The Marriage Relationship According to God!

When God said the woman's desire will be for her husband but he will rule over her is another misinterpretation. The original language reflects that "a woman's desire will be to rule over her husband but he will rule over her."

 
Because of the fall the marriage union was perverted by sinful hearts but this does not apply to born-again believers. In a godly marriage the woman runs the household as the CEO and the the husband is the spiritual leader and provider.

When two people cooperate with one another within their God-given roles there is harmony. In this relationship there is no disrespect or disregard for one gender over another, each role is valued and supported because the roles come from God.

 
Proverbs 31 clearly describes the value of the woman's role and the description of marriage in 1 Corinthians 11 shows the harmony possible when each gender values the function of the other. There is no superiority demonstrated only variety in roles.

 
When there is arrogant superiority there is demonic influence. The devil always takes out of context the Bible to deceive people with wrong thinking making mute God's real commands.

Mark 7:13 "13 Thus you nullify the word of God by the tradition you have handed down. And you do so in many such matters.”'

The traditions of men have permeated the church to such a degree that many attending these institutions have misunderstood the Word of God and clung to false teachings to feel safe in what they have always been taught.

Mark 7:7-9 "…7 They worship Me in vain; they teach as doctrine the precepts of men.’ 8 You have disregarded the commandment of God to keep the tradition of men.” 9 He went on to say, “You neatly set aside the command of God to maintain your own tradition."

The most difficult thing in the world is to convince people who have been indoctrinated into a particular belief that it was taught in error. They will not believe the new thinking because the old way is so comfortable. They have placed their trust in traditions rather than in Christ, without questioning them they have fallen into a pit without the desire to escape the pit.

 
Those who stay with the traditions of men fear the loss of friendships more than they love God. They know if they ask God for truth and discover what everyone else is thinking has been wrong, they will lose family and friends.
For me, I want truth more than friends and God more than superficial acquaintances. If I have to be alone with God He is everything I need.

Hallelujah!!!!

The Head Cover is not what Most Think

Our culture has been taught for many years now, since the 1960s that the head-covering mentioned in the Bible in 1 Corinthians 11 had to do with the woman's submission to her husband. Sadly this has been incorrect and led many men to think it means they can oppress and demean their wives.

In the Bible instructions of the woman are to be covered it does not have to do with submission to the husband but to Christ.

Man is to be uncovered as a symbol of Christ and the woman is to be covered as a symbol of the church. Both are under Christ and both stand side by side.

The Bible teaches that the head covering is not the relationship between men and women but their relationship together to Christ.

The woman's symbol of authority on her head relates to her authority as the church. The husband's head uncovered relates to the authority of Christ under God.

Women have done away with the head covering in the western parts of the world because they view the head covering as something to do with being under the headship of the husband. They often use the excuse that the head-covering no longer applies but in the same passage God speaks of the men being uncovered and that is practice in every church.

A woman is under the headship of her husband but the symbol of the headcovering has to do with her authority under Christ in her role as the counselor in the household.

The husband and wife together lead the family as the husband leads and the woman counsels him. Just as the DCPI counsels the police chief, the relationship is very similar. No one is above someone else but the roles are different and the DCPI defers to the police commissioner when they disagree. The position of the DCPI is crucial in its function to help counsel the police chief.

The husband is the head of the family leading by example and teaching not by force, intimidation, or bossiness. He is to lead in a loving way deeply concerned about the welfare of his family. Bossiness without love is not leading Biblically. Christ never forced anyone, He spoke truth and allowed others to make their own decision. Their decision revealed if they loved Him or not, but there was never force.

The woman has been given the authority over the household as she is the homemaker mentioned in Proverbs 31. She dictates the going on in the household as she determines the function even monitoring the moral character of the household.

Proverbs 1:8-9 )

"My son, hear the instruction of your father, And do not forsake the law of your mother; For they will be a graceful ornament on your head And chains about your neck."

The woman's influence in the family can be intense if the father supports her as she carries out her job as counselor and CEO.

The woman submits at times to her husband just as we all should submit to others when appropriate. She does not submit out of fear of his wrath but out of love for him and in obedience to God. If he intimidates and demeans he is walking in hate and against the word of God. The wife is not to obey her husband if he tells her to sin, she must obey God rather than man in such cases.

Ephesians 5:24-26 …24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her 26 to sanctify her, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,…

Ephesians 5:20-21 "…20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ."

Christ died for His church, therefore the husband should be like Christ in completely sacrificial to his wife for her good, not for his own desires and musings. Husband's lead and submit in protection of his wife. She is not an object to be used for the husband's glory, but a vessel who belongs to God to be protected and nurtured.

Only a man of God Who obeys Scripture can be loving and kind. A worldly man will dominate just to be in charge without regard to the well being of the family.

1 Peter 5:3

"Not domineering over those in your charge, but being examples to the flock."

Titus 1:7

"For an overseer, as God's steward, must be above reproach. He must not be arrogant or quick-tempered or a drunkard or violent or greedy for gain,"

1 Peter 5:2

"Shepherd the flock of God that is among you, exercising oversight, not under compulsion, but willingly, as God would have you; not for shameful gain, but eagerly;"

These passages refer to leaders in the church but are applicable to marriage as well.

Titus 2:7

"Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity and dignity."

The man who thinks he is to lead by bossing, manipulating, and mean-spirited force is not walking with God but is defying the Law of love God commanded everyone to walk in.

Those men and women who are walking in the Spirit will have the fruit of the Spirit of God.

Galatians 5:22-23 - "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."

Every believer is to submit to every other believer when appropriate. Obviously, we do not submit to someone who wants us to sin or violate our own convictions. When others obey God and ask us to do things that do not violate our convictions or sin, then we must obey God and submit wherever possible.

Ephesians 5:20-21 "…20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ."

Notice this theme throughout God's Word, everyone submitting to everyone else out of reverence for Christ. We don't do it to gain something for ourselves but always for Christ. Sometimes He will tell us not to submit because what we have been asked to do violates the principles of God or may come against God's will for us.

1 Corinthians 16:14

"Do everything in love. Let all that you do be done with love. Keep your eyes open, hold tight to your convictions, give it all you've got, be resolute,"

When there is love there will not be rudeness, lies, mocking, gossiping, wrongly judging or demeaning.

Those who experience Christ's love extended for them will be able to see that it is love.

Those who experience the devilish manipulation and unkindness of the ungodly will see that it is not from God. Feel free to ignore it and refuse to be sucked into their trap.

Adrian Rogers: Things That Hinder Fellowship - RA2101

SATAN is ALIVE and WELL and RAGING | Hosts: Tim Moore, Nathan Jones & Da...

Narcissists Earned the Deep Shame They Possess

The narcissist has deep shame because they know what they have done to others but rather than repenting they lay the blame on those they have harmed.

No one can blame their childhood or life experiences on anyone else but themselves. We can choose our path, either anger or love.

I have seen people who were deeply abused as children reject the way their families operated and become godly people who do not harm others.

I have seen people who weren't abused in childhood who grow up to abuse others because of their sense of superiority and that need to be dominant over others.

Our childhood influences us but it does not shape us. We choose which path we want to take, either anger or the love for others that they did not give us.

Ezekiel 18:19-23

"The soul that sins, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son: the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him."

When we get before the Lord to be judged we will not be able to say to Him, "but Lord I was abused as a child." Nor will we be able to justify ourselves for our good deeds. We will not be able to say; "I had to be mean because others provoked me."

Everything we choose to do or be will be on us. Those who use excuses for mean behavior will be found guilty. Those who have repented from their ungodly behavior and trust in Christ will be accepted and are forgiven.

We do well to remember we never have a good excuse for bad behavior.

Be Who God Made You, Not What Others Think they Want You to Be

https://youtube.com/shorts/emv6ClmTgIM?si=hT_6gnxqEiRLqXjL

When the Narcissist Rages

Have you ever been in a family event when the narcissist rages at the slightest disagreement as though you did something wrong? I have encountered this many times in my life with arrogant family members.

I am 70 years old and have dealt with narcissism in my family all my life.

The reason we act differently around narcissists is that we know if we confront them they are going to rage in front of everyone and those who see it will think we did something wrong because the narcissist got mad.

The narcissist seems to have this much power over the flying monkeys and group-thinkers. The flying monkeys cannot see things for what they really are, they interpret the events according to the reaction of the narcissist.

This is just another way they operate, knowing the flying monkeys will not come against them. Those who boldly but kindly express their ideas, opinions or the truth of the Bible will be targets for those who dominate the group.

Everyone in these dysfunctional groups is more afraid of the narcissist than anything or anyone else.

The narcissist is afraid of the truth-teller, the reason they rage. Their insecurity and fear that they will be exposed as wrong sends them into a deeply defensive posture. Narcissists fear disapproval more than anything else. They depend on others to prop them up.

Since the narcissist is totally dependent on the praise and acceptance of others leaving them empty inside without it, they will defend themselves especially when they do not have answers.

Those who are emotionally and spiritually secure have no need to win in a disagreement or discussion. They have no need to be the center of attention or the best in the room. Those who are confident can accept differences and disagreements without feeling attacked.

The narcissist sees every disagreement as a personal attack. The secure person sees a disagreement for what it is, that is two people who have different points of view and are even curious why they think the way they do.

A narcissist never asks a person why they think the way they do because they don't want to know. If they did challenge a person to explain why they think the way they do it would be in an angry tone to fight against the answer, never to understand another person's point of view.

Note too that the one who is confident and bold but kind is the biggest threat to the narcissist. The narcissist will target a person like this if for no other reason than to bring them down in the eyes of others. If the narcissist cannot control or silence you through their tactics they will work to cause others to dislike and diminish you.

It would be almost laughable if it were not so tragic. It is not tragic for confident people who love God, but it is tragic for the narcissist who needs desperately to be superior and cannot feel content or peace unless they are getting their attention fix. After all, narcissists are addicted to the drugs of power and attention.

I no longer feel frustrated by the narcissists, what I feel is pity for those who cannot love, cannot be cooperative with anyone else, and whose soul is in constant torment and battle to be above others.

To become angry at these sad souls is to take them seriously as though they have any power over us at all. They only have power over us if we allow it. We must see them as broken and beggarly treating them as we would a bratty six-year-old. Stating the truth when led by the Holy Spirit and allowing the real them to emerge.

May God show them to themselves that they may have an opportunity to repent and be cleansed from their fear of life and hatred of God and others.

Sadly many in the modern church system have gravitated to the gatherings to find their narcissistic supply when others in the society will not put up with their nonsense. Often church attendees will coddle them as enablers when they should be rebuking them. And, even worse some of these narcissists are church leaders.

2 Timothy 4:2-4 "…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths."

Isaiah 30:10

"They say to the seers, "Stop seeing visions!" and to the prophets, "Do not prophesy to us the truth! Speak to us pleasant words; prophesy illusions."

2 Timothy 1:13

"Hold on to the pattern of sound teaching you have heard from me, with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus."

To comfort those of us who have encountered these people who are madly in love with themselves, remember God sees it all, all the time.

2 Chronicles 16:9,10

"For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to shew himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him. Herein thou hast done foolishly: therefore from henceforth thou shalt have wars."

Hallelujah!