Conversation Controllers
I know of people who snap at others in a disagreement, at
the beginning of the disagreement before there is even time to discuss the
matter, this is manipulation to intimidate for the purpose of having the upper
hand at the onset. It is not love to do this.
These people care more about winning than he/she does about
discussing to come to an understanding. Those who will not listen to someone
else long enough to hear the whole matter, are selfish, not desiring truth, but
only to control the conversation. This person has no love for others to
understand them, but only loves himself/herself.
Proverbs 15:32
“32 He that refuseth instruction
despiseth his own soul: but he that heareth reproof getteth understanding.”
Another technique these people use is to talk so long and loud that no one can interject into the conversation. They hold the floor as long as they can until others are discouraged and frustrated.
There is only one way to handle such people, and that is to
walk away and avoid them in the future. As long as they are self absorbed and
unwilling to hear others, it will not be possible to reason with them. The
acquaintance is completely one sided, making it impossible to have a decent and
loving relationship.
Philippians 2:3 “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with
humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;”
Galatians
5:22-23
“22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love,
joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is
no law.”
Galatians
6:8
“8 For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption,
but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.”
James 3:14-16
“14 But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie against the truth. 15 This wisdom is not that which comes down from
above, but is earthly, natural, demonic. 16 For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing.”
Luke 9:23-24
“23 And He was saying to them all, “If
anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross
daily and follow Me. 24 For whoever wishes to save his [a]life will
lose it, but whoever loses his [b]life for
My sake, he is the one who will save it.”
When we
realize that God can see all that we are doing all the time, we might not be so
quick to be rude to others while elevating self.
Proverbs
15:3
“The eyes of the LORD are in every
place, watching the evil and the good.”
2
Chronicles 16:9
“9 For the eyes of the Lord move to and fro throughout the earth that He may
strongly support those whose heart is completely His. You have acted
foolishly in this. Indeed, from now on you will surely have wars.”
We are running into more and more of these ungodly
attitudes of self elevation, mainly because many baby boomers raised their
children on self esteem and few if any rules.
Many children were allowed to make their own rules and after becoming
adults, they were resistant to having to submit to anyone, even family. God mandated that we submit one to another in
a spirit of helpfulness and love.
Ephesians 5:20-26
“20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name
of our Lord Jesus Christ; 21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.”
Lastly, pray for
these people, they are insecure and are missing much of life and personal
relationships. They have not yet learned that getting our way all the time,
while walking over others to do it, will not bring happiness. It only brings
heartache to him/her self and destroys good that could occur.
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