The narcissist pokes at you on purpose to get you to become angry so they can accuse you of what they are, don't fall into the trap. Don't give back to them what they have done to you. Remove yourself to avoid the attacks that will continue to come as long as you allow it by remaining in their life.
Romans 12:18-19 "…18 If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but leave room for God’s wrath. For it is written: “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”
Politely ask them to stop, if they will not then remove yourself. When we remain with a clear conscience we are the winners.
I have an older brother who used to literally poke me in the arm when I was a young child. I would tell him to stop but he would do it again, I would again tell him to stop, then here it comes again, another poke. After the third time I would blow up in anger, shouting for him to stop, at which point he would say, "see how you are, you are out of control."
Nearly all of the people that have used these tactics on me have been extended family members. They have negated me at every turn to make themselves superior to me. What they don't know is that I don't care if they are superior or not, it has no meaning for me, its only important to them.
I have no need to be superior to anyone since Christ is the only One who is superior, He alone gets the glory, I have no need of glory nor do I have no need of placing glory on any other human being.
That brother never grew up, to this day he finds more subtle ways of doing the same pokes, that are covert, in an attempt to frustrate and get me to respond in anger. It doesn't work anymore because I am an adult and in Christ, knowing what he is doing. So, if I have to be around him, I don't respond, but mostly I stay away from him. He makes sure that others do not understand what is going on a sort of "plausible deniability", by cloaking his insults as a joke. Because I don't laugh, he accuses me of not being able to take a joke. This has been his tactic all his life, to make insults and meanness appear to be jokes so he can get away with his rudeness. Sadly, he doesn't realize that others see what he is doing and God sees, so he gets away with nothing.
When we are confident in Christ, we have no need to defend or explain ourselves. We can ignore the rudeness of ill mannered people and keep away from them whenever possible.
Proverbs 22:23-25 "…23 For the LORD will plead their case And take the life of those who rob them. 24 Do not associate with a man given to anger; Or go with a hot-tempered man, 25 Or you will learn his ways And find a snare for yourself."
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