God.

In other words, be the opposite of what the rude person is trying to goad you into becoming.

Ephesians 4:31-32

"Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you."

It doesn't matter what anyone else is doing to us, we are responsible for replying in a calm respectful manner or to remain silent. A strong person can do this because they are confident in Christ, they never have the sense that they need to win anything in conversation with a wicked person.

Keep looking up! One day everything will be exposed and Christ in us already knows it all.