Over-sharing is a Problem when Dealing with a Narcissist

I have learned to withhold as much information from narcissists as possible.

Attempting to explain anything to them is to make them the winner in their game. Do not play their game, decline to engage.

They want you to explain and grovel and even lash out so they can feel good about themselves making you the bad guy.

Narcissists love any kind of explanation from us because it fuels their fire to come back with an argument. They have no interest in resolving anything, introspection to learn about themselves or understanding you.

Everything is a competition to appear superior. When we are born again we have no need to feel superior to anyone else. We have complete confidence in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and He is the only One that matters.

If we love Christ Who lives in us we will love people, but they will have no control over our emotions, actions, or mental well-being. Only Christ determines all these things.

Narcissists want us to be controlled by our own feelings imploding any sense of self-control or accomplishment for Christ. The purpose of all of the devil's tactics used by narcissists is to unhinge us taking our focus off of Christ and onto ourselves.

If we do not care if people like us if we are popular or if we are elevated above others we are free to follow Christ without these hindrances.

This is why we remove from our lives those who foster fleshly feelings and attitudes in us through their attacks. Satan's goal is to disarm and debilitate the believer to be unable to stay focused on what Christ has for them to do.

1 Corinthians 15:33-34 " 33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 34 Sober up as you ought, and stop sinning; for some of you are ignorant of God. I say this to your shame.…"

If we focus on what the narcissist is doing to us we will become disarmed and impotent for the cause of Christ. If we focus on Christ without concern about what others do to us we will be free of the effects of the narcissist's antics. They will be like water off a duck's back, not even worthy of notice.

We only notice them to remind us of their strategies, and to warn others to be aware and avoid them when possible.

Narcissists have the ability to keep emotionally charged people in a state of continual disorientation, questioning every move they make leaves them unable to carry out God's plan for them.

Here is what we are seeing now and can expect to increase as we move further into the end times prophetic events, God was clear in the following passage.

2 Timothy 3:1-5

Difficult (ragingly insane) Times Will Come

"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.

2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,

3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,

4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,

5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."