Christian narcissists are those who never get to know anyone but have many judgments about those they dislike. Their dislike is based on correction or disagreements. These people see disagreements as personal attacks worthy of retaliation. They see themselves as so special that anyone who does not agree with them will be their enemy.
Even if the only thing wrong is that these people are arrogant and self-righteous judging everything in those they don't like when they don't know the details and when the person they judge is not sinning but just different from them. These are self-righteous ones special in their own eyes. Luke 18:9-14
The Pharisee and the Tax Collector
"9 Now He also told this parable to some people who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and viewed others with contempt:
10 “Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector.
11 The Pharisee stood and began praying this in regard to himself: ‘God, I thank You that I am not like other people: swindlers, crooked, adulterers, or even like this tax collector.
12 I fast twice a week; I pay tithes of all that I get.’
13 But the tax collector, standing some distance away, was even unwilling to raise his eyes toward heaven, but was beating his chest, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, the sinner!’
14 I tell you, this man went to his house justified rather than the other one; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”
Sadly many people in the pulpits today who are paid to be there have this superior attitude that since they were formally educated by men and paid to be the center of attention in the church, they should be treated more highly than anyone else.
I once heard a "pastor" say to someone that he needed to "protect his pulpit." There is no place in God's Word that says such a thing. No one man should be so powerful as to be in control of others. The Holy Spirit is the One Who is in control of every born again believer. Pastors who are not paid are there to guide and be an example, they have no authority over anyone and they have no pulpit.
It is human nature to elevate those who have been "formally educated" as though those men teaching them are higher than the Holy Spirit. No one can teach better than the Holy Spirit Who lives in every born again believer.
Those who tell the truth of God's Word are hated by those who think they are special and deserve heaven when all the fruit of the Spirit is missing in them.
When people can never tell on themselves but are continually judging others for things that are not sin, they are presuming they are above the Holy Spirit having all knowledge.
When we are walking with Christ the slightest thought that does not meet with God's standard is dealt with immediately. We confess a problem in the heart before it becomes an action.
Those who are not depending on the Holy Spirit will justify wrong attitudes by accusing others of causing them in us rather than being convicted to confess and be cleansed.
Those who do not confess regularly often regress and even become bitter in their walk, justifying every mean and sinful action as someone else's fault.
Those who listen to gossip love it because believing something about someone else that is distasteful makes them feel better about themselves.
No one is completely free from sin in their heart, we all have sin in the flesh that we must battle continually.
Galatians 5:16-18 "16 So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17 For the flesh craves what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are opposed to each other, so that you do not do what you want. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.…"
No one who is born again has reason to look down on anyone else over disagreements of differences that are not sin. We must be loving and tolerant of differences that are not sin as well as compassionate when someone has sinned and is confessing it to be cleansed.
Galatians 1:1-2 "1Brothers, if someone is caught in a trespass, you who are spiritual should restore him with a spirit of gentleness. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. 2Carry one another’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ."
