The Accusations of the Narcissist

When a narcissist accuses you of things you are doing it is likely you are not doing them but the narcissist is engaged in them. Remember all the bad traits of the narcissist he attempts to place on others before anyone gets a chance to see them in him.

 
When a narcissist says "you are selfish" they are describing themselves. Usually, this accusation comes after you have done something kind for someone. They hate to see our joy and the joy of the receiver, they would like to think of themselves as the one who does kind deeds even though they never do or they do them rarely to gain something for themselves.

 
It is good to evaluate ourselves and the reasons for our good deeds. It matters to God whether or not we do them because we love Him and the receiver of the kindness.

 
Those deeds that are done in the flesh to gain accolades for ourselves will not count with God. Those deeds done in secret to be pleasing God, are the ones that count with God.

 
Matthew 6:1-4
“Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven. “Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you."

Colossians 3:17
"And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him."

When we meditate on God's Word daily, then is when we see clearly the way God wants us to operate in the world and the way we ought to be thinking, how we think drives why we do things.