Do we talk too much? When we notice that others are looking around more than at us while we talk, that is a clue that we are loosing them. They may be hoping for a break between words to be able to get away to visit with someone else.
Do we continue to talk while they are trying to interrupt to be a part of the conversation?
Or do we talk so long that they cannot interject at any point, making the conversation completely one sided.
If we notice others running away from us when they see us coming, perhaps we should evaluate our speech or how long we talk! It might be good to become aware of the eyes and micro-reactions that people are exhibiting to more fully learn how they are feeling about the conversation, to be considerate of others. Is the visit a discussion with two people participating? Or, are we the only ones talking continually.
Not everything we say and do is interesting to others. Knowing our friends and family would help us in discerning what would interest them, rather than attempting to impress them with what we think is interesting, blabbering on and on with meaningless details that make no difference to the story, we ought to be discerning in what would interest those listening.
It is rude to continue to talk when the person we are speaking to is showing discomfort at our prattle.
May the Lord make us sensitive to the needs of others in conversation, and help us to be willing to listen more than we talk, unless others are asking us questions to know more. Silence can be golden, for others.
James 1:19 "This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger;"
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