A clue about a family structure of narcissism, is that all those who hear the gossip or hold grudges on behalf of others, never care about finding out the truth, they prefer to believe the gossip.
When asked to say why they are angry at their target they refuse to divulge the reason for their anger and contempt, probably because they are not sure they have a reason, but they want to be friends with the narcissist.
Please don't agonize over the loss of a friend who will listen to gossip without bothering to come and talk about it. How they come makes a difference too. If they love us they will come in humility desiring to hear our side of the story. If they are evil, they will come in an accusatory tone, hoping to catch us in something. Those who come in an accusatory tone, are not interested in finding truth, but only interested in injuring you further.
When asked to say why they are angry at their target they refuse to divulge the reason for their anger and contempt, probably because they are not sure they have a reason, but they want to be friends with the narcissist.
Please don't agonize over the loss of a friend who will listen to gossip without bothering to come and talk about it. How they come makes a difference too. If they love us they will come in humility desiring to hear our side of the story. If they are evil, they will come in an accusatory tone, hoping to catch us in something. Those who come in an accusatory tone, are not interested in finding truth, but only interested in injuring you further.
There is a pack mentality in human beings too. We seldom see a person who is willing to stand against the pack, never mind whether what they are doing is right or wrong. We see this in politics, families, churches, nearly every institution we deal with there is a pack mentality.
Pack Mentality: "1.The tendency for groups of individuals to act together without planned direction."
Mankind has a tendency to feel the need to fit into the pack. When the pack is doing something wrong, those who have somewhat of a conscience, will not want to do the evil, so they will sheepishly stand back to allow the pack to proceed, but never say a word to discourage the pack.
These spineless people are more concerned about being accepted than they are about truth and righteousness.
In the Psychological industry these followers of the pack who do not discourage the evil, are called "flying monkeys." They do whatever others want them to do, except when it may get them into trouble, then they employ a tactic called "plausible deniability." They do nothing to stop the pack, they do not leave the pack, but they stand in a corner as though they are not involved, able to say at the end of it, "I wasn't involved."
My take on the flying monkey, is this; if they are there and they said and did nothing to stop evil, then they are culpable for all that happened.
Pack Mentality: "1.The tendency for groups of individuals to act together without planned direction."
Mankind has a tendency to feel the need to fit into the pack. When the pack is doing something wrong, those who have somewhat of a conscience, will not want to do the evil, so they will sheepishly stand back to allow the pack to proceed, but never say a word to discourage the pack.
These spineless people are more concerned about being accepted than they are about truth and righteousness.
In the Psychological industry these followers of the pack who do not discourage the evil, are called "flying monkeys." They do whatever others want them to do, except when it may get them into trouble, then they employ a tactic called "plausible deniability." They do nothing to stop the pack, they do not leave the pack, but they stand in a corner as though they are not involved, able to say at the end of it, "I wasn't involved."
My take on the flying monkey, is this; if they are there and they said and did nothing to stop evil, then they are culpable for all that happened.
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