Being Alone With Christ is a Blessing

A Response to those who have difficulty with the idea that they might be alone the rest of their lives after divorce, is as follows:

We can do whatever we like, but if we want to obey Christ then we might want to pray and ask Him, while studying His principles in the Word of God to find His heart.

God has a reason for His commandments, all we have to do is desire His heart.

Its not a matter of whether we can or we cannot, its a matter of how much we want to please God.

I have known several women who remained unmarried their entire lives, some never married, some were married and their husbands died and others were divorced. They all chose to remain unmarried and were happy and fulfilled.

One does not have to have a spouse to be full of the joy of the Lord. In fact marriage always brings with it trials.

1 Corinthians 7:8 " 8 Now to the unmarried and widows I say this: It is good for them to remain unmarried, as I am."

The better way is to remain unmarried, one is freer to pursue the life they wish to live in Christ when they are the only ones making the decision.

Often spouses prevent their mates from doing things for the Lord they wish they could do. They also dictate other things. Being alone gives one the freedom to choose all their activities, their prayer time and even companions.

When we are married we must allow for the desires of a spouse, that may not even be what we think should be done. Singleness is not a curse its a blessing when we are sold out to Christ.

Paul said that marriage is good as long as it is within God's principles, that being a lawful marriage between two people who have never been married before or who have been married but their spouse has died.

1 Corinthians 7:10 "10 But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband 11 (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife."

1 Corinthians 7:27-28 "27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28 But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you. "

These verses are words from God, not my words.

Christ was very clear that if we have a living spouse and we are divorced then we are bound to that spouse until one of us dies. God used a spiritual glue to bind two people into one, no man can undo that union, it is only in death that it is released.

Mark 10:8-9 "8 and the two shall become one flesh; so they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”"

The rendering here is not "let no man separate", but rather it is "no man can separate." What God has done no man can undo.