Narcissists can not properly interpret what we say or do, not even facial expressions because they think that everyone thinks as they do.
They do not pay enough attention to others to know how to interpret words or actions.
A narcissist will not care to know anyone else to become close, they simply demand that everyone comply with their ways or they are rejected.
We see this in families, churches and politics.
This is not a matter of standing for righteousness, that's a different matter. Narcissists judge us a bad or evil if we do not follow their ideas that are not clearly defined in the Bible.
Often they extract passages of scripture from their context to justify what they wish to believe and then foist them on others as a matter of obedience or disobedience to God.
The narcissist leaves no freedom for others to view things differently from them, but mostly based on their own ideas not scriptural mandates or principles.
Those who attempt to bring scripture to the narcissist Christian will be met with rage and contempt. The subtle forms of these attitudes are seen in their dismissiveness of us, their silent treatment to punish and even mocking intimidation at times.
Never fear brothers and sisters, if you are doing what God has told you to do, walking in the Spirit and know what God has commanded you to say and do, then you are free to dismiss the rejection as being on the one who has chosen to attempt control over you.
These narcissistic tactics roll off of those who have eyes to see through spiritual discernment. However, it is an unpleasant experience to be in company with these self proclaimed guardians of tradition. We are free in Christ to avoid those who make a practice of judging our lives when the judgment is contrived and inaccurate.
Those of us who have been targets of jealous people love them even though they are mean, but we are not commanded to remain in their company, we have a choice to stay or to go unless it is marriage, then there is no choice. We can actually understand and know the tactics to be able to live with it day in and day out in peace.
May the Lord be the One to guide you as you seek Him for the specifics. Always look to yourself first to see what you might be doing. When you cannot see anything you have done, then leave the narcissist to the Lord and carry on to do what is right no matter what the response.
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