Once we have made the vow with someone in marriage we must keep it. We must live with the consequences of our choices for the rest of our lives or until that spouse dies.
Also lets not forget that some spouses become born again and there is a transformation in the wayward spouse. I was not born again when I married, I married a person who was not because I was not.
Then over a couple of years I trusted Christ, I prayed for ten years for my spouse and he became born again too. We have a wonderful marriage today but those first years as a believer married to an unbeliever were not easy.
Remaining married because neither of us believed in divorce allowed us to get through the hard stuff until we got our heads straight.
We have been married 48 years now having made it through everything, learning many lessons and growing better than we were before.
Marriage is not about bliss, its about sludging through the hard stuff to get to the victory and blessing. Now we are in our senior years. We do not regret the "boot camp" we went through or the steadfastness in our marriage. And, in eternity I believe our decision will count as all the good deeds of believer will count.
We didn't do it perfectly, we failed many times, fell, grabbed our boot straps and got up again to start over. That's what marriage is for everyone. Those who do not believe they have had this in their lives are pretending.
We need to teach our young people getting married that there will be difficult times, perhaps even devastating things but they do not have to destroy what we are building.
When a bridge is sagging we do not tear down the whole bridge, we brace up the part that needs strengthened. Marriage is constant building until the day one of us dies.
Our resolve to remain married and resist impulses to give up will count in eternity. For those who have already divorced, confessed it and carry on to be obedient again, that too will count in eternity.
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