Never Wrestle With a Pig

Narcissists create shame in their own hearts because they know the mean things they do to others.

They keep doing mean things over and over again attempting to get a reaction that absolves them of the shame caused by all they do to their targets. They must pretend their target is a bad person to relieve the guilt of their mean behavior.

There is a strange phenomenon in the mind of the bully. They think if they poke at their target long enough the target will blow up in anger and prove they are as bad as the narcissists know they are, only they do not admit their own sin, they place it on the target for blowing up.

This is why God said; "do good to those who mistreat you." We must remain innocent in our own hearts while the narcissist has only themselves to see.

Luke 6:27-28 "27But to those of you who will listen, I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you."

It is good to avoid those who are bullies, perhaps telling them the truth once and then walking away if they do not receive the correction.

2 Timothy 3:1-5 tells us what a bully looks like in these end days and what to do about them in verse 5; "avoid them."

The main objective is to remain in the Spirit, demonstrating love, joy, peace, gentleness, kindness, longsuffering, and self-control, no matter what the bully is doing.

We are not to throw our pearls before swine, meaning we are not to continue to attempt to convince a stubborn person. Allow them to think they have won by refusing to engage or answer their foolishness.

When we know that God sees it all and has our back we do not feel the need to win an argument with anyone.

We do not have to forfeit our personality, our beliefs, or anything else to the narcissist through fear, however, we are wiser to disengage with the narcissist and leave them to swim in their own mud.

Matthew 7:6 " 6 Do not give dogs what is holy; do not throw your pearls before swine. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces."

Someone once said; "never wrestle with a pig in the mud, they love it and you'll just get dirty."