A Good Age to Get Married

A sister in Christ asked the question, "what is a good age to get married."

My answer was this: "I was engaged to my husband when I was 16. We waited until I was 18 to get married so he could finish college but we didn't live together in those days.

We basically grew up together. When people wait too long to marry they become independent and staunch in their ways. The people who wait until they are older to marry miss those simple things in growing together in one's youth.

In our day children are less mature because they play way too long. 

1 Corinthians 13:10-11 "…10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away. 11 When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things.

Proverbs 5:18 "18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth: "

When we were young everything was an adventure.
We had little money and within a couple of months, we had a baby on the way. We didn't think we were poor because we had enough.

We didn't believe in divorce because of the Catholic church and later we didn't believe in it when we became born again and read the Bible.

I was saved first and about 10 years later my husband became saved and we left the Catholic church.

For us life wasn't about anything else except spending life together and having a family, that was our pleasure. We didn't need contrived adventures because life was our adventure.
After finding Christ the adventure of life became even more full."

To expound a little more I might have added to this that nowadays children are raised to be selfish, they want to "play" all the time viewing marriage and children as something to be avoided until they have had enough fun. As though life is over and nothing is enjoyable anymore after you get married with the responsibilities of a family. We never saw family as a bore or something to avoid. We loved just living life in a normal fashion without fancy things or wild activities.

This makes me sad to see the joy young people are missing just in their relationships and families because I know the joy that came with building a family in the beginning. Life was enjoyable just for normal life activities, we didn't need more than that.

Nowadays children are not happy unless they're doing something big and expensive. They don't seem to be able to enjoy the simple things.

If just one young couple could learn from this and dial back their desire to have worldly adventures, they would see how happy they can be without anything more than companionship and daily family activities.

Perhaps God will take away all the expensive play activities and remind people that it isn't money that satisfies, its the building of relationships and working together for something of value.