Every time a particular arguer would write her own opinion I would respond with a Scripture that refuted what she said. She and another troll would repeat their opinions as though they were fact.
I would come back with only a Scripture to bring clarity. After several times like that I was told that I must be very simple minded that I couldn't think with my own mind.
When we witness this we know there is no rational thinking going on. When someone feels a need to attack our intelligence or integrity to demean, we know they have no answers for God's truths, causing them to resort to personal attacks.
Narcissists know that most people begin to feel defensive and even angry when they are personally attacked. The goal of the narcissist is to cause a blow up in us so they can say, "see how you are, angry and mean spirited." This is a trick often used by those who wish to discredit us. As soon as we blow in anger they count themselves as having won even though they were the provokers.
This is why God tells us how to respond to fools, He says:
Proverbs 26:4-5 "4 Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be like him. 5 Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he become wise in his own eyes.…"
The only answer for the fool is a non-answer, silence to allow them to see only themselves. If you respond in anger the fool sees only our anger and elevates himself in response to it.
We know someone is foolish when they run out of arguments and resort to name calling or lies to make you the villain.
Do not allow these bullies to intimidate or manipulate you into wrong behavior. God is clear that a fool does not deserve a response when they have crossed this line into personal attacks.
When we realize we are in company with those who have a propensity to fight to win rather than discuss to come to the truth, then we know this is an exercise in futility to even engage with them.....ever!! Get away from these people and stay away from them.
Those of us who have had lots of experience with narcissists understand that they will never listen, they don't want to learn anything, they only wish to dominate. They do not hear anything we say, they are like rabid dogs, there is no rational thinking occurring, only snaps and snarls to intimidate.
1 Corinthians 15:33-34 " 33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 34 Sober up as you ought, and stop sinning; for some of you are ignorant of God. I say this to your shame."
Bullies can make us sin by pushing buttons in us that cause frustration. We must choose to see the truth of what they are doing and refuse to take anything they say or do personally as well as never responding to their nonsense. When I see that someone is baiting me, I never stay in the same room with them again, nor do I go to functions in which these people are elevated by those in the gathering.
Those who enjoy the bullies are enablers, perhaps even enjoying the antics of the bully. These people are also bullies by proxy. They endorse the actions of the bully by their silence. Stay away from these people too.
James 4:17
"So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin."
Philippians 3:2
"Look out for the dogs, look out for the evildoers, look out for those who mutilate the flesh."
Deuteronomy 31:6 "6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”
Ephesians 6:12 "12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms."
Proverbs 22:10 "10 Drive out the mocker, and out goes strife; quarrels and insults are ended."
It is good to remain silent in the face of a mocker and reviler to let God be our defender. We need not see results, we must have faith that God will take care of us.
Psalm 138:7 "7 Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life. You stretch out your hand against the anger of my foes; with your right hand you save me."
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