Sometimes we have to block those who care only about arguing to win. There is no benefit in an unresolved argument that is deliberately to cause frustration in others.
We can see when there is argument to win, the tactics are quite clear. There is an elevated voice, a vitriolic response as well as
personal attacks on our character. A narcissist cannot feel whole and victorious until they have managed to reduce their victim to a puddle on the floor. Our defense and hurt feelings feeds this monster, they love it, it is their goal to reduce us any way they can.
When we see this happening it is time to wish the perp a nice day and remove ourselves. One of the favored tactics of the one who wishes to control the emotions of others is the desire to diminish their target through mocking and false accusations.
The Lord does not want us engaging in fruitless and foolish discussion as a competition. We are to engage in conversation to discover truth and come to a mutual understanding. When we cannot come to a respectful mutual understanding then we can remain friends, as long as the respect remains throughout the discussion.
When the respect is gone, so should we be gone.
I have actually been told by two family members that they didn't respect me, not because of anything I did to them, but because of gossip and that I would not be what they wanted me to be. When you find that you are being treated disrespectfully continually, that is our biggest clue it is time to end the relationship.
God never called us to remain friends with every believer that crosses our path. Nor are we commanded to remain friends with family just because they are family. We remain respectful and bold all the time, but we cannot walk on the path with someone who is hell bent on diminishing us merely to win in a conversation.
The devil wishes to silence us and cause fear of rejection in us. Ignore him, his time is short, his goal is destruction and we need not give into his tactics. Hallelujah!!!
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