I have gone on the internet to see if others are experiencing rejection from in-law daughters and daughters, I found hundreds of letters entitled, "I hate my mother in law."
I read some of them and they were so petty and hateful, I knew that it was our children's generation that somehow feel superior to or contempt for, their spouses parents. But I also notice that it was the women who were attempting to ruin relationships between their mother or mother in-law to isolate them from their families. There are some men who do this too, but the majority of the whining about mother's-in-law were coming from the daughter's in-law.
From all those letters I learned that there was no real reason except jealousy that the son or son-in-law would pay any attention to anyone other than their wives. The women of today in the "70's" generation are hell bent on destroying any relationship between their husband and his mother. I notice too that they don't bother with ruining the relationship with the father, it is the mother. It has to be the jealousy factor, that a petty wife cannot endure her husband loving anyone else but her, even if it's a mother. And, a petty woman cannot endure her father loving her mother.
I see this in adult daughters too, who attempt to turn their fathers against their mothers, even dreaming up reasons that do not exist, to show contempt and passing their version onto the husband and father as though it were fact.
It is demonic!
We knew this would happen, no matter how well we knew it, it still hurts and rejected mothers grieve. May that grief not diminish our walk but make us stronger and more resolute to obey Christ.
Luke 12:52-53 "…52 From now on, five in one household will be divided, three against two and two against three. 53 They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.”
Christ went through it too when Jerusalem rejected Him, He grieved because of their hate toward Him, He said we would go through the same contempt and rejection that He did.
Luke 19:41-42
Jesus Weeps over Jerusalem
"41 And when he drew near and saw the city, he wept over it, 42 saying, “Would that you, even you, had known on this day the things that make for peace! But now they are hidden from your eyes."
One blog out of many was written by a woman who shared how much she loved her mother-in-law, it was an Amish woman who had been raised to honor her elders, not only her own parents but the parents of her husband. What a blessing it was to see that ONE, in the pile of hundreds of mean spirited, ruthless and contemptuous diatribes by selfish and petty women.
When we become one in marriage, our spouses parents become our extended parents and worthy of as much love and respect as our own parents. My guess though is that those who treat their in-law parents badly, never treated their own parents with respect either. They may have preferred their own parents but never treated them with respect, or they would know how to treat their new extended parents.
I heard it said once by a non-believer that she could not call her husband's parents "Mom or Dad", because they were not her parents. This woman had no clue as to the melding together of two souls by Christ to make a couple one. The idea that "what was mine is now yours and what was yours is now mine", is not a concept familiar to this generation of selfish individualism. Sadly this same mentality is in the church, we have so called "Christians" calling their spouses parents by their first name, rejecting the idea of honor for those who hold the position of honor above them. These brats see no one as above them, no one worthy of respect, also allowing them to reject deference to anyone as a way of life. They are an entity unto themselves and everyone must bow to them. They are gods in their own hearts, those who do not worship them are to be punished.
Proverbs 17:10-12 …10 A rebuke goes deeper into one who has understanding Than a hundred blows into a fool. 11 A rebellious man seeks only evil, So a cruel messenger will be sent against him. 12 Let a man meet a bear robbed of her cubs, Rather than a fool in his folly.…
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