When a narcissist shouts "you think your better", what they are really saying is "I think your better."
When a narcissists shouts, "you hate me", they are saying "I hate you."
When a narcissists says "you won't listen", they are saying "I am not going to listen to you."
When a narcissist says to you, "your judgmental", they are really saying "I judge people all the time. "
Narcissists accuse others of what the narcissist is and those they accuse are not, for the purpose of frustrating those they accuse. They want to cause you to react in an ungodly way so they can bring you to a place in which you sin.
It is a natural human response to defend ourselves and even feel angry when we are accused of something that is not true. If we are walking in the Spirit we will recognize these tactics and refuse to allow our emotions to rule us. This is what the devil wants, using a person to poke and prod at us until something ungodly emerges.
We see this all the time in family dynamics, the narcissist will attempt to drag you into conflict by accusing you of things that are not true. If they can get you to respond badly in anger they have proven, in their mind, that you are bad after all.
God tells us not to engage with fools whose only purpose is to bring out the worst in you, those who love it when you fail God, will not stop until you have blown up or spoken rashly.
1 Peter 5:8-9 " 8 Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, standing firm in your faith and in the knowledge that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kinds of suffering.…"
These verses are telling us to resist the devil, not the person. The devil will use the person to cause fights and arguments, when we resist the devil we will not allow the person to push our buttons that cause the fighting. Our tactics of warfare are prayer and leaving the presence of those who attempt to engage us in sin.
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