Remove the Noses From Others Marriages

I have adult children who have decided what I should be doing in my life. They judge me as a disrespectful and unsubmissive wife for occasionally saying no to my husband.

I love to please my husband, but I cannot agree with every single thing just as he does not always agree with me. Each of us must be considerate about the boundaries of others even in marriage. A truly loving marriage allows each partner to make their own choices based on personal convictions.

Never allow anyone else to dictate how we operate in our own marriages. Adult children who have chosen to judge us for not doing things their way, are dangerous to marriage relationships.

I was once treated with disrespect and contempt because my husband wanted to watch a movie I didn't feel I could watch. The excuse I was given for the contempt is that I should have watched the movie with my husband.

It wasn't any business of the adult children to decide what I should watch or whom I should watch it with. It was the business of the children to respect my choice to guard my own heart, even honoring me for having convictions.

When we are treated with contempt because we won't do what others want us to do, that is the time to walk away from those who will not honor our decisions for ourselves.

I love doing things with my husband, I love supporting him in things that do not violate my own conscience. However, I will never violate my own conscience to please anyone else, no matter what their reaction.

This was a classic example of scripture twisting that a woman should obey her husband in everything, even a movie, are you kidding me.. We are never called to do everything our husband wants us to do. We are called to obey God first and seek to help our husband in areas that do not violate our conscience or convictions.

To demean, mock, ignore and gossip about another person for not indulging in the same entertainment with their husband, is nothing more than devilish control. My husband has his line and I have my line, thankfully over the years the two lines came closer to the same place.

This however is none of the children's business. Adult children need to remove their noses from our business if they cannot refrain from judging others over our own choices within our own marriages.