Helping Adult Children to Prosper

There are so many people now who are dealing with disrespectful children who are attempting to guilt their parents into supporting them after they are grown.

Any child who expects their older parents to support them financially or with housing is a leech that needs to learn they can no longer use their parents.

Get boundaries, tell them to get out, earn their own way in the world, do not give them one more red cent and ignore their tantrums when you have to say no to them.

If they are living with you, give them one month and no longer to find another place, then hold them to it. If they refuse, put their things in the street, usher them out the door and feel no guilt over doing it.

Showing the best kind of love for the little birdies is to push them out of the nest early on, age 18 is the legal age, with prayers that they do the right things. Make it clear that they cannot come back except for short visits, nothing over night. Unless of course they are responsible and are coming a long distance from out of the state for a visit.

We had a rule, at age 18 they had to get a job and pay rent to us or go to college. If they were going to further their education we would help but they had to earn most of it and pay back whatever we helped with. College is a extra privilege, not a right.

Children now days have an entitlement mentality that their parents should provide for them even after they are grown. Where on earth did they ever get this idea?

If an adult child of 30 is still living with Mom and Dad, something is wrong, my guess is that the parents are still treating them like children and giving way too much. Is Mommy still cooking all the meals for them, washing their clothes and paying for their car and gas? This is down right silly. Any adult child at home, if they have to be for a real reason, then they should be contributing to the finances, the groceries, and any house hold chores to lesson the burden for the parents.

If we love our children, we push them out there to earn their own way, then they will be prosperous, they will learn homelessness is not fun, so they get a job, they pay their bills on time and no one else is going to bail them out.

When they have to make their own way, they gain dignity, learning diligence is a blessing! Then when they have lived righteously, been responsible, it is their turn to make sure their parents are taken care of in their elder years.

See how that works, everyone pulls their own weight and is ready to help the helpless, when they can no longer be alone.

Maybe we can call it "paying it forward" as the kids say, our parents took care of us when we were helpless, the adult children should care for their parents when they become helpless.

"Honor your father and mothers" was a command to all ages, not just children, that command was given to adults too.

Building Confidence

Children with the lowest confidence are those who have not been disciplined. They are insecure because they are ignorant of boundaries and what is expected of them.

People without boundaries, rebuke and correction never grow past childish responses.

Carried a Wooden Spoon

I carried a wooden spoon in my purse, never had to spank in public all I had to do was open the purse and show it to the child who was acting up.

I could take six children to the store and they were a help, they didn't act up, because they knew what was expected of them.

I was demeaned and mocked by extended family members for doing this, but I could actually enjoy shopping with children.

The Devil Prowls, Ignore Him

The devil is on the prowl, looking to destroy whomever he can through lies, deceptions, turning one another against each other so there are no allies to help us to be stronger.

But never fear, Christ Who lives in us can be all we need.

1 John 4:3-5 "…3 and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you have heard is coming, and is already in the world at this time. 4 You, little children, are from God and have overcome them, because greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world. 5 They are of the world. That is why they speak from the world’s perspective, and the world listens to them.…"

1 Peter 5:7-9 "…7 Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, standing firm in your faith and in the knowledge that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kinds of suffering.…"

1 John 4:217-19 "…17 In this way, love has been perfected among us, so that we may have confidence on the day of judgment; for in this world we are just like Him. 18 There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear involves punishment. The one who fears has not been perfected in love. 19 We love because He first loved us."

He Wouldn't Want You To Go Through That?

I am amazed when someone says "God wouldn't want me to go through that." God Who sent His Son to die for the sins of others, not His own, wouldn't want us to go through something difficult? Next time we think we are going through so much that we can't get out of, we need to remember what Christ did for us!!!

I Serve at the Pleasure of My Husband

May I give you some insight into a woman who nags. Not all women are the same, however some women nag from time to time because the men they speak to do not show interest and do not work to submit to their wives to help them. When a man shows interest and is concerned about helping the wife the way she needs help, then there is less of a chance that she will nag.

1 Peter 3:7-8 "7 Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as a delicate vessel, and with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. 8 Finally, all of you, be like-minded and sympathetic, love as brothers, be tender-hearted and humble.…"

Far too many husbands act irritated that their wife expect or desire anything from them. Man and woman were placed together as a couple, not as a master and a slave. Each party should take into account the needs and desires of the other. God says we are to "submit one to another."

Ephesians 5:20-21 "…20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.…"

Yes woman are to submit to their husbands as the leaders. They serve at the pleasure of their husbands, but they do not "take orders" as a master over a slave. A man should respectfully request things he needs from her and he should listen to her needs and respectfully honor them.

God told women to obey their husband, it is her choice, if she loves God then she will see to his needs. If the husband loves his wife he will help his wife to more fully serve God by his own example.

A man who will not obey God cannot expect to influence a wife to obey God, his example is hypocritical.

A woman who will not obey God, cannot expect her husband to operate as he should before God.

Each one must be seeking God, then coming together to obey Him as a team. No one is superior to another, the roles are differing, but the respect and honor is for both and the same.

If a woman is not obeying God, chances are good she has no example of it in her home, the husband is too caught up in his own things without her, that she is left to follow God on her own without companionship in the Lord and without an advocate in her life experiences.

Be careful not to judge another persons marriage when you are not there to see what goes on in the home when no one else is looking. Be careful not to believe one side of the story without hearing the other side. Even then, let God be the judge!

Trapped by the Shack

Those who have fallen into the deception of "The Shack", believing it uplifts God, are actually devaluing and mocking Him, through the love of this evil book and movie.

2 Timothy 4:2-4 "…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.…"