A sister in Christ shared with me that she had been called "Satan" because of the scripture she wrote to this woman concerning divorce and remarriage. I shared with this sister what has happened to me over the years.
I have been rejected by most family members and their spouses over this matter of divorce and remarriage.
One has to ask the question, how could obeying God with the highest standard be evil? Those who defend divorce and remarriage are looking to justify sin. They are defending sin rather than looking to glorify God.
This is what I shared with my sister in Christ:
I had my personal character attacked by someone who knows nothing about my life because of this matter of divorce and remarriage. This has happened a number of times but this person was good friends with a rebellious family member.
When they do not have a good argument against what we have said they move on to mocking and intimidation to shame us, even claiming things about our character in generalities without evidence, merely to discredit us.
This is a sure sign they have lost the discussion when they move into personal character attacks in generalities.
They don't give any specifics about us, what we did, what we said; they simply say; "you are mean", "you said that in a mean way", "it was the tone of your voice", yes I even got that last one from typing on the internet. LOL
They will say; "you were a bad mother", this one is based on gossip. "You were not kind", when asked if they could tell me the details of how bad I was as a mother and how I was unkind, they end the conversation by saying; "I just can't talk to you."
When we have been open about our beliefs and it is counter to the culture we can expect the devil to infiltrate into the minds of rebellious people making them think they have a good reason to hate us.
What the "devil-influenced" people don't understand is that we are strong enough to ask for details and willing to hear them. They count on us melting into a puddle on the floor in shame, making them feel they were right. When we do not melt into a puddle on the floor and kindly and gently ask for details that they do not have, they quickly shut down all communication and withdraw from the conversation.
When this happens do not go back and attempt to reopen the discussion. If they are ever ready to evaluate their stance they will come back with a different more willing heart to discuss openly and honestly what the problem has been.
However, it is not likely that they will come back, it almost never does. Our response to people who "hit and run" is to let them go and move on with our lives.
Attempting to reason with an irrational angry person is the same as pounding our heads against a brick wall. All that happens is we get a bad headache and they feel empowered to come back to have another run at shaming us.
Love them from afar, pray for the rebellious person, but keep your distance. The idea that we must be in their lives to influence them only works if they can be influenced. It is foolishness to continue pounding our heads into the brick wall when the brick wall cannot be moved.
All the "good arguments" in the world will not move a brick wall, you keep getting bloody and the brick wall has not moved.
Matthew 7:6
"Do not give dogs what is holy; do not throw your pearls before swine. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces."
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline."
Proverbs 9:7
"He who corrects a mocker brings shame on himself; he who rebukes a wicked man taints himself."
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