Adultery in the Heart and Adultery after Divorce

“A man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself” Proverbs 6:32

Why does a man who commits adultery destroy Himself? Because God made he and his wife one, if he destroys her, he destroys himself, they are one and the same.

Ephesians 5:28-30 "…28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 Indeed, no one ever hated his own body, but he nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church. 30 For we are members of His body.…"

Did you know when you speak your vows to someone God makes you and your new spouse ONE?! This applies to unbelievers too, God did not make separate rules for believers and non-believers, we are all held to the same standard.

Matthew 19:6

"6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no person is to separate.”

Marriage is a work of God, no two people make themselves one, only God can do that. Its a spiritual union that God made. Perhaps a "spiritual glue" that no man can undo.

This is why some people years ago used to say; "when two remarried people get into bed together there are four people in the bed. "

God calls remarriage adultery, it remains adultery until the adulterous couple separates.

Luke 16:17-18 "17 But it is easier for heaven and earth to pass away than for a single stroke of a pen to drop out of the Law. 18 Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and he who marries a divorced woman commits adultery."

God also says this: Mark 10:7-9 "…7‘ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”…"

If someone divorces God commands this;

1 Corinthians 7:10-11 "To the married, I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11

But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife."

God tells those who have divorced to remain alone because they are still spiritually connected to the one they made their vows. That spiritual glue cannot be melted away merely because of a decree by the law of the land. This vow is sealed until one of the spouses dies.

1 Corinthians 7:39 "39 A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, as long as he belongs to the Lord."

It's not hard to understand these things, it's just hard to believe because the culture we live in wants to accept any and all sin, excusing a sin because of difficulty or selfishness.

All you have to do in our age to see that this is true is speak these truths to your friends and family and suddenly you will find yourself alone without support and without love.

Many years ago a friend who remarried after a divorce told me she couldn't understand what had happened because she had so many prayers answered and God took care of her when her husband left and divorced her. But after she remarried the miracles and blessings dried up and she couldn't hear from God anymore.

I don't doubt that this Christian lady was saved but it does tell us that when we defy God and His Word He shuts us out and we miss blessings! She never put the two things together, getting remarried and no longer hearing from God.

As long as we remain in rebellion against God's principles He will go silent because we won't listen. This might be a good lesson for our adult children or friends who will not hear from God.

Proverbs 28:9

"9 If one turns away his ear from hearing the law,

even his prayer is an abomination."

Psalm 66:18-20

"18 If I regard wickedness in my heart,

The Lord will not hear;

19 But God has heard;

He has given attention to the sound of my prayer.

20 Blessed be God,

Who has not turned away my prayer

Nor His favor from me."

Many people regard a second marriage after divorce as a marriage, God says no, it is not a marriage it is adultery. But our culture will not receive this truth, the very reason there is spiritual deadness in our churches, as well as destroyed families and especially children, who are growing up angry and disoriented, without clear direction that would bring stability to their lives.

As a country our people have been calling "bad" good and "good" bad for so long now it is difficult to wrap their minds around the truth.

Isaiah 5:20 "

Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who substitute darkness for light and light for darkness; Who substitute bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!"

Does anyone really think God is going to turn a blind eye to all that is going on?

Beware of Cults Claiming to be Christian

We see so many people in cults now claiming to be "born-again Christians" that it is beginning to confuse many people in the Christian church. No one who becomes born again would remain in the cults.

The devil has been using the tactic of taking the terminology of Christians and of the Bible and using them in the cults to confuse those who are not familiar with the Bible.

2 Corinthians 6:16-18 "…16 What agreement can exist between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will dwell with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be My people.” 17“ Therefore come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” 18 And: “I will be a Father to you, and you will be My sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.”…"

When someone becomes born-again the Holy Spirit in them will compel them to come out from the cults. Those who have been saved will hate what they see going on in the cults after God opens their eyes.

Beware of Catholics, Mormons and other cults that begin to use phrases like; "I am a born-again Catholic" or "I am a born-again Mormon. It is not possible to have been changed by Christ into a new creation and remain in wickedness.

Anyone who has become a new creation through Christ would not be able to tolerate the core beliefs and lies of these two cults. The Holy Spirit leads us into all truth, tolerating lies in a cult is not possible when someone is indwelt by the Holy Spirit of God.

The devil couldn't get Christians to embrace these cults so he is managing to confuse them into thinking they were brothers and sisters. When we begin to accept them as family we will be influenced by their false testimony.

Satan is very adept at using flattery and our own words in someone else's mouth to disarm us, confuse us and distract us. This is only possible when an authentic believer doesn't know the Bible well enough to discern a conversation with a person from one of these cults.

I have been in contact with Catholics and Mormons most of my life, they are adept at hiding the doctrine they know an authentic Christian would not want to hear, that they know is not Biblical.

1 Timothy 6:3-5

3 If anyone advocates a different doctrine and does not agree with sound words, those of our Lord Jesus Christ, and with the doctrine conforming to godliness,

4 he is conceited and understands nothing; but he has a sick craving for controversial questions and disputes about words, from which come envy, strife, abusive language, evil suspicions,

5 and constant friction between people of depraved mind and deprived of the truth, who suppose that godliness is a means of gain."

Matthew 7:13-14

The Narrow and Wide Gates

13 “Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it. 14 For the gate is narrow and the way is constricted that leads to life, and there are few who find it."

Just because someone has some words from the Bible that you agree with does not mean they are on the same path as we are, they may be decievers. It is good to question people by asking; "what do you mean by this." Most of the time those who are in cults will not answer Biblically, or so vaguely that it shows us they do not really understand the terms they are using.

Romans 16:17-19

17 Now I urge you, brothers and sisters, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them. 18 For such people are slaves, not of our Lord Christ but of their own appetites; and by their smooth and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting. 19 For the report of your obedience has reached everyone; therefore I am rejoicing over you, but I want you to be wise in what is good, and innocent in what is evil."

The Manipulation Does Not Have to Work

Often in our day if we tell the truth about a matter in a kind and friendly way, someone hearing is going to be angry and others will judge us as having been rude because the other person became angry.

This is backward, just because someone became angry at what we said does not mean we caused their anger. Jesus Christ and the apostles experienced this irrational anger all the time with those who didn't want to hear the truth.

We are not responsible for someone else's anger. Others do not trigger anger in us. If someone becomes angry it is more likely that they have anger hiding inside of them just waiting to come out when they hear or see something they don't like.

There is a difference between righteous anger and fleshly anger. Fleshly anger is usually associated with self-esteem, someone doesn't like to hear the truth about themselves so defensiveness emerges to stop the criticism. Manipulative rage is designed to make the truth-teller feel guilty. It is common in our culture to judge someone as rude and causing anger in someone else merely by telling the truth or asserting our boundaries.

However righteous anger is associated with injustice to someone else, or blasphemy against God and often anger at sin because of the destructive nature of sin.

Ephesians 4:26-27

"26 Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and do not give the devil an opportunity."

Proverbs 22:24-25

"Make no friendship with an angry man; And with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, And get a snare to thy soul."

James 1:19-20

“Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God."

Anger in our culture is used to foster guilt in someone who speaks the truth. Manipulation in the form of rage is the favored tactic of the devil in the person he is using.

When we see this irrational anger of manipulation we would do best to ignore it and walk away. Never apologize for someone else's anger it only validates their strategy to control you and the conversation. As we keep ourselves calm and kind we do not have to be provoked ourselves by their choice to become angry.

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a "Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth."

There are those who will call you unloving for obeying God, remember it is only a tactic that we need not take seriously or personally.

Believers are One in the Spirit!

Philippians 2:2

"2 make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose."

Philippians 2:3

"3 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility consider one another as more important than yourselves;"

Philippians 2:18

"18 You too, I urge you, rejoice in the same way and share your joy with me."

Amen! Hallelujah!!!!

Romans 16:17-19

"17 Now I urge you, brothers and sisters, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them.
18 For such people are slaves, not of our Lord Christ but of their own appetites; and by their smooth and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting.
19 For the report of your obedience has reached everyone; therefore I am rejoicing over you, but I want you to be wise in what is good, and innocent in what is evil."

A Narcissist and His Judgments

"A narcissist uses the severest form of judgment on others while demanding the strongest form of grace from others." AGW

Satan Loved Himself

Satan loved himself so much that he hated God. Someone above him was unthinkable so he tried to overthrow God but God punished him for his pride and rebellion against the Most High

Self Esteem? Yes!!!!

Ezekiel 28:16-17
16 By the abundance of your trade
You were internally filled with violence,
And you sinned;
Therefore I have cast you as profane
From the mountain of God.
And I have destroyed you, you covering cherub,
From the midst of the stones of fire.
17 Your heart was haughty because of your beauty;
You corrupted your wisdom by reason of your splendor.
I threw you to the ground;
I put you before kings,
That they may see you."
Those who love God with all their heart, soul, and mind do not think of themselves as special. How could anyone believe they are special when they are comparing themselves to The Perfect and Holy God.