Perhaps it isn't because of our differing views or the fact that we blocked them, perhaps it's because we didn't become them, doing what they do, saying what they say and believing what they believe.
Controlling others is the aim of narcissists, they care very little about substance and truth, placing manipulation and control over rational thinking, they manage to go with "feelings" every time.
Their feelings dictate that they experience personal glory and elevation regularly from their targets, without it they turn into mush unable to function, so their tactic is to bring the target back into submission through overt and covert intimidation.
The more the narcissist can make another human being feel "less than", the better and more whole the narcissist feels.
There is a little of this in all of us, we must fight it, pray about it and asked to be cleansed of it. Today we live in a culture that is deeply narcissistic, in order to avoid feeding the beast in us, we must remove ourselves from the narc while filling our hearts and minds with the Word of God.
2 Timothy 3:1-5 "3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, 4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these."
This does not exclude those in the body of Christ who have chosen to emulate the world. Until the narc in the church learns humility, they must be avoided.
1 Corinthians 5:7 "5:7 Clean out the old yeast so that you may be a new batch of dough – you are, in fact, without yeast. For Christ, our Passover lamb, has been sacrificed."
John 3:29-30 "…29 The bride belongs to the bridegroom. The friend of the bridegroom stands by and listens for him, and is overjoyed to hear the bridegroom’s voice. That joy is mine, and it is now complete. 30 He must increase; I must decrease."
When a narcissist has turned from their arrogance and pride, then we must receive them back with gentleness and love to restore them. Let's not bypass the order which God has ordained by forgiving and receiving back before there is confession of sin. God's way is effective, unless we are dealing with a stubborn heart, then we must remove them until God has dealt with their heart.
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