I am noticing a lot of drama on faceook these days, mostly on the part of women. I know that we are more prone to be "sensitive" than men in many ways and therefore more likely to let our emotions fly. Men have this problem too, but most of what I see is coming from women.
It has been my experience that men can have a disagreement, have a knock down drag out fight in a bar, get up from the floor and buy each other a beer. With women, they scratch one another's eyes out and hate them for ever and ever, never to ever speak to them again. LOL
I want to say to women who are like this......GET OVER IT!
When we feel ourselves becoming emotional over something someone said or did, it is best to keep our emotions to ourselves until we have had time to evaluate them. Often we are interpreting what was said or how it was said in terms of how we are feeling at the time, rather than whether there was a good reason to be upset.
How do I know? I have done this myself, I have learned over the years that often our feelings are not a measure of reality. They deceive us, which is why the devil loves to mess with them. He can cause terrible actions and reactions on mere emotion alone, without rational thinking or valid reasons, breaking up friendships that were valued.
Women have complained for years that men messed up this world, look at it! I say to that, "it would be much worse if women were in control. A woman would have a bad hair day and push the nuke button, simply to show that no one is going to mess with her."
Women are far more prone to revenge than men are, I know I have lived 63 years and have seen it. There are some men who act like spoiled women, and this number is growing since so many men under 30 have been raised by women in divorce situations. But in past generations there were far fewer men who acted like this.
When we have an emotion, it is best to go back and take a look at what transpired to see if our emotion was based on something real or imagined. We have the ability to blow way out of proportion little things that mean nothing at closer inspection. The longer we go without evaluating an emotion, while nursing it, the less accurate it becomes. We build up in our mind, events much more severe than they really were and destroy all possibility of reconciliation, while rotting our own bones with bitterness and pride.
Proverbs 14:30 "A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones."
There is a lot we can ignore or let go, if we are more tolerant of personalities and human frailty. We never let sin go, and we remain honest, but flying off at the slightest provocation, shows that we are insecure and self absorbed, lacking understanding.
If someone is continually obtuse and destructive that is another matter, those are people we would rather not have as friends, but many times we are dealing with personalities, nothing to stress about, if our attitude is right we can even see the humor in our diversity and enjoy someone who expresses themselves differently than we do.
When we find ourselves having judged harshly the little things, it is good to repent, apologize and go on to determine to refuse to react, but rather evaluate first and respond with intelligence.
1 Peter 4:8 "Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins."
We must remember that our diverse personalities were given to us by God and are what makes life interesting. Each one has something to offer, with all our warts and flaws. Perhaps if we learn to see the humor in one another, we will actually enjoy those who might have otherwise been an irritant to us.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 "4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8 Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away."
Matthew 5:43-45 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.”
Mark 12:30-31 “And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”
The conclusion of the matter is this: LOVE!
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