Let's Be Biblical, not Cultural in Our Thinking

The statement I used to hear was "we need to say things in a way that others will receive it." I didn't buy this nonsense because it completely removes our personality, leaving the fear and figuring determined by the reactions rather than the leading of the Holy Spirit. . We cannot know how someone is going to react because often narcissists will react very badly to innocent and proper disagreements or instruction.

When we are figuring out how to respond according to the reactions of others we cannot be hearing from the Holy Spirit. One of the reasons cultural Christianity has been so ineffective is because it removes all the aspects of the leading of the Holy Spirit in order to rely on the flesh. It also is determined by the reactions of others.

These people who said this believed if someone got angry it was the fault of the other for saying something they didn't like.

We saw the reactions of the world to Christ in His time, they killed Him. What did He say in the wrong way that caused these reactions? Our delivery is not determined by the reactions of others, it is led by the Holy Spirit, the reactions of others is on them alone.

In other words, the anger of others is justified, and speaking our opinion is not to be spoken because it might make someone else angry. It gave the narcissist an excuse for their angst and rude reactions.

Notice the angry person speaks their opinion freely but we don't get to. I have had narcissists rage at me for expressing an opposing opinion but they afforded themselves the right to say anything they wanted and we were supposed to just nod and smile.

We know these people don't love because when we love someone we are interested in their opinion even if we might disagree.

When we have love in our hearts we want others to express themselves maintaining their own right to convictions and beliefs.

Ephesians 4:1-3 "1 As a prisoner in the Lord, then, I urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling you have received: 2with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, 3and with diligence to preserve the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.…"

We cannot pulloff true witnessing in our own flesh. This must be a work of Christ in our inner being. Whatever is in our inner being will be expressed in our outer attitudes and actions. Those who are discerning can see our attitudes and actions for what they are. Even unbelievers can see hypocrisy when it raises its ugly head. Those who rage have anger in their heart, if they did not they would never rage. No one makes another peson angry. Anger is a choice that comes from the inner man, unrestrained and untrained emotions.

Matthew 15:7-9

You hypocrites! Well did Isaiah prophesy of you, when he said: “‘This people honors me with their lips, but their heart is far from me; in vain do they worship me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.’”

Those who say they are Christians but seek to demolish another human being merely to win over them are most likely not born again, unless they are repentant at some point regretting that they allowed their emotions to carry them. An authentic believer will be sorry and know quickly that they have sinned in their anger. The unsaved will not be sorry, even believing they were right, causing them to repeat their sinful behavior again.

Those who feel justified by rude behavior because someone said something they didn't like are not being led by the Holy Spirit. If they do this consistently without a conscience they are probably not born again.

Matthew 7:15-20 "15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. 16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? 17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Therefore by their fruits you will know them."

What are the fruit of the Spirit? God tells us:

Galatians 5:22-23

"22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law."

When there is raging there is lack of all the fruit. When the raging is not repented of, there is probably not salvation.

Devils are Busy in these Last Days

I am convinced that devils are influencing those who have no defense against them. He does it in two ways, he possesses them at times, but most of what we see is "oppression", which is a devil placing thoughts into the minds of people to make them think a certain way.

I believe this because when Christ turned to Peter and said; "get thee behind me satan", he was responding to Peter but addressing the devil who was using Peter's thoughts and mouth.

I do not believe in "a bad seed", because all people are bad seeds before they become born again. People who are not born again are often used by the devil to harm others, even when they believe they are doing good they might be doing harm.

Those who are not born again think in fleshly and worldly ways, they are easily manipulated to think the way the culture thinks rather than how God thinks.

Unsaved people can be kind and friendly people but will become angry when confronted about their sin. Sometimes unsaved people will tolerate us, but avoid us when possible.

The WAY we think is based on the condition of our heart, whether we are saved or not saved, we will respond either through the Holy Spirit or through our own flesh that is easily manipulated by devils.

Growing up I used to hear adults saying things like; "that person is a really nice person." What they meant was that they had a friendly superficial conversation over something not so important.

We never know how "nice" a person is until we have disagreed with them or exposed sin in their life. This is when the real them emerge.

We could have many friends wherever we go as long as we never mention sin or Christ. We must always be kind when we do, however, even if we are kind we can expect most people to become agitated at best and sometimes rage at worst.

We are even accused of things we didn't do no matter what our delivery. You might ask; "what is your proof", that's easy, look what they did to Christ, the most perfect kind, and loving person who ever walked the earth. He made them mad by exposing their sin and by claiming to be God. People become angry when we claim Christ lives in us and we want them to have that same blessing.

If you do not believe people become angry at the message of the cross, just expose the false doctrine with Christians in the church and watch their reaction. The church has become more of the world than of the Bible. When someone fights against the truth of the Bible while embracing false teaching they will be resistant even angry when told they must pray for truth and reject the lies.

We live in a world that has basically rejected Christ, even those in church gatherings. They reject Christ by rejecting His Word the Bible. The Bible is the Word of Christ, it is the very essence of His being. To reject what He says is to reject Him.

1 Samuel 15:23

“For rebellion is as the sin of divination,

And insubordination is as iniquity and idolatry.

Because you have rejected the word of the Lord,

He has also rejected you from being king.”

Isaiah 5:24

"Therefore, as a tongue of fire consumes stubble

And dry grass collapses into the flame,

So their root will become like rot and their blossom blow away as dust;

For they have rejected the law of the Lord of hosts

And despised the word of the Holy One of Israel."

Isaiah 30:12-14

12 Therefore this is what the Holy One of Israel says:

“Since you have rejected this word

And have put your trust in oppression and crookedness, and have relied on them,

13 Therefore this wrongdoing will be to you

Like a breach about to fall,

A bulge in a high wall,

Whose collapse comes suddenly in an instant,

14 Whose collapse is like the smashing of a potter’s jar,

So ruthlessly shattered

That a shard will not be found among its pieces

To take fire from a hearth

Or to scoop water from a cistern.”

Mark 7:6-7 "6 He replied, “Isaiah was right when he prophesied about you hypocrites; as it is written:

“‘These people honor me with their lips,

but their hearts are far from me.

7 They worship me in vain;

their teachings are merely human rules.’"

The devils are busy convincing people not to believe God and to malign, mock and reject Christians. Get used to it, it has always been this way and will until Christ makes things right at the end of it all.

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Proverbs 6:19 "…18 heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that run swiftly to evil, 19 false witness who gives false testimony, and one who stirs up discord among brothers."

John 3 and 1 Corinthians 15

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The Words the Narcissist Uses Regularly

When a narcissist lies, they will choose a situation in which you cannot prove they are lying. You will hear words like:

"I didn't say that" or "I didn't do that" when you clearly without a doubt witnessed their words and their deeds. This is called "gaslighting" in which they want you to believe you got it all wrong.

They will claim you have done the things you didn't do, that they have done but pretend they never did it.

Narcissists' end game is to make their target look insane, irrational, and foolish in their decisions.

The narcissists I have encountered were master liars while being covertly mean to cause a reaction, they play the victim because of your reaction.

When we find out someone is like this it is best to remove ourselves from them. There will be continual drama based on unfounded accusations against their target.

Those who are overt or covert narcissists are inherently angry people. These people are steeped in pride and anger because they are heavily and easily influenced by the devil. Jealousy is often the motive behind their actions. Just as the devil was jealous of God so too is the narcissist of their target.

"Overt" meaning openly without hiding.

"Covert" meaning sneaking and hidden.

The devil is the father of lies, he convinces the narcissist that they can do no wrong, leaving a trail of broken relationships wherever they go. He prevents the narcissist from developing truly close and lasting relationships through the tactics that destroy anyone who lives a happy fulfilled life.

If the devil can prevent close relationships he can keep someone stuck in their sin and lies while using them to destroy others.

The jealousy of the narcissist is so irrational that those who have less than the narcissist does will be a target merely for their happiness.

Proverbs 22:24-25 "24 Do not make friends with an angry man, and do not associate with a hot-tempered man, 25or you may learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.…"

Proverbs 15:18

"A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger calms dispute."

Those who love the Lord and love others as God said we should, do not play the games of the self-exalted narcissist. If they cannot be superior to others they will attempt to bring the others down rather than lift themselves up, born again believers do not act like this.

The narcissist's superiority is based on nothing more than their own minds. They have nothing outside of their imagination to indicate they deserve elevated status.

We read about this in the Bible. The devil thought he could be like God. He attempted to overthrow God only to be cast down by God. He had no power over God but was sure that he had that power. He was convinced in his own mind that he was superior to God.

Notice something interesting about the status of the devil. He was the most powerful and beautiful angel in heaven above every other angel, but that was not enough for him.

When the devil was cast down by God he was not satisfied or convinced he had lost. He set out to ruin those God loved by fooling them into believing they could be like God. Since the devil could not overthrow God he went after God's children as well as those who were not yet saved, to prevent the influence of the believer as well as the salvation of new people repenting to trust in Christ.

Revelation 12:7-12

The Angel, Michael

7 And there was war in heaven, Michael and his angels waging war with the dragon. The dragon and his angels waged war,

8 and they did not prevail, and there was no longer a place found for them in heaven.

9 And the great dragon was thrown down, the serpent of old who is called the devil and Satan, who deceives the whole world; he was thrown down to the earth, and his angels were thrown down with him.

10 Then I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying,

“Now the salvation, and the power, and the kingdom of our God and the authority of His Christ have come, for the accuser of our brothers and sisters has been thrown down, the one who accuses them before our God day and night.

11 And they overcame him because of the blood of the Lamb and because of the word of their testimony, and they did not love their life even [b]when faced with death.

12 For this reason, rejoice, you heavens and you who dwell in them. Woe to the earth and the sea, because the devil has come down to you with great wrath, knowing that he has only a short time.”

The devil will tempt us to do sinful things and then accuse us of evil for doing them. This is the same tactic of the narcissist who is controlled by the devil. They will prod and provoke their target and when the target becomes irritated they will accuse them of being out of control.

When we know the tactics and their contempt toward us we can resist reacting, remove ourselves and pray for their souls.

Proverbs 29:8-10 "…8 Mockers inflame a city, but the wise turn away anger. 9 If a wise man goes to court with a fool, there will be raving and laughing with no resolution. 10 Men of bloodshed hate a blameless man, but the upright care for his life.…"

The proverb here clearly shows that when someone is a narcissist there is no resolution to anything. They refuse to listen, they refuse to consider and they will retaliate if we try to show them another side.

Narcissists are people of bloodshed even if they never spill any blood. They have murder in their heart merely by their hatred toward their target.

1 John 3:15 "Everyone who hates his brother or sister is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life remaining in him."

Someone who regularly demonstrates narcissistic tendencies is not born again. These people lack the fruit of the Spirit, which can be seen by those who possess the Holy Spirit.

Matthew 7:15-20

You Will Know Them by Their Fruit

15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. 16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? 17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Therefore by their fruits you will know them."

What is the fruit? The fruit are the character qualities of Christ that can only be discerned by those who have the Holy Spirit, they are Spiritual qualities that drive our attitudes and actions.

Galatians 5:22-23

"22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."

We can know the heart of a person by their fruit or lack of it. God gave us the criteria so that we would be able to know who is born again and who is not, who can be trusted and who can not.

Do not ignore the signs, we can know whether to give the gospel to someone or to connect with them as brothers and sisters, based on their fruit or lack of it.

God does not want us to be close friends with wicked people no matter whether or not they claim to be Christian.

1 Corinthians 15:33 "33Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.”"

When we spend a lot of time with someone we become like them without even realizing it. A born again believer ought to be very uncomfortable with pretenders who do not love God or His Word. If we are walking with Christ the unbelieving pretender ought to be very uncomfortable with us.

When we sense that something is "off' with someone we ought to go to prayer so the Holy Spirit can explain the inner warning from the Holy Spirit. If we ignore the Holy Spirit He will stop speaking and we will be stuck with the consequences of our disobedience.

1 Thessalonians 5:19…"18 Give thanks in every circumstance, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 19 Do not extinguish the Spirit. 20 Do not treat prophecies with contempt,…"

Ephesians 4:30

"And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, in whom you were sealed for the day of redemption."

It grieves the Holy Spirit when we enjoy the companionship of those who hate Him. Our choice of friends reveals something about us.

Something to think about!!!!

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